First, do not please, do not fight. When the other person is disheartened and has made up his mind, many people feel that they should be inclusive and always please each other. In fact, such behavior not only fails to impress the other party, but also makes the other party feel that you are unattractive, boring, and even less emboldened and valuable. So if you can't please, you have to fight? Of course, it is not allowed. Your confronTAtion with ta at this time will only escalate the contradiction between you. TA may pull down all your contact information in a rage, and it will be even harder to recover it then. The correct way is to understand the idea that TA wants to leave and ask the other party to give you some time to think it over. Hello, I'm Yu, a marriage counselor. I have been focusing on the marriage counseling industry for many years, and have served as a special mediation expert for Shenzhen Metropolitan Channel's "First Mediation" for many times. Thank you for reading and meeting me through this article. I have been engaged in emotional counseling for many years and found that many terminally ill marriages are "dragged out", which is attributed to the lack of reasonable and effective methods when many people encounter marriage problems, which leads to more and more serious problems. To this end, I specially made the following card. If you are not sure about your emotional problems, you can click on the card below to get contact information for detailed consultation and analysis. Partners in need can click to get it.
Second, don't rush to ask many lobbyists to do their best. After the other party still loves to answer, he thinks about moving reinforcements everywhere and mobilizing relatives and friends around him to take turns to convince TA. You think that TA will look at the Buddha instead of the monk, and one more person will gain more strength, but in fact this will only increase the pressure on TA. Under the action of rebellious psychology, TA will even think that leaving you is the right choice. Besides, this is originally between you two. Maybe TA used to care about the face in front of relatives and friends. After you let everyone know, TA may completely exile herself and be more rude to you.
Third, no matter who is right or wrong, problems in marriage must be the result of accumulation, such as quarrels day after day, long-term contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and widening value gap. However, one party's cheating, dating and chatting are just the process of detonating marriage problems. If you insist on putting all the responsibilities on each other, you may never get the marriage you want. Maybe you stand on the moral high ground and force the other party to return to China temporarily, but who wants to live at home with his head down like a sinner, and one day TA will still escape. What you really want is the other person's heart back, not the other person's, so it is the key to solve your own problems and let TA see the hope of marriage in you. If you are experiencing a major crisis of marriage and feelings and need professional help, you can click on the card below to get the consultation contact information, conduct detailed consultation and analysis, and make your own intimate relationship repair plan.
Fourth, don't write bad checks. Many people will ask, "Why should I promise TA that I will change? I have changed a lot, but TA still doesn't forgive me and insists on leaving me? " When you ask carefully, you often find that they are just talking, and there is not much real change. When repairing a marriage, what the other party wants to see most is not your retention, but your change. If you can't make up your mind to make a change, then don't promise the other party what you can't do. If you really want to repair your marriage, you must first set short-term goals for yourself. You can finish reading a book about communication between husband and wife, go home early every day to help your children with their homework, or take some time to exercise every day ... When you take action, you will find that doing these little things well is much more useful than verbally promising "I will be good to you all my life" and "I will change".
Don't complain in front of your children. Maybe because you spend more time with your children, the feelings between your children and you have deepened. So in this marriage crisis, children always turn to you for help, so you complain to your children intentionally or unintentionally, and as a result, the gap between children and each other is getting deeper and deeper. However, children are actually eager for each other's love, and the lack of this relationship will affect their future outlook on life, world view and love and marriage. In any case, as the one who spends more time with children, you should be a bridge between children and each other, so that the parent-child relationship will be affected as little as possible by the marriage crisis. At the same time, a good parent-child relationship will be more conducive to each other's return to the family. Sixth, don't copy other people's repair steps. Generally, when people start to repair their marriage, they will first search for similar cases online and then follow their steps to save it. The problem is that there are no two identical marriages in the world. Your age, love duration, mode of getting along, emotional concentration, conflict concentration, etc. Will affect the role of marriage repair strategy. What you can really refer to is why others need to do that, not copy it. There are many ways to repair marriage, but there is no one-size-fits-all routine. If your efforts are fruitless, try to consult a professional marriage counselor.
Write at the end: the final effect described in this article varies from person to person. Because everyone's growth environment, personality, understanding and handling methods are different, problems, emotional experiences, partners or affairs are variables, and the dry goods and some cases we provide may not be applicable to you. What should I do in the process of repairing intimate relationships? I can't fix the framework with words. If you are suffering from marriage confusion, you may wish to contact us and let us help you solve the thorny marriage problem.