Let me talk about my situation first. On a similar topic, he has been unemployed for nearly a year, and the exam compilation has been postponed. Compared with the topic, my disadvantages may be: I am old (about 35 years old), my married baby has limited energy, and my career direction is not clear after job-hopping. Advantages may include: family support and a certain economic foundation.
Background and current situation: I started preparing for the exam full-time in July last year, and I took the exam for the first time, almost over the age limit. I bet all my money on exams and study from morning till night. Unexpectedly, it was delayed for nearly half a year. Although the written test is finished now, the results are still far away. I don't know if I can get in, and I'm afraid to find a full-time job. The part-time job I can find is a new field and I need to prepare from scratch. And I seem to have been exhausted and weak by the exam. I just want to be paralyzed in Ge You every day and do nothing. The efficiency of study and work is extremely low, and economic progress cannot be made. I am under great psychological pressure. I blame myself, doubt myself and deny myself every day. I feel worthless, and in the long run, I will even lose my appetite and get thinner.
So I went to a counselor, and I thought I might be depressed. As a result, she said no, it's just a difficult period that everyone may go through. Give yourself more time and patience, and don't be too hard on yourself.
So I asked, how can we get out of this period as soon as possible? I think I'm in a really bad state now.
A: There is no way. Just bear it.
Me: endure? But it's too painful.
A: That also needs to be endured. Life is hard. Everyone is eager for success and a good job, but it is not easy. It takes eighty-one difficulties for Tang Priest to learn from the scriptures. Why can you go ashore without suffering?
Me: But I can't do anything every day, and I feel particularly useless.
A: Being in a bad state is also part of the pain. Accept it. No one can keep in good shape all the time. Accepting that you are in a bad state is also a part of life.
Me: I seem to know a little about this realm. Think of bad state as a kind of practice? Learning to live in stress and anxiety is also a very important ability?
A: You are very open-minded.
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After this consultation, I still feel very tired every day, but I feel more accepted and more resilient. You can't finish three tasks in one day, you can only do one, and you can do other things at other times. Although you are still blaming yourself, consider it a kind of practice. My state has not improved much at present, but I feel more energetic every day.
Specifically, during this time, I did the following things:
1. Find a part-time job and actively engage in it. Although inefficient, I still insist on it every day. I think the most important thing for the subject is to find a job, whether full-time or part-time, so that anxiety and stress will be alleviated. The teacher's words should not be hard to find. You can adjust your expectations appropriately, find a job first, and then slowly change to a better one.
2. Sports, especially group sports. Exercise is the best way to overcome negative emotions. Without it, you can keep fit, improve your face value and make friends. I chose street dance, and the subject can choose the way that suits him.
3. Other hobbies. Some people say that reading is not recommended at this time (of course, it may only apply to yourself), because it is not easy to read by yourself when you are anxious and stressed. You'd better go out more and meet people. You can learn a lot of positive energy from interacting with different people, which is conducive to improving the overall state and energy field. My hobby is gardening. I grow a lot of flowers and take good care of them every day. When I grow a flower and a leaf, I am very happy. You can also exchange experiences with your neighbors and online flower friends, so that you can temporarily forget the pain of not having a job.
During this time, my Petunia and millions of Xiaoling are all blooming brilliantly.
Finally, to sum up, I think there are five things that are most effective in adjusting the state during this period: keeping a correct attitude, looking for a job, exercising, hobbies and communicating with people. I hope it will also be helpful to the subject. Let's go