There are indeed some theories about self-identity in psychology. In terms of personal mental health, we also attach great importance to the significance of self-identity to people's growth. I can see from your expression that you are a friend who is interested in psychology.
This is worthy of recognition.
I am a psychological counselor, and share my views on self-identity with my personal experience.
I hope my answer can help you.
I hope you can understand that this word is an academic term in psychology. The emergence of an academic term was obtained through the investigation and study of countless scientists.
We are curious about the concept of a word, so the rigorous approach is not to guess its literal meaning subjectively by feeling, but to find the answer rationally.
"Self-identity" is a concept first put forward by American psychologist Erickson, also known as "self-identity". "
Self-identity refers to a unified personality framework in which people's needs, emotions, abilities, goals and values are integrated. That is, a person has self-consistent emotions and attitudes, self-consistent needs and abilities, and self-consistent goals and beliefs. Then we can call such people self-identified.
In the more distant past, Wang Yangming, a philosopher in China, put forward a similar view, that is, the unity of knowledge and action.
People with self-identity have the following specific characteristics:
To understand the concept of self-identity and integrate it into the construction of self-psychology, we must understand the antonym of self-identity.
Only in this way can we avoid the negative impact of self-confusion in the process of self-exploration. Make yourself a healthier and happier person.
Self-identity is the opposite of "self-identity", which is called "self-identity confusion" in psychology.
Identity confusion is also called "identity diffusion".
Self-identity obstacle refers to a phenomenon of identity failure in the process of people seeking self-identity.
If a person is confused about self-identity, the following problems will appear:
Self-identity obstacle is a psychological contradiction that is easy to appear during our growth.
People who fall into the confusion of self-identity are prone to psychological problems if they can't recognize themselves in time and actively build themselves. Such as depression, anxiety and social disorder. ...
We need to go through a long process of discovery from birth to gradual independence.
No one can learn self-identity from the womb.
In other words, the establishment of self-identity has a development stage from scratch. If we, as educators and caregivers, can clearly know the critical period of self-identity, we can help the next generation to become better themselves.
The concept of "self-identity" was formed in adolescence.
We always say "young and ignorant" and "young and ignorant", in fact, it means that adolescence is a mature process, with confusion and problems.
If parents don't cultivate teenagers' self-identity at this stage, it will affect their interpersonal communication, career development and attitude towards life in adulthood.
Therefore, it is necessary to attach importance to the cultivation of young people at this stage. Never take it lightly.
At the same time, if our adolescent regret has been cast, we should not give up on ourselves because of it, but work harder to build ourselves.
Only in this way can we have a chance to be better ourselves.
According to your question, Xiao Liu gives several specific suggestions, hoping to help you:
When establishing self-identity, we should be alert to the confusion of self-identity, so we should have a clear understanding of ourselves. If a person doesn't know himself, how can he change himself and make himself better?
It takes time to know yourself.
Rome was not built in a day.
So you need to be patient with yourself.
I suggest you take some time to have a frank conversation with yourself. You can write with pen and paper. When I face myself.
All your strengths and weaknesses can be sorted out calmly. Write down your strengths and weaknesses. Looking back on your whole growth process, talking to yourself will help you build up your self-awareness better.
When you can rationally face your own good and bad, you can completely accept yourself.
This is the basis of realizing self-identity.
People who lack self-identity are often immersed in all kinds of regrets about the past, regretting their past failures and constantly blaming themselves.
I don't know. The more negative psychological hints I give myself, the easier it is to draw a prison.
When the opportunity of life appears in front of you, you will miss the opportunity to change your life's destiny because of deep powerlessness and doubt.
So, learn to let go and you can start over.
Establish a complete life goal for yourself. Clean up your mood, accumulate your ability from scratch, and don't be defeated by laziness.
Don't accumulate steps, take Wan Li Road.
If there is no small stream, there will be no river.
The most terrible thing in life is to comfort yourself that you are ordinary and valuable while knowing that you are mediocre.
People are people with social attributes.
The formation of our self is often inseparable from the evaluation of others. Therefore, shaping self-identity must not be done behind closed doors. Only by establishing your own social circle can you know yourself better from other people's feedback.
People who lack self-identity will have more or less social obstacles, and are often overly sensitive to interpersonal communication, fearing that others will have negative comments on themselves.
So I suggest you listen to others' feedback on your evaluation and communicate with others more. Don't blindly follow or close yourself, get to know more like-minded friends and cultivate some hobbies. Make your day full and meaningful.
Don't live yourself as an island.
Face the world with an inclusive and sincere heart.
Everyone will be confused about "who am I" at different times, and will beat around the bush in the maze of the soul, but dear friends, please never give up hope, because this process is only a test of growth, when you get out of this thorny road.
You will really grow up.
Self-identity is a sign of a person's self-awareness and one of the main yardsticks to measure a person's emotional intelligence. Only by establishing a relatively full sense of self-identity can we effectively build self-confidence and self-esteem. Self-confidence and self-esteem are important psychological foundations for a person to achieve success and happiness.
By forming self-identity, people know who they are and what position they should occupy in society. It is an important task for everyone to form self-identity in youth, and it is also the main contradiction to be solved in the process of personal development.
To put it simply, self-identity is: the self that individuals understand in a reflective way according to their personal experiences. The process in which individuals form self-reflection and people form self-identity through internal force and internal frame of reference. The individual is the self that is understood through reflection according to the individual experience. "Self-identity" assumes the existence of reflective perception. But self-identity is not given, but the result of the continuation of individual action system, which must be created and maintained routinely in individual reflection activities.
First of all, about the relationship between "self-identity" and body. He thinks that the ego is of course embodied by the body. The body is an object, a source of health and happiness endowed or destined by self-consciousness, but also a hotbed of disease and tension. Self is the perception of body contour and characteristics, and the real origin of creative exploration of the world, because self is the undertaker of self-value. The body is not only an "entity", but also an action system, that is, it is experienced as a practical mode to deal with external situations and events. In daily life, the embedding of the body is the basic way to maintain a coherent sense of self-identity.
Secondly, the relationship between self-identity and sense of shame, dignity and pride. Shame is the negative of the actor's incentive system. Dignity and pride are full of confidence in the narrative integrity and value of self-identity. This is because pride is rooted in social ties and constantly impacted by other people's reactions, while humiliation comes from the tense relationship between pride and one's body under the gaze of onlookers. Shame is rooted in the failure to realize the expectation of constructing self-ideal, and guilt is an anxiety that will arise as long as it violates the constraints of superego. Obviously, the existence of shame and guilt is closely related to the self-presupposition of the ideal self.
So to establish self-identity, we should do the following:
First of all, the ego can be regarded as a reflective projection of the individual responsible for implementation. Self-reflection projection is the result of individual reflexive consciousness; Without reflexive consciousness, self has no meaning and value. For example, such self is not a completely empty thing. Individuals have self-shaping efficiency process and psychological needs, and they provide parameters for self-reorganization. So, on the one hand, personal changes are subject to him! She participated in the reconstruction work; On the other hand, a person not only knows himself, he! She is bound by a broader and more progressive goal, that is, to build and rebuild a coherent sense of identity.
Second, the self has shaped the growth trajectory from the past to the foreseeable future. Individuals "screen" past life experiences according to their own (organized) expectations for the future, and follow past experiences. The trajectory of the self is coherent, which stems from the self's cognition of each stage of the life cycle.
Third, self-reflection is persistent and ubiquitous. Every moment, or at least every once in a while, individuals constantly ask themselves questions according to what is happening. As the beginning of a series of conscious questions, individuals are used to asking "How can I make use of this moment of protection"? This is the "reflective historicity" of modernity and self-observation's practical art: for example, what am I doing? How do I feel?
Fourthly, self-identity as a coherent phenomenon is set as narrative. In order to make this narrative vivid and maintain a complete sense of self, the writing and reading of diaries and autobiographies has become one of the main means for individuals to seek and establish self-identity in modern social life. Because growing up, I need to find my own shadow in celebrities or successful people and call myself to make creative investments.
Fifth, self-realization means controlling time. Keeping a dialogue with time is the foundation of self-realization, because at any given moment, it is the basic condition for making life perfect. In other words, the process of self-realization is accompanied by the expectation of possible life trajectories in the future. In other words, it shows the self-questioning process of how a person grasps his own life course. This is because time is the starting point of self-consciousness, human life must be carried out in time, and human life consciousness is sublimated through experience in time. People's self-development and various needs are always generated in time, and people's growth is bound to go through the separation period (the physical self is independent from the mother), the mirror period (looking at themselves like a mirror through others), the gender period (establishing the rules of the game in life or life) and the continuous generation period of the ideal self, all of which are promoted in time. Therefore, most people who can realize themselves are people who "control time" and "keep dialogue with time". This is the reality of self-realization, because time is always the basic condition for making life perfect. Therefore, people with self-realization consciousness should not waste their good time. Only in this way can they face the future as orderly as possible through the active process of time control and positive interaction. On this basis, the integrity of self-narrative can be established.
Sixth, self-reflection also extends to the body, and the body becomes a part of action, not a passive object. Because the experience of the body is a means to connect the self into a whole, only by obtaining this means can we say: this is the place where I live.
Seventh, self-realization can be understood as the balance between opportunities and risks. Since self-realization is a balance between opportunities and risks, at both ends of this balance, one is to seize opportunities and the other is to avoid risks. In reality, countless personal experiences tell us that no matter how tortuous and full of hardships life is for you, as long as you want to improve your destiny, you must go beyond convention, meet new people, explore new ideas and try strange roads. In a sense, the risk involved in self-growth is to enter unknown areas and unknown places. It can be seen that it is risk and self-challenge that improve self-worth, and behavior makes your self-realization value ideal go further.
Eighth, the moral clue of self-realization is honesty, and its basis is "being honest with yourself". Being able to act credibly is not only based on self-knowledge that is as effective and perfect as possible; It also means freeing the true self from the troubles of the false self. Because being true to yourself means discovering yourself, which helps to build yourself actively.
Ninth, because life can be seen as a series of "transitions". Then coordinate the changes between these constant "transitions" and deal with the hope risks contained in these constant "transitions" in order to obtain new opportunities opened by personal crisis. In the face of a series of "transitions" in life, individuals should enter the track of self-realization and reflective mobilization in time, and can only be crossed according to this track.
Tenth, the line of self-development is internal reference: the only significant clue is the life track itself. As a credible self, the personal integrity of achievement comes from the arrangement of life experience in self-development narrative. This is the creation of a personal belief system, which provides a means for individuals to be loyal to themselves for the first time. From the way individuals construct and reconstruct their life history, the key reference point "comes from the inside".
Self-identity can be simply explained as being able to accept yourself without complaining about some of your shortcomings when you know your appearance, body shape, personality, hobbies, pursuits, behaviors and shortcomings. Love the pursuit of life, can independently realize self-worth, and affirm self-achievement in society.
Self-identity will not be obvious until adulthood or independent entry into society.
Before entering the society as a minor or independently, the individual usually lives in study or with the help and protection of his parents. I have never faced the pressures and setbacks in my life independently. At the same time, they are busy receiving, sharing and using all kinds of social information, and few people will calm down to understand themselves, analyze themselves and identify themselves.
Once it is time to face life and society independently, the ego will have fear, confusion, emptiness and anxiety. I found that I don't know myself at all, and I don't know how to be myself. What's your specialty, what occupation you should be engaged in, where you should go and what kind of job you should look for. These characteristics require the self to enter the society with fear and learn to correct his cognition.
Self-identity must be based on self-judgment of life, morality and value. Everyone's living environment, academic knowledge, experience and hobbies are different, which has created a variety of personalities. There are also differences in the life they pursue.
Apply what you have learned from school and society. Analyze your own advantages and disadvantages, understand your own needs and hobbies, and accept various evaluations from others. Correct your habits and shortcomings. If you can't correct it, choose to accept it. Be more sure of your decisions and judgments. Dare to participate in various activities, try new jobs and new things, not afraid of failure and humiliation. No one is perfect, whether it is the dark side or the sunny side of the self, we must face it frankly.
For example, go to the mall to buy T-shirts, including round T-shirts and V-shaped T-shirts. When trying it on, friends or shopping guides suggest you wear a V-shaped T-shirt. And personally, I think the round one is more suitable for you. And I chose to buy a round T-shirt and followed my wishes. This phenomenon is a kind of self-identity.
For example, as a man, your height is only 1.63 meters, and your colleagues and girlfriends dislike your short stature. But by observing and comparing social groups. I don't feel short, and I won't feel inferior because others say you are short. Instead, I feel that this body is very healthy and energetic. This psychological phenomenon is a kind of self-identification with one's own body.
Self-identity is the change of various needs, the recognition and rejection of physiological phenomena, and the satisfaction and abandonment after the combination of body and mind. Constantly correct and accept, and improve yourself.
Self-identity is a continuous, long-term and even lifelong thing. This is because our living environment and social environment are constantly changing. The people or things I need to deal with are constantly changing. The ego will constantly doubt itself and will constantly affirm itself. Constantly adjust the way things are handled.
In short, self-identity is no matter what kind of environment you face, what kind of life is bumpy. Everyone can use their own will and methods to solve and face problems.
Life is long, don't deny yourself because of temporary setbacks.
I am ignorant, I hope my answer will make you gain something.
Self-identity is actually the continuous shaping of self-value. And self-worth is also the basis of one's self-confidence. When you feel that you are particularly suitable for doing something, you will naturally have confidence. The question is how to build self-identity, in other words, how to build self-confidence. Well, in my opinion, confidence can be divided into two levels. One is self-confidence in a certain aspect of something, which is actually something that one can realize and perceive only after adulthood, and the other is fundamental self-confidence, or a sense of self-worth. In life and work, we may find that some people have no confidence in doing anything and are always unwilling to bear the consequences of making decisions independently. In the crowd, he always curled himself up in the most inconspicuous corner, so we can think that such a person's confidence actually comes from his childhood.
Self-identity refers to being able to look at and accept oneself and the outside world rationally, being full of vitality, loving life, not being immersed in lamentation, complaint or regret, striving for progress, being active and independent, having a clear life goal, and experiencing self-worth and social recognition and identity in the process of pursuing and gradually approaching the goal. The most important thing is an affirmation of oneself, showing a natural self-confidence attitude.
To establish self-identity, you can operate from the following aspects:
First: affirm yourself. When you choose to do something, you should affirm yourself in time, believe that you are the best, and agree with your performance in your heart.
Second: Don't be ashamed. Many people are often ashamed of their performance, but there is no need to be ashamed, whether it is for people or things.
Third: believe in yourself. I believe I can achieve something, I can achieve something, my present job is the best, and my future must be great.
Fourth: communicate with people more. In the process of communication, you can make your heart interact with others, so that you can easily accept others and find your heart in their eyes.
The above is my answer, I hope it will help you.
Self-identity: self-confirmation, feeling that everything is reasonable, is just a psychological feeling.
How to build: make today better than yesterday.
Erickson pointed out that the establishment of self-identity and the prevention of social role confusion (that is, the confirmation of self-identity) are important development tasks for teenagers.
Self-identity is a stable consciousness about who an individual is and what his values and ideals are. Everyone is exploring and trying to establish a stable self-identity in his youth, that is, self-identity. I will form a dialectical and unified understanding of "what kind of person I am, what kind of person I am and what kind of person I should be". It is a process of unifying the subject self and the object self through self-acceptance and self-exclusion.
Treat yourself correctly and accept yourself. If you can't even agree with yourself, then we can't agree with others, and we will judge others. Then we will never learn from others.
Self-identity is to know and grasp yourself! Only in this way can we correctly handle related problems in actual work and life!
What is a heart? To know people's hearts, there is an old saying: a boat can hold one pack of cigarettes, two packs fall into the water, and one pack is capital. Who can do it, everything will disappear naturally.