Lev tolstoy once said: All happy families are the same; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. It is true that many families are unhappy for different reasons, because couples are different and people are different, so the families they form are different.
Whether the family is happy or not is related to how the husband and wife operate. Husband and wife are maintained by marriage, in other words, whether the marriage is happy or not determines whether the family is happy or not.
However, there are many factors that affect marriage. Couples may encounter all kinds of hardships in their lives, and many difficulties may affect their marriage or even end it.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is undoubtedly one of the main problems affecting marriage. When it comes to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, almost all married people will feel headache. Many people are helpless about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and don't know how to solve it.
In fact, many times, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often caused by both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Some mothers-in-law judge their daughter-in-law's marriage life by their elders, which can easily lead to conflicts between them. Because of the sensitivity of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is difficult to solve the contradiction once it breaks out. This is also the tricky part of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
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If the mother-in-law is the initiator of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then men must play a role in solving it. Because the mother-in-law will listen to her son, not her daughter-in-law. If men can play the role of mediation, most conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not break out.
However, in real life, few men can play this role. Most men will only muddle along or stand by when facing the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting deeper and deeper, which eventually affects their marriage.
There are not a few couples divorced because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In real life, too many couples are worried about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and don't know what to do.
Yuling is such a woman who is overwhelmed by the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. She has been married for more than three years, but her relationship with her mother-in-law has always been incompatible. She really wants a divorce, but her parents and people around her have advised her to be patient, but when will this patience end?
She doesn't know, and neither does anyone else. But others simply don't know the grievances and pains she suffered in the marriage.
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When Yuling married her husband Lin Hao, Lin Hao was still a poor boy with nothing. Yuling had bought a house and a car with the help of her parents.
The marriage of two people once made outsiders suspect that they were not valued at all, because their family backgrounds were too different to belong to the wrong family.
Yuling has a good family. Her parents are both civil servants. As an only child, she was loved by her parents since she was a child. However, Lin Hao's family is average, his parents are just ordinary working-class people, and there is a younger sister at home who is going to college, which is far from Yuling's family.
So when they got married, Yuling's parents didn't agree, but they couldn't resist Yuling's pleading and finally agreed to the marriage.
Lin Hao bought a house, and Yuling didn't want it as a bride price. Yuling's car and house before marriage are also equivalent to dowry. Lin Hao's family held a wedding happily.
Yuling is full of expectations for her married life, but it makes her miserable. The reason lies in the mother-in-law.
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After two people get married, because the wedding room they bought is close to their parents-in-law's house, their mother-in-law will come to the house on weekdays if she has nothing to do.
Yuling's mother-in-law is a woman with strong personality. She is out-and-out at home, take care of Lin Hao and her husband. When she arrived at Yuling's house, she didn't converge. When she sees something that is not pleasing to the eye, she will say, and sometimes she will scold Yuling.
Yuling was spoiled since she was a child. How can she stand this? In the face of her mother-in-law's reprimand, she certainly ignored it. As a result, the friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has escalated.
Mother-in-law accused Yuling of not doing housework, being too lazy and not serving her son well; Yuling, on the other hand, thinks this is my own home. I can live as I want, and you don't have to tell me what to do.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting deeper and deeper. At first, her mother-in-law just said a few words, and then she directly reprimanded and accused Yuling, but Yuling refused to give in and quarreled with her mother-in-law.
And Lin Hao, in the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he doesn't care at all, or dare not care, which makes the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deeper and deeper.
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In order to stay away from her mother-in-law, Yuling persuaded Lin Hao to move and live in her own dowry room. Yuling rented out the wedding room. After the mother-in-law knew it, she quarreled with Yuling again, but everything she did was helpless.
Because I am far away, my mother-in-law goes home less often, and finally there is a buffer space between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law will come occasionally and deliberately find fault, but after all, the frequency is much less.
Lin Hao's sister returned to her hometown after graduating from college and found a job. She has been living with her parents. Mother-in-law wanted to clean up Yuling, so she let her daughter live in Lin Hao's house.
Sister Lin Hao is not a fuel-efficient lamp either. Knowing the contradiction between mother and sister-in-law, she also intends to take it out on her mother. So I really lived in Yuling's dowry room for more than half a year.
During this period, Yuling kept asking Lin Hao to get her sister away, but Lin Hao disagreed. She also said that her sister is alive when she lives. Now that we have no children, the house is empty, and she has lived for a while and left. Yuling is more and more disappointed with Lin Hao.
After her sister-in-law moved in, she began to find trouble with Yuling everywhere. Aunt and sister-in-law often have conflicts. Every time I quarrel with Yuling, my sister-in-law will call her mother. As soon as her mother-in-law arrived, she began to scold Yuling. Yuling faced their mother and daughter, and her heart was haggard.
-06- Later, Yuling couldn't bear it anymore and went straight to drive her sister-in-law away. But my sister-in-law is shameless and insists on staying. She also said that this is my brother's home and my home, and I can stay as long as I want.
Yuling was angry directly: this is the house I bought before marriage, it's mine, so leave quickly!
Sister-in-law won't do it. Call her mother. Facing her mother-in-law Yuling, she didn't give up and told her to leave quickly.
I didn't expect my mother-in-law to quibble: we are all family, how lively it is to live together. I will move in in a few days.
Yuling was even more angry. She said angrily, if you still live here, I will divorce your son. I bought this house before marriage, which has nothing to do with you. Get out of here!
Hearing Yuling say this, her mother-in-law suddenly faded and left with her daughter. But Yuling couldn't help getting angry. She doesn't know whether this marriage should continue.
Now she is very upset. Do you want to divorce Lin Hao?