Out of sympathy and sadness for the girl, I read the news report from beginning to end.
The murderer Xue and the girl Sasha are fellow villagers. Xue has liked Sasha since junior high school, but Sasha has never explicitly promised to be with Xue. After graduating from college, Sasha came to work in Hangzhou, and Xue went to the United States and Australia to study.
After returning home, Xue learned that Sasha was in Hangzhou, and she found a job in Hangzhou, and offered to share the rent with Sasha. Looking at Xue's extra rent, Sasha and her colleagues agreed to share it.
Since studying abroad, Xue has been sending Sasha expensive gifts, including Tiffany's necklace, new bag, Casio's camera, Dave's hair dryer and Starbucks card, worth more than 40,000 yuan. Even so, when he confessed to Sasha again, Sasha refused on the grounds that they needed to know each other better.
Xue thinks it is because he is not good enough for Sasha, so even if he goes out as a friend, Xue also takes the initiative to bear the expenses of two people.
A few days before the incident, Sasha went back to her hometown to attend other people's weddings, took photos with other boys at the wedding, and put the photos on the bedside. Xue was stimulated, because Sasha never took a photo with him, and sometimes even specifically asked for it, but she explicitly refused. Thought of here, Xue and Sasha had a quarrel.
Sasha once again made it clear that she didn't want to fall in love with Xue, and showed other boys that she hated Xue. All this, xue see in the eye, jealous. He searched online for ways to commit suicide, but he didn't have the courage to give up.
On the day of the incident, Xue still felt indignant after waking up. He thinks he can't be nicer to Sasha, but Sasha doesn't care about him at all. He went to Sasha's room and locked the door. Seeing Sasha at him, Xue pushed her onto the balcony.
Xue, who was carried away by anger, grabbed Sasha's skirt with his left hand, lifted her up with his right hand, picked her up and fell off the balcony. Sasha died on the spot and Xue was under the control of the police.
A teenage girl's life is over.
The murderer will always be a murderer, and the evidence is conclusive. No one can excuse his crime. But if Sasha had realized earlier that this man's paranoia had reached a terrible level, this man had put too many chips on himself, and the danger approached earlier, she would have been able to better protect herself, and perhaps today's tragedy would not have happened.
Many netizens strongly criticized Sasha for not "doing things" and being a pure gold digger. I want to say that no one wants to lose their lives for this property, but in order to avoid possible economic disputes and ambiguous emotional entanglements, if you don't want to develop with each other for a long time, don't accept expensive gifts casually.
When the other person gave you all his property, you quickly took it away, and then you wanted to put this relationship behind you. Who wouldn't be crazy?
If you don't like someone, don't accept their kindness easily, don't give them hope, and let them continue to invest in this relationship. When you can't bear it and want to get away with it, the other person will suddenly do something that hurts the other person like a red bull with a golden eye.
02
Summer Xu, my college roommate, is an ingenious person. She has a boyfriend in her hometown and a boyfriend at school. Besides, she is in another school and has a boyfriend named Baihua. Of course, these boyfriends do not know each other's existence.
Baihua's family is ordinary and his education is outstanding. She is a doctoral student in a 985 university, which particularly attracts Summer Xu. She said, I have a handsome one, a rich one and a good learner. I just need a warm man, and I will live together.
Summer Xu was Bai Hua's first love and Bai Hua liked her very much. She doesn't have much living expenses. She just takes Summer Xu to drink spicy food every week. When Apple 6 first came out, she immediately bought one for Summer Xu in stages. Of course, what she didn't know was that when others couldn't afford it, Summer Xu received three at once, two for her own use and one for resale.
Besides, Baihua also gave Summer Xu an Apple computer. Summer Xu's family is superior. All these things are very reassuring to her, and she doesn't think they are laborious at all. But Bai Hua is different. He has studied for so long, but he hasn't made any money, and his psychological pressure is already great. Now with Summer Xu, the economy is even tighter.
We can't bear to watch the birch cut out its heart like this. But Summer Xu broke up with him before Baihua returned Apple 6 in installments.
Summer Xu thinks birch is too considerate, too clingy and too tired. So, she said to Bai Hua, the gap between us is too big to be possible. Baihua is totally unacceptable. He frantically inquired about Summer Xu, turned Summer Xu's social account upside down, and added it all together with Summer Xu's friends, and finally found some clues.
Baihua found that Summer Xu had been stepping on many boats. He turned from love to hate. He cursed Summer Xu every day and sent messages to friends in Summer Xu asking about Summer Xu's whereabouts. Baihua often comes to our school, trying to intercept Summer Xu.
White birch threatens Qing Xu. Do you believe that I will send our photos to your school? Believe it or not, I'm going to your parents' office to make a scene.
Summer Xu was scared. She said, fortunately, I deleted all the photos in his mobile phone before we broke up, and I didn't disclose the information of my parents. This man is really terrible.
Isn't that terrible? It's right for people to scrimp and save on the apple products they buy for you. You sell the money. People are devoted to you, you get them into it, and then you pat your ass and leave.
Baihua exposed Summer Xu's material in the school post bar, and sent messages to other boyfriends in Summer Xu to expose Summer Xu's true face.
There are so many rumors in the school that Summer Xu has to spend money to delete posts. The other two boyfriends also confronted Summer Xu one after another. Summer Xu is the first two, the front door is flooded and the harem is on fire.
Summer Xu called his cousin and opened a hotel next to the school so that he could come and help. After staying for more than a month, fortunately, Baihua didn't take other revenge in the end, and this matter was settled.
To tell the truth, we don't have much sympathy for Summer Xu. She did these things without conscience or the pain of falling out of love. She just sprinkled some money casually, and then she can continue to find a new boyfriend.
However, Bai Hua, an otaku who concentrates on his studies and is still excellent in others' eyes, Summer Xu taught him the most painful lesson in love. We don't know whether he has the courage to develop the next relationship, and we don't know when this introverted and affectionate boy will get out of the trauma.
03
If you don't like others, but give others hope, it will hurt each other and possibly yourself.
When a boy is trying to pursue himself, some girls will be proud of it. Although I don't like it, I will use various behaviors to secretly encourage the other party to stick to it, such as agreeing to the other party's invitation, accepting the other party's gift and giving the other party ambiguous information.
Or have some small vanity, although I don't like each other, the gifts given by the other party are beautiful, and the meals invited by the other party are delicious. Since he is willing to send it, can't I accept the gift without agreeing?
Sorry, I really can't.
You think you have made it clear, but you accept the kindness of the other party, which is just against your language. Boys will think you are duplicitous and pretentious, but in fact you are still a little short. So he will continue to pay again and again until the limit.
Your willingness to accept the gift shows that you are willing to accept him.
Boys' exploration of girls' hearts often begins with giving gifts, both to impress each other and to see each other's reactions. When you are willing to accept something from him, he will take it for granted that you are willing to accept him.
Although many boys say that I have no other meaning, I just want to give you a gift. However, the gift is just the first brick that knocks on your heart. If you don't like it, don't accept it for no reason If you accept it, you have to bear emotional debts.
Your willingness to hang out with him shows that you have a good impression on him.
When a boy invites a girl out to play, it means that two people have to get along alone or face to face all the time.
We probably don't want to hold hands with an annoying person, so the logic of boys is very simple. You don't reject being alone with him, which shows that you have a good impression on him.
After refusing, don't be friends, or know that the other person is interested in chasing you, but also pretend to be confused and say that you are innocent when something goes wrong. All adults, don't lie with your eyes open.
You didn't explicitly refuse, which means he still has hope.
If you want to refuse, you must be early, and if you want to refuse, you must be firm. Any hesitation you have may be interpreted as refusing to return the welcome or making unremitting efforts.
If Sasha explicitly rejected Xue from the beginning, Xue would not come to Hangzhou after returning to China, and they would not live under the same roof. In the end, one will not die, and the other will face jail.
If Sasha says she doesn't like Xue, instead of vaguely saying that she needs to know more, maybe Xue won't get deeper and deeper step by step until the cost of destruction is too high to turn back.
Both boys and girls should be emotionally honest. If you don't like it, don't delay each other. Don't use each other if you don't like it. Don't give each other hope if you don't like it.
You don't know if the other person can control himself emotionally, so don't lead him into the abyss step by step.
I sympathize with Sasha and hope that the murderer will be punished by law.
PS: The whole event originated from the network. There is no doubt that the murderer doesn't need sympathy and deserves it. Girls are the victims, and the purpose of writing this article is more inclined to express an emotional point of view, so that we can all avoid becoming victims or perpetrators.