Seek truth from facts, don't exaggerate or narrow down when criticizing each other, and don't use exaggerated and distorted expressions such as "you never do housework" and "you always yell at me". The other person may say "I have never" and "I am not always". Not only do they not admit what they are accused of, but they may also accuse the other party of being unreasonable and entangle how many times they have done it, thus diverting the main problem.
Understand body language and let him know your intentions. According to experts' research, 65% communication between people is nonverbal, and every move of people contains information exchange. If couples can try their best to understand and accurately feel each other's nonverbal information, it will help them communicate better.
Let him know his heart by expressing his true feelings. Only by showing it can others know. It not only helps to reflect the self-confidence of the expresser, but also helps the real intimacy between husband and wife or lovers. Some speakers may say that they hide their true feelings because they are worried about each other. In fact, most of these worries are for themselves, because they are afraid that they are not as good as they think, and there are others. Of course, the most important communication between husband and wife or lovers is to tell each other their beautiful feelings in time.
Choose the timing, bad timing will waste the expression and make the other party feel disgusted. Good language communication needs more appropriate time arrangement. Talking about some thorny issues when the other person is in a good mood may help to reduce contradictions. When the other person is in a state of intense work or life, trying to talk about some pleasant topics with the other person is actually a message of respect, consideration and understanding for the other person. The choice of time and topic itself is a good way of communication.
Learn to listen. It is also important for the other party to talk about good communication, besides expressing themselves, at the same time actively listening to each other and giving feedback. Listening not only helps to understand each other, but also shows consideration and respect for each other. At the same time, it is also sending a message to the other party that he should listen to his voice in the same way.
07 Deep communication. Empathy, whether it is children's education, mutual affection between lovers or lovers, sexual problems, etc. The two sides should have in-depth exchanges so as to achieve real mutual understanding and communication.
Talk about things, don't settle old scores, don't hold on to each other's shortcomings, as a "magic weapon" to blame each other for every attack.
Praise and praise. Constantly encouraging and praising each other is an effective way for couples to communicate well. Praise is more than blame, which is very beneficial to the healthy development of couples' relationship. Of course, praise should be specific, no matter how big or small, as long as the other party does well, it is necessary to constantly affirm. Doing so can make the other person feel that you really care about him and will urge him to do better. Appropriate communication and exchange can enhance the feelings of lovers or lovers and solve many contradictions in the bud; On the contrary, the lack of necessary communication will never produce "the beauty of distance". On the contrary, it can only open the intimate distance between husband and wife or lovers, leaving a lot of room for contradictions. Therefore, a happy family must start with good communication.