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Since studying psychology,
What you're bound to meet is
People often ask me if I can read other people's minds for a second.
Whether it's hypnotizing others,
And whether God talks about who is sick.
The answer is of course: no!
As one of the emerging professions, psychological counselor,
Is to help people grow and help themselves grow.
A career that can keep pace with each other.
Why do you say that?
Come and listen to what they have to say!
In my opinion, psychological counseling can be divided into narrow sense and broad sense.
The former refers to the consultation that has been paid and conducted within the agreed time (whether face-to-face, telephone or online). This kind of consultation is characterized by its intimacy and instant communication.
The other kind is consultation in a broad sense, including chatting with friends with psychological consultation significance, online psychological question and answer (free of charge), even writing psychological columns, being a guest of psychological programs on some radio programs, and so on. These can be regarded as informal and extensive consultations.
Of course, in fact, strictly speaking, only narrow psychological counseling can be regarded as formal psychological counseling.
In the first year of online counseling, I encountered several refunds (about three times, when I opened a psychological counseling online shop in Taobao, I don't do it now). The reasons are as follows: (1) didn't help; (2) unprofessional. Although this experience looks very low-end, it has accumulated the initial online psychological consultation experience for me, and let me know what it means to help others solve their psychological confusion, so I don't deny that I sincerely thank this experience!
Later, when my charging standard was raised to 300 yuan (this is the price of telephone consultation), to be honest, my sense of dignity as a psychological counselor was strengthened. At the same time, I am more dedicated. For example, after the consultation, I began to issue psychological consultation reports (generally 3000-5000 words) for visitors, and at the same time, I continued to study and study by myself to improve the effectiveness of psychological consultation.
As a psychological counselor, to be honest, I am really proud of this profession-you can see it from my willingness to tell others about my professional identity. Recently, I told several residents I just met that I am a psychological counselor, and they immediately said: This profession will become more and more important, and after earthquakes and major disasters, for example, psychological counselors are very important to injured people.
Some people say that there are not many consultants who have made a name for themselves in the psychological counseling industry, and many of them have died on the road of growth. I think the experience of being a psychological counselor is really related to fame, prestige and achievement. Generally speaking, the greater the fame, the higher the status of the industry, the greater the influence, the more customers, and of course the fees can be higher.
But words are not absolute. Even if the clients of psychological counselors are few and they are in the initial stage, if they really have a heart of helping others and helping themselves, extraordinary insight and extensive love, superb psychological counseling skills or show talent in this respect, they can still experience a strong sense of happiness and accomplishment.
There is something special about the profession of psychological counselor: it puts quite high demands on your spiritual growth. If you don't pay attention to this, you may soon fall into job burnout, making it difficult to boost your spirits and help others.
Over the years, I have grown a lot from reading. Here I can share with you one thing:
Family Can Hurt, by John Bradshaw, Sichuan University Press.
Who's in my house? Bert hellinger, World Book Publishing Company.
Too much is not enough, Dr. Henry Claude, Haiti Press.
Rebuilding Life, Shanghai, China Aerospace Press.
The Road Less Walked in scott parker, China Commercial Press.
Smart Psychological Assistant, by Gillard Egan, Shanghai Education Press.
How New Families Shape People, Virginia Satya, World Book Publishing Company.
Love yourself today, Cheryl Richardson, CITIC Publishing House.
@ Zou Gensheng
When I was consulting, the biggest feeling was that everyone was a colorful individual. They have so many stories, feelings and ideas that have not been sorted out, and then they become bystanders of their own lives and meet their unknown selves in the process of narration.
Therefore, the first lesson for psychological counselors is listening, not speaking. The message conveyed by high-quality listening is: I accept your emotions, and I understand them, whether it is hysterical anger or sadness in my heart.
The feedback from many visitors is that as long as the psychological counselor sits opposite and listens carefully to what they have to say, he will feel better. Why is it so amazing? Because when you are listening, you will feel connected with others.
In the process of listening, the counselor should use the power of reason to receive and integrate all the information he hears, and then analyze, judge and choose the treatment direction; On the other hand, you should use the power of sensibility, put yourself into the emotional world of the visitor, feel his feelings, expectations and needs, and then give him back the feelings you understand behind the words after the end, so that he can get an "understood" experience, thus establishing a safe and credible consultation-visit relationship, which is both real and illusory and will become an important cornerstone for the future change and growth of the visitor.
Let's talk about how psychological counselors get self-growth. When learning different theories and the view of human nature behind them, your only reference is yourself. When you learn how the family system shapes people, you will understand the simple and complex, distant and close relationship between yourself and the family you came from. When you study dependency theory, you realize that your anger, escape or being at a loss in intimate relationships are all due to your inner anxiety; When you learn the relationship between cognition, emotion and behavior, you can understand why you are sad and anxious. What you know is the most precious wealth you can get in your life, because you know yourself better, you accept yourself more, and of course, you know how to change yourself. If you establish empathy for yourself, you will be more able to empathize with others.
If everyone learns some psychology, the world will be really peaceful.
@ Anonymous
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