A few years ago, I opened a shop in a shopping mall to do luggage wholesale. Hundreds of people come in and out of this booth every day. It's hard to remember customers' faces. I may be able to get to know them after doing business a few times, but Zhu Jie is an exception. I was deeply moved by her only once.
I never imagined that when she made a move, simplicity became a big deal. At that time, she was wearing a dark green coat At first glance, it is the explosion that she bought in the same market. The leather at the toe of her foot began to fall off and she didn't look like a big businessman. But in fact, her business is much bigger than I expected, and her living conditions are quite superior. This is why she is not short of money. She would rather wear a pair of shoes that can wear high heels at any time, go through one shopping mall after another, and keep running on the road of doing business.
That day, I asked her why she earned so much money and didn't change a better pair of shoes. She said with a smile, shoes will wear out after a long time anyway. It is better to buy cheap ones, and now we are expanding our business, and every penny should be spent on the cutting edge. When she spoke, she just put a band-aid on the heel wound. I am very distressed. But since she doesn't care, why should others worry?
I didn't refute her words, but I was a little sad. She put her career first and neglected herself.
There are many people like Zhu Jie, some are career first, some are children first, and some are love first.
Neighbor Meng Yi only has children in her eyes. She is in her fifties, and her children are almost thirty. It stands to reason that she should retire and live a good life at her age. But she tied herself tightly to her son.
Originally, her son worked in a big city, and she felt too hard, so she urged him to come back to a small county to find a job. She also went around looking for an object for her son and took her life savings to buy a house for her son as a down payment.
It can be said that I broke my heart for my son, but as a result, my son complained that she was in charge of too much and restricted too much.
As the saying goes, only by learning to love yourself can you love others, even if you don't love yourself and cherish yourself. No matter how you love others, it is also a burden.
Just like Meng Yi, she concentrated all her thoughts on her son and gave all her love to him. At the same time, she hopes to get something in return from this love. In order to be filial, the son listened to his mother's instructions, but his heart gradually became bitter.
Finally, the poured love became water under the complaint of the bridge.
Whether it's Zhu Jie or Meng Yi, and those who have been absolutely ignored by Qian Qian, I want to ask, are you really happy?
Maybe this moment is worth it, but after several years, will one day suddenly think, why don't you treat yourself better?
Career may fail, relatives may be separated, love is more likely to be betrayed, put your mind elsewhere, and one careless move will lose the game.
However, if you give others full ideas, take care of yourself on average and feel sorry for yourself, even if those bad situations happen, you won't be completely desperate.
No matter when, no matter what happens, our most reliable reliance is ourselves. Only by caring more about ourselves can we live a full life.
Life is your choice. If you really don't want to regret it later, learn to be good to yourself from now on and care about yourself at any time.