Let me briefly introduce myself: I am an executive of a listed company in China. I graduated from the top universities in China 10, and I am recruiting MBA graduates from the top universities in China 10. I don't smoke or drink, I don't go to nightclubs, I don't like socializing, I never have sex, I'm honest and kind, I'm warm and generous, I don't have bad habits, I go to the hall, and I'm handsome without fancy.
Dear friends, I am such a man, and I have been commented as an extinct man by my friends and colleagues. No matter at school or in the company, I am one in a million. Good enough? But she still wants to leave me I am convinced that if she really leaves, she will regret it for the rest of her life.
I am a mess. Write wherever you want.
Because of the strict discipline at home, I devoted myself to studying and never fell in love in high school. She was my first love, and I thought I would never fall in love during college. Under the guidance of my freshman and sophomore at home, I study hard and be a good student seriously. When I was in college, I still remember the four standards given by my father. First, learn a foreign language well; Second, learn computer well; Third, get a driver's license; Fourth, learn professional knowledge well. Therefore, the freshman took a driver's license in the summer vacation, and passed Grade 4 in the sophomore year. He has always been a class cadre and a student union cadre. Scholarship for outstanding college students every year. In the second half of my junior year, I met her by chance, met her in the same school like a movie, and finally came together. As friends in love, it is indeed a minority that finally came together, and we are one of these few. After graduation, we got married in order to live together legally and avoid embarrassment for her parents. So the shelf life of pure love can't exceed 10 years? Is first love doomed to failure?
10 Although it has been a long year, our life cannot be said to be dull. We have traveled abroad several times since we got married. On the National Day not long ago, we went to Phuket for seven days. Basically, I go to see one or two movies every month, and I often find different places to eat on weekends. Recently, she took a fancy to the group-buying New Year's Eve dinner, which is quite fresh. In addition to being busy in the second half of this year, I will accompany her shopping every week. I have persisted for so many years. Although my patience is not as good as before, it is estimated that few men can persist.
Without relying on parents, I have embarked on a steady and upward career path by my own efforts. Up to now, I have bought three suites. At the end of last year and the middle of this year, I disposed of two houses in Guangzhou, and went to a second-tier city (provincial capital) to buy two full-price houses, one for rent and the other for independence. Guangzhou has also left a small house with a small loan, which can be paid off at any time. In the past 10 years, except for meeting some expenses of my wife, cosmetics, clothes, traveling, eating and watching movies, other money was invested in the house, and the leverage of the bank was used to obtain good income. Until now, I have just converted my house from a loan to cash, and I am ready to live a better life. There is no huge mortgage pressure, but trouble is coming.
Because I don't have any hobby of spending money, basically I spend very little money, all for my family.
The cause of the matter is this. 1 1 At the beginning of the year, I was poached by a headhunter from a listed group in Shenzhen. For the convenience of work, I rented a house in Shenzhen and went back to Guangzhou on weekends. Because I have just arrived in the company, I have to deal with many problems and straighten out the basic work. Although we are separated from each other, we call several times a day and talk with the company in advance, and return to work in Guangzhou branch after half a year. The Spring Festival is approaching, and the Guangzhou Office is basically implemented. I'm going back to Guangzhou. Actually, she and I divorced. The fuse came from a harmless thing. 12 We are going to have a baby at the beginning. LP has been in poor health. The doctor prescribed some medicine and asked for a few months' aftercare. But her stomach has always had an old problem, and she feels uncomfortable when she takes medicine. 12 years, she suddenly told me that she wanted to give up having children. I'm a little angry because we really started preparing for some time. I said it was for the children. There's always something to pay. If I can take medicine instead of you, I will always be willing. Maybe the tone is not very good, plus I'm really busy at work recently, so I haven't taken care of her much. From that day on, she has been feeling depressed. Then in the next few days, the second fuse was really lit. I was on a business trip in Shanghai that day, and her father called me because he couldn't reach me by phone this afternoon. She ignored me the other day. I'm busy at work and stressed, and I don't want to take the initiative to take care of her. I think I'll give her the cold shoulder for a few days. We were in the cold war when I got a call from her father. His father said that I have been unable to contact her for so many years. What will happen? I heard it seems so. After I couldn't get through to her phone many times, I called her company and contacted one of her assistants. The assistant said that she went to Shenzhen on business today. Maybe her cell phone is dead, and neither are her colleagues who went to the market with her. In this way, I kept in touch with her assistant until after 9 o'clock. I stopped harassing her assistant and planned to wait. I haven't been texting her all the time, saying to call her back when I turn on the phone. My family are worried about you. In the afternoon 12, she sent back a message, saying that she had just arrived home, her mobile phone was dead, and she came back from Shenzhen late. After a while, she called again and was very angry, saying that everyone in the company was looking for her because I thought something had happened to her, which had a bad influence. In this way, we are caught in an upgraded version of the Cold War, which is unprecedented. She didn't go home for two consecutive weekends, and she wasn't at home at Christmas.
/kloc-February 29th, 0/2, I went home because I had something to do in Guangzhou. As a result, she came home from work to see me and said how I came back. Do you want to talk to her? I said I came back from a business trip, not specifically to talk to you. She said she would go on a business trip tomorrow, and I agreed. Then you came and went, exchanged a few pleasantries, and suddenly she said, why don't we get a divorce? I just answered the phone and said yes. There was no quarrel. What did she say about the division of property? I said, go ahead. She said that all the houses and cars were hers. I said, why? She said that it was because of her good eye that she kept investing in the house, so we had three suites. I smiled. I always have a place to live. Tell you what, give me this small house in Guangzhou and take the rest. Then, without saying anything, she went to the computer to draft the agreement. I looked at it and said yes, so she went to print it, and then we signed it.
Then on Thursday morning, she went on a business trip, and she didn't go home until the evening of October 3rd at 65438+/kloc-0, and I had to go back to work in Shenzhen early in the morning on October 4th at 65438+/kloc-0. After signing the agreement, I was sad for two days. Later, I chatted with an MBA buddy. He advised me to put down my airs and take the initiative to talk to her. When I was persuaded by him, I took the initiative to send a short message, apologizing to her first, saying that if what I said that day led to her decision to divorce, I sincerely apologize. If she made the decision before, we'll talk. She texted back that she would be back on the 3rd. I said, when does the plane take off? Let me pick you up. She said, don't answer it, she will go home by herself. Then, she didn't get home until evening 12: 30. I have been lying in bed with a very uncomfortable mood and ready to rest. I thought she wouldn't come back, but later I learned that the plane was late. Then, we talked for an hour that night. According to the plan, I apologized to her and made further communication. As a result, she said, I was too cold to her, and she couldn't accept it.
In this way, the next morning, I arrived in Shenzhen again. I think I gave the steps. Maybe she won't get off at once. I will work harder and order a bunch of yellow roses on Taobao. The message is, "honey, I'm deeply sorry for my poor care for you recently." I hope you will forgive me soon. " Love your husband forever. "I think, after this step, her anger should almost disappear.
Results 654381Friday, October 6, I went home at the weekend, almost 1 1 point. I called her before she went home. It was a man who answered the phone. He signed up, and then said something unintelligible. I said you put her on the phone and she answered. She said savagely, be good, and then hung up the phone. Then, I called again, and a woman answered, saying that it was her colleague, saying that they had a meeting in the company today, and colleagues were all engaged in activities together, which reassured me. Fortunately, I made a second call, otherwise I really thought there was something wrong with her outside, because that stupid man answered the phone just now and didn't make it clear. We were a little confused this time.
But this time, I was really angry. I gave her all the steps. She called me with this attitude when I had the highest expectation that we would make up soon. My heart is completely cold.
It stands to reason that we have been trusting each other for so many years, and there should be no situation other than her. I'm more confident about this. But logically, did the first two triggers make her decide to divorce me? I am a logical person. I think logically, there are only two possibilities. Either she has a situation outside or she has a disease like depression, so she will make such a stupid judgment. Other, I really can't think of any reason.
After I went to Shenzhen on October 9th, 65438, I never contacted her again. On October 6th, 65438, I returned to Guangzhou. But on June 3rd, 65438+ 10, I suddenly received a short message from her asking if I would go home today, or telling her when to go home. I replied, 65438+/kloc-go home in 0/0 16, why? She didn't answer me, and I ignored her.
During the week of 65438+ 10 9, I began to adjust my mind, thought about it for a week, and let myself go. Judging from the uncomfortable state of the two days after signing the agreement, it seems that this week has come to a little, and it is not so uncomfortable. 65438+1October 16, I went home peacefully. She came home from work and saw me and said, shall we talk? I said, about what? Didn't we talk that day? I've said everything I need to say. What are you going to say?
She said, oh, forget it. I said, say what you have. Then, she said, she asked, and we didn't have to go to a different place to go through the divorce procedure (we got married in the city where the university was located, and then our hukou was there, and later we moved to Guangzhou), so we could do it in Guangzhou. 18 Go through the formalities. Because I have planned it, I think it should be no problem for her to go home for the New Year and her family to do ideological work for her. I said I would like to keep the agreement we signed at present, but I want to give myself a chance, give you a chance, and we will make a decision after the New Year. If everyone's ideas haven't changed after the Chinese New Year, we will go through the formalities. As a result, she was still very extreme, saying that she didn't think there would be any change in a year, so let's go through the formalities on Wednesday. 18. I said, it's up to you. I have time these days, and I am always ready.
To add another point, 18 finished the formalities, and she asked me again, when did I let her move? I said before March. She asked me where the office in Guangzhou was. I said, what do you know? She said, what if she misses me in the future? I said, divorced, I'll never see you again in my life.
This is the final result. It's messy, illogical and literary. I wonder if anyone really has the patience to finish reading it. I look forward to your reply and suggestions. The situation now is that I don't want to compromise any more. She may want to make up with me today, but she has come to this point and time is running out. In this state, she wants me to go to 18, and I will really go. What can you see from my long description? You can also talk about it Maybe the person involved is lost, and the bystander is clear.
Thank you! Although I am very unhappy now, I wish you a happy New Year and every day!