Do you know what to do if your colleagues alienate you? It is a basic workplace rule not to poke others' pain points, not to expose shortcomings, and not to embarrass others. If it breaks down, the consequences will be very serious. What if your colleagues alienate you? Let's take a look together.
What if your colleagues alienate you? 1 First of all, straighten your mind and accept the reality.
1. It doesn't matter if your colleagues alienate you when you are about to leave the company. Don't be too sensitive to the feelings between colleagues. Colleagues ignore you and leaders don't arrange work for you. It's good for you to leave work early and enjoy a quiet day.
2, the feeling of being alienated is very uncomfortable, but colleagues are just colleagues, not relatives or friends. They can't come and go with you all their lives. After you leave the company, your colleagues are familiar strangers and even become competitors in the workplace.
Everyone has selfishness and lives realistically. You don't have to forcibly change other people's views on you, and don't overestimate the feelings of your colleagues.
Second, learn to care about colleagues while keeping a certain distance.
1. If you were lukewarm to your colleagues before and didn't take the initiative in your work, you should take the initiative to adjust your work style, communicate with your colleagues and help them do some work.
Helping colleagues can enhance feelings, but you can't get too close to colleagues, let alone take their place and take their work as your own.
3. Keep colleagues close, and the relationship will be better. If you meet a very unfriendly colleague, don't offend him and do your job well. You should always understand that colleagues are people who come together because of work, and work and life should be treated differently.
Third, try to make yourself better.
1. You are a little better than your colleagues. They will be jealous of you and speak ill of you behind your back. If you are much better than your colleagues, they will admire you, take the initiative to learn from you and praise you.
If you are not very old, it is time for you to save energy when your colleagues alienate you. Anyway, colleagues don't like to associate with you, and your time will be more free. You should use your spare time to study hard or develop your hobbies.
What if your colleagues alienate you? 1. Be modest.
1, the tree catches the wind. No matter what education or experience you have, you will start from scratch when you enter the company. Put away your edge, you can't go wrong with caution.
People don't target an unknown person for no reason. It must be that some of your characteristics or behaviors have caused others' dissatisfaction.
3. Some people have deep backgrounds and strong connections, but they never show off or show off;
Some people, with good family, still wear simple clothes and go to work by bus.
Such people are all smart people.
6. Just like in martial arts novels, those who are in high positions and have profound internal skills look ordinary and even a little silly. Such an appearance can easily let the enemy relax their vigilance.
7. Especially those who offend colleagues because of improper behavior must learn to keep a low profile.
8. Get benefits without publicity, be praised without boasting, speak with discretion, don't poke people's pain points, be sweet, be polite and be tolerant, and everyone will naturally be polite to you.
Second, send charcoal in the snow
1. If you want to turn an enemy into a friend, you should treat him like a friend.
2, don't bear grudges, don't care, it is a big mind.
When colleagues are isolated, it is easy for us to be hostile to each other, look at each other unhappily, think hard, find fault with each other and fight with each other.
In fact, this practice is not worth the loss, and it has a lot of internal friction. If it can't solve the fundamental problem, it is better to be soft.
5. For example, if you know that the other person is not good to you, you should treat the other person sincerely and take the initiative to let go of hostility. When the other party encounters difficulties, they lend a helping hand, share a work skill, help to consult a document, and facilitate computer repair. When you meet a group activity, have a good talk with everyone, have a meal, and resolve conflicts through laughter.
6. In the face of people who don't like themselves, it seems difficult to hide their unhappiness and show their kindness. You can take this as a good opportunity to exercise us.
7. After all, useful experience is accumulated bit by bit in practice.
8. To be a great person, you have to force yourself to do what others don't want to do.
Third, break them one by one.
1, which is very suitable for being isolated by small groups as a whole.
2. People who can't do anything will only feel heartbroken secretly, and smart people will find ways to turn defeat into victory.
3. In small groups, there are leaders and followers who don't know. You can win over these indecisive people.
Their weakness is that they have no opinions, and they are afraid of offending others and following the trend. You can start with these people and get the information you want.
For example, ask him to have a meal in the canteen, go shopping and go to work together. Once or twice, he may not go. If you call him back, he is always embarrassed to refuse.
6, get along with more, you naturally know why they isolate you, know the reason, in order to have countermeasures.
7. There is another kind of people you can use, that is, people who are isolated like you.
8. Because they have the same experience, they are more likely to have empathy than others. You can unite such people and form your own strength.
9. To survive within the system, we can't be partial, but we can't be partial.
10, cultivate your own strength, mainly to protect yourself, at least when others want to frame you, they won't do it easily. This kind of survival wisdom is what each of us should have.
1 1. After all, survival before development is an older truth, which is equally applicable in the workplace.