To make a decision, you need to have a choice, choose A, choose B or choose C…
But in most cases, no one puts the options in front of you. At this time, you need to find your own options.
But with or without options, soliciting opinions is essentially a decision.
So, what do you need to make a decision?
Teacher Liang Ning said very well, making a decision requires two things:
The first is the information environment.
The second is the decision-making mode.
A fully objective information environment is the basis for making correct decisions. If you are in an information environment, there is serious information loss or even information distortion, then it is difficult for you to make the right decision.
Based on sufficient and objective information environment, you can make many possible choices.
Then, find the best option through the decision model.
This is the process of making a decision.
There are many decision-making models, and patting the head by intuition is the simplest one.
When many people seek advice from others, they just want to seek a definite conclusion: just tell me how to do it.
However, there are two things behind the conclusion: information environment and decision-making mode.
In most cases, your information environment is private and only you know it.
This means that in the absence of information environment, it is impossible for others to give you a definite conclusion.
When asking for advice from others, you can't expect them to give you a conclusion because they don't understand the information environment.
What can you only expect?
You can only expect the other party to give you advice on a decision-making model.
What are the suggestions of the decision model?
What should you do if it is 1? What should you do in the second case? If it is the third case, what should you do?
This is the suggestion of the decision model.
When asking for advice from others, you should know that because the information environment is not sufficient, all you can get is the decision-making model.
Can only give advice to the decision-making model.
Especially about the type of personal choice.
For example, should I resign? Which job should I choose? What major should a university study?
The decision-making model of these problems is not complicated, but depends on everyone's information environment.
At this time, you can't say that you should resign, you should choose this job, and you should choose this major in this city, because I personally feel particularly good.
This is very irresponsible.
Then what should you say to him?
It should be said that it is a decision model.
The more private the information environment, the more suggestions should be made to the decision-making model.
For example, about volunteering to go to college, many people ask me, Runzong, which city should I apply for? Which university should I apply to? Which major should I apply for? How to choose?
My answer is: importance: city > school > major.
As for which one to choose, it depends on your situation.
You have to get your own answer through the decision model.
Therefore, when giving advice to others, the more private the information environment, the more you should give advice to the decision-making model.
At least I won't.
I usually say, if it were me, I would do it.
For example, some entrepreneurs and entrepreneurs usually consult me, and we need to talk for a long time, during which I will ask many questions. In fact, it is to obtain the information environment.
As a consultant, I am full of decision-making models.
After understanding the full information environment, if I draw a conclusion according to the decision-making model, at this time, I will say to the other party: If it were me, I would do so.
Why do you say that? Because after the information environment and decision-making mode, there is actually another thing called values.
I am a risk-averse person; And you may be a risk-averse person.
I am a person who is willing to try new things; And you may be a person who likes to do one thing for a long time.
Under the same information environment and decision-making mode, if our values are different, then the choices we make may be very different.
So "if it were me, I would do it", there is actually the support of values behind this sentence.
The meaning behind it is: this is just my choice for your reference.
Because we have different values, you don't have to make the same choice as me.
The most the other party can give you is a decision-making model.
You need to incorporate your information environment into the decision-making model, and then make the final decision according to your values.
After making a decision, no matter what the outcome is, you should take full responsibility for your decision.
It is the mutual affection of the other party to give you advice, and it is your responsibility to make a decision.
Remember, no matter what advice others give you, the decision is your own.
In the end, only you can be responsible.
Most people's suggestions, first of all, are not direct conclusions, but a decision-making model, how to solve this situation and how to deal with that situation.
With the decision-making model, we should make further choices according to our own values and environmental information, and we should be responsible for this choice.