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Some time ago, Nana released a new song. Awkwardly, only her husband Jason and the fan group promoted it for her, but the friends in the circle disappeared.
You know, if this matter had been put aside in the past, it would have caused a burst of publicity and applause in the entertainment circle, because Nana was still a popular host at that time, and artists would try their best to befriend her.
Now, with the suspension of Kuaiben, Nana is no longer a variety sister, and her former scenery is no longer, and her popularity is greatly reduced.
Attentive netizens even found that after Nana announced the release of a new song on the Weibo, not only the previous stars were indifferent, but even the members of the Happy Family turned a blind eye-no one publicly supported her, as if she was soon forgotten by the public.
The sharp contrast between Nana's popularity and the present situation makes people feel that the entertainment circle is a vanity fair, and everyone is extremely realistic-whoever is red will curry favor with it, and whoever is not red will quickly go their separate ways.
This can't help but remind people that when Su Mang, editor-in-chief of Bazaar, was in the limelight, many stars rushed to take photos with him.
Su Mang resigned as editor-in-chief, and after being herself, she took photos with these stars again, but she was "cut"-the photos released by the stars did not show her. This matter was once fermented on the internet, which made people feel the desolation of reality and the snobbery of interpersonal relationships.
Whether it is Su Mang in the past or Nana today, people feel that your previous scenery or contacts are mostly resources and opportunities provided by the platform. Once you leave the platform, your former scenery is no longer, and your contacts are even more vulnerable.
Actually, it's not just the entertainment circle?
In the real workplace, isn't it the same "people walk away from tea"? !
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"Miss Xiaoli, I found that my previous choice seemed to be a mistake."
One day, a tourist Xiao Yu (a pseudonym) told me about his distress and predicament.
According to the information provided by Xiaoyu before the consultation and what he said during the consultation, I extract the relevant points as follows:
Xiaoyu graduated from a domestic university with a bachelor degree in financial management.
After graduation, Xiaoyu encountered some setbacks and blows in the process of finding a job (Xiaoyu graduated from a very ordinary school, and many good opportunities can only slip away because Xiaoyu himself is not qualified). Just when Xiaoyu felt disheartened, a phone call brought him a glimmer of hope.
This call comes from a financial software company. The position recruited by the other party is after-sales service personnel. Because Xiaoyu is a financial professional and a boy, and this job needs to run around with projects, the employer thinks Xiaoyu is the candidate who meets their requirements.
In the face of such an opportunity, Xiaoyu seems hesitant.
According to Xiao Yu, he hopes that he can engage in financial work, even if he starts at the grassroots level. He hopes that through his own efforts for 3-5 years, he can really develop into the field of financial management.
Therefore, when he received this call, he was still hesitating: he was considering whether this job could help and play a role in his future, but at the same time he was worried about whether he would regret if he missed this opportunity in vain, and so on.
Just when Xiaoyu hesitated, the other HR said such a thing, which moved Xiaoyu. The general idea of these words is as follows-
1, financial software companies are still well-known in the industry;
Because Xiaoyu graduated from a very ordinary school, it is not conducive to his job search; But if he can have such work experience, the reputation of this company will add luster to his resume.
2. After-sales service is also conducive to Xiaoyu's understanding of enterprise accounting treatment;
HR said that the products developed and sold by the company are financial software, so if Xiaoyu applies for the post of after-sales service, the object of contact and service is the financial personnel at the enterprise end-they will encounter various specific problems in the process of processing accounts with software, and Xiaoyu is responsible for answering and solving these specific problems.
This job can provide Xiaoyu with intangible resources such as networking opportunities.
HR of the other party further analyzed that in this job, Xiaoyu will inevitably deal with the financial personnel of many enterprises, and there will inevitably be people above the level of financial supervisor. If Xiaoyu can make a good impression on the service, if Xiaoyu wants to jump into the enterprise in the future, these people may even provide him with some opportunities ~
I have to say that the three points mentioned by the other HR have undoubtedly reached Xiaoyu's heart, and his previous doubts have gradually been dispelled with the persuasion of the other party.
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Xiaoyu asked the school counselor for advice, and the answer was affirmative: this is a good opportunity. After all, the other party is a well-known company, which will help Xiaoyu's future career development.
After being recognized by the school, Xiaoyu put down her inner doubts and agreed to the interview with the financial software company.
The interview also went well. A few days later, Xiaoyu received a phone call from the other party and asked him to formally join the company.
Xiaoyu, full of longing and hope, became the after-sales service staff of that financial software company, but after more than two years, Xiaoyu noticed that something was wrong.
1, software after-sales maintenance can contact accounting treatment, but there is still a big gap from the real accounting treatment;
"I found that I seem to have been cheated," Xiaoyu said. "At the beginning, HR told me that doing this job could help me understand the company's accounting treatment. But it took me more than two years to find out that I have not been exposed to real accounting treatment. At best, it can only be counted as the operation and maintenance of financial software, which is far from accounting treatment. "
2. Although this job can get in touch with corporate financial personnel and even managers, it seems that these people can't provide future employment opportunities;
"I have explored their tone before, which probably means that the recruitment of financial personnel by enterprises is the arrangement and deployment of the company, and the financial personnel recruited will have corresponding requirements for academic background and work experience. In other words, even the relatives of these financial personnel and even managers must have certain conditions if they want to enter the company to do finance. I am not related to them by blood and have no corresponding work experience. Why do they endorse my reputation and recommend me to the company for finance? " Xiaoyu said.
"Miss Xiao Li, what I don't understand is that the counselors in these schools should know, but when I asked the school's opinion, why did they recommend me to this company? Isn't this pushing me into the' fire pit'? " Xiaoyu asked.
I told Xiaoyu that the school has its considerations and interests: for the school, the employment rate in previous years is undoubtedly an important indicator and persuasiveness of the school's later enrollment. Therefore, as long as the employment opportunities that students are looking for are not too outrageous, basically the school will encourage students to find jobs early; What's more, Xiaoyu's software company is well-known and can be promoted by the school as a "successful employment case".
"Well, I was too simple before, didn't think so much. Now I find myself taking a detour. " Xiaoyu said with a sigh.
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I told Xiaoyu that no matter what career orientation and planning, it is inseparable from these principles.
1, the goal is directly related to the start of career and the best path;
In career planning, we don't advocate "saving the country by curve". If we can, we'd better go straight to the target.
Because in reality, the fault tolerance rate in the workplace is very low: in other words, if something goes wrong at the beginning, we may need to spend a lot of time and energy to correct and adjust it later.
Therefore, if you have a clear career goal, what you need to do when facing a career opportunity is to consider whether the job content and promotion channels of this opportunity are directly related to your goal-if not, you need to choose carefully.
Taking Xiaoyu as an example, his initial career goal was very clear, that is, he hoped to start from the financial grass-roots position and gradually develop towards financial management through accumulation. In this case, when Xiaoyu graduates, she should aim at the basic financial position of the enterprise, interview more and actively look for opportunities.
2. Personal connections are the biggest lie in the workplace and can be ignored in career decision-making;
I don't know how many people will take "connections" as the standard of consideration when making career decisions.
In fact, many contacts are inseparable from specific positions and professional roles.
For example, if you are the financial manager of a company, you will naturally be contacted by bank account managers, tax collectors, brokers and other related personnel, whose purpose is to carry out relevant business cooperation with your company ..... But these interpersonal contacts and personal connections are basically given by posts and platforms. If you leave the company and become yourself, these former connections may disappear instantly.
Imagine if the financial manager of a company resigned and went home to be a full-time mother. A few years later, she wants to return to the workplace. What kind of support and help can these former bank account managers, tax collectors and brokers give? Can you count on them to recommend or provide you with job opportunities?
The answer is self-evident.
Therefore, in career decision-making, what should be considered more than the so-called interpersonal communication and personal relationship is: what kind of ability accumulation and experience can this experience give us? After many years, what kind of platforms and posts can we exchange with these accumulations and experiences?
If you find that what you have done is far from your goal, it is better to stop loss in time than to make a mistake again.
In career decision-making, sunk cost is an important reason why many people hesitate.
Many people will think: is it a pity that I have invested so much time and energy and given up?
But I want to say: if the time and energy invested have nothing to do with your goal, please stop as soon as possible, because some costs in life are doomed to sink, and if we are held back by it, it will only lead to greater losses.
Therefore, since Xiaoyu has only worked for about two years, my suggestion is to stop loss as soon as possible: seek the corresponding job opportunity in the grass-roots financial position, boldly give up this job and get yourself on the right track as soon as possible.
Now, I want to say-
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About the author: Zhao Xiaoli, a senior career planner, national psychological consultant and workplace writer. He is the author of best-selling books in the workplace based on career counseling case studies, such as Stop Blind Efforts: Your Life Needs Redesign, From Minimalism to Extreme: Being a Powerful Person in Your Good Field, etc. 202 1' s new book "ability breakthrough: the underlying logic and methods of accelerated growth in the workplace" continues to sell well.
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