1. Enhance self-awareness. Know your needs, desires and bottom line clearly, and don't give in to others' demands easily. Maintain independent judgments and opinions, and will not be completely influenced by emotions.
2. Express your needs reasonably. Learn to express your real needs and feelings reasonably, instead of meeting each other's various requirements by default in exchange for feelings. Honest communication can avoid being manipulated by the other party.
3. Learn to say "no". Dare to say "no" when necessary, and don't always accommodate each other for fear of losing your feelings or partner. Will confidently refuse unreasonable demands.
4. Don't be manipulated by negative emotions. Not easily intimidated or manipulated by negative emotions such as anger, sadness or anxiety. Can maintain rationality and judgment, and will not compromise to eliminate the negative emotions of the other party.
5. Keep in touch with the outside world. Will not give up external contact because of love, still maintain the relationship with relatives and friends, and maintain an independent social support system. This can prevent you from being completely dependent on your partner and being controlled.
6. Pay attention to the equality of the relationship. Observe whether you and your partner are equal in the relationship, ask questions when you feel signs of being manipulated, and make corresponding changes. An equal relationship can avoid being controlled.
7. End it decisively when necessary. If you find that your partner's controlling behavior is serious and there is no hope of change, it is necessary to end this relationship as a last resort to protect yourself. Personality independence is very important.
By strengthening self-awareness, learning to express and refuse, maintaining external ties and ensuring equal relations, emotional blackmail and emotional manipulation can be effectively prevented and avoided. If the situation is irreversible, it is also the best choice to leave decisively.