If a woman is willing to live with her boyfriend, it proves that she has psychologically accepted this boyfriend and regarded him as the ideal object for marriage. Many men are full of excitement and expectation when they live with their girlfriends, so what is the psychology of women at this time?
Let's share the real psychological state of three older women.
Xiao Li: The mood has not changed much.
Xiao Li's love life is very ordinary. She has never talked about intense love, and her feelings with her husband are tepid, not as unforgettable as I thought.
Xiao Li, who is in her thirties, has never found a boyfriend. Her family has been urging her to get married on a blind date. Due to the constant pressure from all sides, Xiao Li finally met her current husband on a blind date and decided to get married.
The relationship between her and her husband is very dull. At first, the interaction between them was not as close as that of school classmates. Although Xiao Li once fantasized about exciting love, when she really lived with her boyfriend, she felt that life was as ordinary as ever.
For older women forced by life, cohabitation is nothing more than finding a man to live with. I used to believe that I would marry love, but now Xiao Li feels that she can still get married and live together without emotional foundation.
Xiao Wu: Living together makes me see through men.
Xiao Wu has been waiting for her love. She has always believed that there is no need to get married if she can't find a boyfriend with the same views. But now the society is very realistic, and women who marry late and have children late are doomed to suffer a lot of discrimination and injustice.
Many people think that women who marry late will depreciate and cannot marry valuable men. Almost 40 years old. Due to the pressure of life and family, Xiao Wu has to talk about a boyfriend.
The standards of this boyfriend and Xiao Wu are somewhat different, but Xiao Wu still insists on living with him. After living together, Xiao Wu strengthened his previous thoughts.
Because this boyfriend exposed many shortcomings in his life after living together, Xiao Wu couldn't stand it. Boyfriends not only don't pay attention to personal hygiene, but also make a mess at home every day. His quality is also very poor, and he always curses.
Living with such people, Xiao Wu feels that every day is punishment and torture. This kind of life destroyed her personality and made her spiritual world collapse.
Today, Xiao Wu regrets his original choice, failed to grasp the elegance and beauty of his youth, and lost many opportunities for people to fall in love. Since he made the wrong choice, Xiao Wu has no patience and regrets this time. He resolutely broke up with this boyfriend and continued to pursue his love.
Xiao Yuan: I'm glad to look forward to it.
Xiao Yuan is one of the lucky old women. As early as when she was a student, she had a budding love idea, but she was ashamed to express it at that time, so she buried this love in her heart and didn't tell the boy.
Xiao Yuan vaguely felt that the boys liked him, but neither of them had poked enough paper. After graduation, they went to work in different cities and haven't been in touch for a long time.
Xiao Yuan's life track is very similar to that of a boy. Both of them seldom socialize and remain single. As she grew older, her family began to urge Xiao Yuan to get married.
But Xiao Yuan didn't want to spend any more time getting to know the opposite sex. He feels that the time spent together is short and he can't see the essence of a person. So Xiao Yuan tried to contact the boy he had secretly loved, and told him how much he admired him many years ago.
I didn't expect that the boy really felt the same way about Xiao Yuan, so the two single youths naturally got together. After a few months of love, the two decided to live together because they felt that each other had similar temperament and got along well in life.
When Xiao Yuan was young, he was inevitably a little nervous and looking forward to the development of love. The life after cohabitation is somewhat different from that imagined, but there are also many similarities.
Because of their deep emotional foundation, their cohabitation life is generally pleasant and smooth, and Xiao Yuan's life is also very happy.
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From the stories of these three older women, we can sum up a profound truth: a married life without feelings is unreliable and can't last long, and cohabitation before marriage can sometimes help women see a person clearly.
Feelings can support our better life, but feelings are not the whole of life. Even older women can live a safe and happy life alone. Don't compromise with reality just because you are old and have too much pressure in life.
Many women of the opposite sex are reluctant to marry people they don't love, but only after marriage do they know that the world of two people is more lonely than that of one person, and there are even many more pains and pressures.
When a woman enters marriage, she will inevitably enter a new state of life. If she doesn't support and combine with her lover, she can only bear two responsibilities alone, when she pushes herself into endless suffering.