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Things are unpredictable, and life has ups and downs. Anyone can reach the peak and fall into the trough carelessly.
As Lu Yu said in Encounter, "No matter who we are, we have all experienced or are experiencing the dark moments of life. This is a long, dark, cold and desperate tunnel. "
This tunnel is a difficult trough and a test of life. There is no one around, you can only rely on yourself.
If you want to survive, you must learn to be strong inside and save yourself. Don't disturb others easily, let alone cling to others at will.
At the bottom, human feelings are as thin as paper.
In the movie "Flying Life", Zhang Chi was once a famous "car god" and won the championship of car rally for many times.
Later, he was banned for five years for participating in illegal racing and paid huge compensation.
After the lifting of the ban, he wanted to return to the racing track, so he went to the team partner who had risked his life together, hoping to get vehicle sponsorship.
Unexpectedly, those friends didn't want to lend him their car when they saw that his scenery was gone.
Mr. Jiang Yang once said: "When you are in a high position, all you see is a flashy spring dream;" When you are humble, you have a chance to see the truth of the world. "
Indeed, when you are prosperous, many people will try their best to cling to you, and when you are down and out, they will avoid you.
Before Degang Guo became famous, he went to Beijing three times.
He learned from his teachers everywhere, but no one looked up to him. He was either asked to work as a busboy in the troupe or turned him away directly.
Finally, I found a job as a singer and negotiated the price. After he finished singing, the other party turned against him and didn't give him a penny.
He laughed at himself at that time: I am willing to be a dog for others, and others are afraid that I will bite him.
These neglected experiences made him determined to get ahead and do his best to make cross talk better and better.
Now, he has become a pivotal figure in phonology, and he will never see a cold face again. Everyone greeted him with a smile and respectfully called him "Mr. Guo"
"Historical Records" has a cloud: All the world's bustling places are for profit, and all the world's bustling places are for profit.
What makes the world come and go is often not deep friendship, but common interests.
Therefore, disturbing others in the trough will not only get no benefits and help, but will also attract cynicism and even hit people when they are down.
It is better to make yourself stronger than to rely on past mutual affection or seek help from others.
When you are down and out, no one understands the joys and sorrows.
Writer Mao Mu said: "Each of us is a product of the loneliness of this planet, because we are all experiencing unique experiences."
It is this uniqueness that determines that there is no real empathy between people, and we can only spend the winter in a lonely world.
After her friend Nan Nan failed in the postgraduate entrance examination, she took a job she didn't like, had a crisis with her boyfriend, and had a conflict with her roommate.
She complained to colleagues around her from time to time, and everyone just advised her in an understatement: "This is a big deal, just get through it."
Once, at the entrance of the company's teahouse, she heard her colleagues embellish her experience and tell it to others as a joke. From time to time, someone echoed a few words: "She is really unlucky." "She deserved it."
Only then did she realize that her heart-wrenching experiences were just stories of others after dinner.
Wu Xinyi said in "I don't know what's in the heart of the mountain and the moon": "Our hearts, our flesh, grow on each other's own bodies, and the taste we taste is bittersweet, and only we know it.
Don't pin your hopes on others, don't ask others to understand your feelings, it's no use shouting. "
At the bottom, it is best not to disturb others, no one will feel your pain and despair.
People who hate you are watching your jokes, and people who care about you can only add to your troubles.
In the novel The First Half of My Life, Luo Zijun, a full-time wife, was betrayed by her husband, swept out of the house and had nowhere to go.
Good friend Tang Jing tried her best to help her find a job and a house.
But Zijun sighs and complains endlessly to Tang Jing every day.
After a long time, Tang Jing couldn't stand being disturbed. She told Zijun sternly, "You are only allowed to complain for ten minutes every day. You can't indulge in the ocean of pain and regard it as a kind of enjoyment. "
When encountering difficulties, instead of trying to find a way out, just complaining blindly is the most disgraceful depravity and the most careless interruption.
Some roads can only be walked by one person, some tiredness can only be carried by one person, and only one person is responsible for life.
No matter how difficult it is, there is only one way to cross the river.
Recently, the TV series "Settle Down" hit hard, and Wang Zijian, a long-lost talk show host, returned to the audience as an actor.
A few years ago, he hosted the famous program "Tonight's Post-80s Talk Show". On the stage, he was full of witty remarks, and the audience affectionately called him "Little Prince".
His career was in full swing, but he suffered a series of blows.
His wife not only abused him, but also secretly transferred their husband and wife's property, so he was forced to leave home cleanly.
At the same time, his program was stopped by the TV station because of irregular broadcast time and other reasons.
Wang Zijian, who was unhappy in her feelings and lost her career, was almost penniless, not only suffering from insomnia and emaciation, but also suffering from severe depression.
He didn't preach his misery everywhere, and he didn't feel depressed. Instead, get up silently and get your life back on track.
He studied a lot of psychoanalytic books, saved himself with what he learned, and received professional treatment. It took him nearly two years to finally get out of the trough.
Moreover, he also found a brand-new development direction and had a broader life.
San Mao once wrote in "Send You a Horse": "What is the heart? Like a thousand miles away, there is no boat to cross people. Others can't help except crossing by themselves. "
No one can save us from the mire. The real ferryman is always ourselves.
Life is a lonely journey, and everyone has his own difficulties. The weak lobby their misfortunes everywhere, and the strong will grow up quietly.
Don't give in to life, a person walks a long way; Don't give in to fate, bite your teeth and swallow the hard pain, and eventually you will become stronger and stronger.
Only by bravely facing hardships and striding forward firmly can we live ourselves into a mountain.
Through the storm, it is a new life.
Haruki Murakami said in Kafka by the Sea: "After the storm, you won't remember how you survived, and you're not even sure that the storm is really over.
But one thing is certain: when you cross the storm, you are no longer the same person. "
Indeed, only through the darkest moments of life can we gain a better self.
Those wounds that lick alone will become the light that will bloom in the future; Only through the lonely winter night can we usher in a bright and beautiful spring day.
God helps those who help themselves, there is no insurmountable abyss without impetuousness and complaint.
May you and I have the courage to tide over the difficulties and usher in a new life.
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Han Dan, a media practitioner, hopes to grow up with everyone in words and voices, and look at and embrace the world together. WeChat official account: listen to the past; Yashe Wenzhai; Personal micro signal: handanread.
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