In the speech "Seven years is a lifetime", Li Xiaolai mentioned his consistent methodology, which moved me very much.
I've been like this for the past few years:
What to do in the first year, study hard and adapt well in the first year.
In the second year, I learned the most basic skills, and then I grew desperately.
In the third year, harvest. . The fourth year, harvest. . The fifth year, harvest. . In the sixth year, harvest; Seventh year: rest.
In fact, life may be very simple. Let me tell you some of my methods.
When you break into a new field, there may be two modes in your life:
Li Xiaolai said in his speech that in the first year, he should study hard, adapt hard, collide everywhere and find the right direction.
At this stage, he mentioned two modes: the first mode is called fly mode, and the second mode is called bee mode.
Experiment: A glass bottle with a transparent bottom. Put the glass bottle in a place with the bottom of the glass bottle facing the sunny place. Then you put a fly in, and then you put a bee in. These two results are different.
The bee is directional, so when it sees the light, it hits the bottom of the bottle desperately. Because it thinks this is the way out, it hits it desperately until it has no strength to die.
Flies are different. You put the fly in and put the bottle there. As a result of the fly, Mao Mao hit it with a bang, and then it came out. How did you get out? I don't know, so I tell you, when you break into a field, the easiest way is to be a fly in the first part of the first year, such as the first quarter and the second quarter.
You try hard, all kinds of attempts, all kinds of collisions, you are not afraid, you can't die, and then you will soon find your way. Once you find the direction, you will immediately switch to bee mode, grow hard in that direction, and make a breakthrough.
This is my experience. It's easy to say, and then you grew up there.
When I saw these two modes, my first reaction, subconsciously, was to make a choice and label myself. Well, I'm a bee model, and I like bee diligence. But when I listened to Li Xiaolai's story and continued to talk about this experiment, I found that no model was always good and no model was always bad. There is no difference between good and bad, but it depends on the actual situation.
Looking back on the past year, I have done well in both aspects.
The first time I came into contact with narrative, it felt very corresponding to my life. I like it from the bottom of my heart. So on 20 17, I went to all the workshops related to narrative and story healing, soaked in the narrative field, went to see my favorite teachers, how they did it, listened to their stories and lived their lives well.
Participated in the seminar on teacher Zhou Zhijian's life reversal-narrative dialogue and self-orientation, story rewriting. In this workshop, I redefined my life orientation, decided to leave my job and began to become a professional narrative story therapist.
Attend the narrative consultant's supervision class-narrative private school, the first course of Zhou Zhijian. At the end of the course, I decided the name of my reading club. I want to do it: reading club with peace of mind.
Peace of mind: My peace of mind is the meaning of home. I want to accompany more people's hearts to go home together. Because I know that I can't settle down in my own life no matter how beautiful others look in my restless days. This kind of life is not like life. People like this live too hard.
When I have experienced a life of peace of mind, I hope more people have the opportunity to settle down and enjoy their lives every day. So I opened my book club: peace of mind.
Go to nanzenji to observe the class 10 days. Every day from 4: 30 in the morning to 9: 30 in the evening, I meditate, meditate and meditate every second except for eating, going to the toilet and having a short rest. On the day of 10, I didn't speak at all and couldn't say a word.
Facing the ups and downs of the mind, the entanglement between demons and demons, and the ups and downs of various feelings of the body, I feel the changes of the body cycle. From the myriad fantasies of the mind to the practice of the body every minute, the observation class in 10 days laid a solid foundation for my growth in the next year.
Go to Changsha, attend Dr. Liu Yijun's respiratory healing workshop, let the body feel completely with breathing, and awaken and heal the inner self with breathing. Before the breathing exercise begins, the teaching assistant group will ask everyone to make a wish. What do you want to experience through this workshop?
I remember what I said in my heart at that time: I always felt that I couldn't respond well to the people around me. Later, I found out that I couldn't respond to others and I couldn't respond to myself. I hope I can have more contact with myself, feel myself better and respond to myself through this breathing course.
I almost don't remember it, but when I started writing and words flowed from my fingers, I found that this thing I did subconsciously began to seep into my life little by little in the past year. I can feel myself and respond to myself better.
On April 20 17, he participated in the workshop "Overcoming Pain and Reconciliation with Yourself: Rewriting Family Stories-Narrative Healing" by Mr. Zhou. In this workshop, I saw a lot of deep pain. Almost everyone was telling stories and I was crying. In this workshop, WW's story deeply touched me. My childhood and the way I was treated were so similar that I was recognized by myself.
At the end of April and the beginning of May, for six consecutive days, Mr. Wu Xiyuan, one of the protagonists of the narrative, held a junior and intermediate seminar in Shenyang, contacted teachers in Shenyang, and finally participated in Mr. Wu's two-level course. My biggest gain in this course is not the study of knowledge, but the determination of my learning path with Mr. Zhou.
In this class in Shenyang, many teachers are senior psychological counselors, and I am just a beginner. Just finished more than four months. But in the process, many people in the group were very shocked by the group's speech and the reaction to the storyteller. Everyone feels great. I was recommended to speak on behalf of the group, and I felt that Mr. Xuan and I reacted as if they were. These are what I experienced and felt in myself when I told stories, listened to stories and responded to stories again and again in Teacher Zhou's class. This is not the knowledge in my mind, but the feeling of life. The more I can respond to myself, the more I can respond to people around me and understand what they are saying.
Teacher Ran Ran's workshop, in this course, my biggest gain was to see my husband, and more profoundly, I saw myself. The way I treat my husband now is the way my parents used to treat me. How much I don't want to be a couple like my parents, but I have become an identical couple with them. By writing and combing stories with my parents freely, I can grow up again and my life force is deeply awakened.
The super super harvest of this workshop is to meet my soul friend: Wang Zhe. When I was sitting in the workshop, I saw the white, tall, elegant and handsome girl at first sight. The next day's rehearsal, we hooked up and tacitly shared the story of one of the rehearsals that day. Some people seem to know each other for a long time when they meet for the first time. Zhezhe and I are like this, as if we have known each other all our lives. This meeting is just a reunion.
From February to June, I took an online spiritual writing course in Ran Ran once a week for three months, which made my life firmly rooted. No matter what happens, no matter where I am, as long as I need it, I will pick up my notebook and pen and start writing now. A3' s big grid book, 80 pages, has written about 6 books, exceeding 65438+ million words. Draw a picture one by one, write life wholeheartedly with your own pen and hand. There is no white road in life, and every stroke counts.
The healing power of teacher Zhou's story, the fifth anniversary-the lecture hall of narrative practice essence and the second-order narrative consultant development supervision class-narrative private school class, held in Beijing, immersed in teacher Zhou's narrative story healing course to continue learning.
Because of my internship for half a year, I had the opportunity to get an interview with Teacher Zhou in this workshop and got the response from the whole class. I was shocked at that time. I could have been seen, heard, understood and appreciated in this way, and finally witnessed by Teacher Zhou and the whole class. The positive response that I haven't heard in the past six months has been fully supported in this workshop, which has strengthened my path of continuing to do narrative.
I have been immersed in Ran Ran's story therapist workshop for four days in a row, which has made me more deeply aware of my belief that I am not good enough and I am not worthy, and has also re-deconstructed this part, making my life lighter and living in the present more comfortable.
In this workshop, what moved me more was the part about relationships and boundaries. I was shocked when I saw that the small silk scarf representing myself was surrounded by many silk scarves and I couldn't find myself. It turned out that I was gradually entangled and entangled by feelings after feelings, and the relationship became extremely struggling and painful. At that time, I made up my mind that I would untie these shackles, clarify the boundaries in the relationship, and let myself live easily and well.
Participated in the workshop entitled Boundaries and Intimacy: Children's Inner Healing-Narrative Spirituality and Story Healing by Teacher Zhou. In this workshop, I became more and more aware of the importance of boundaries. Without boundaries, there will be no real intimacy; There are no boundaries, these so-called intimate relationships are just wearing good clothes and controlling you; Without boundaries, there is no true love.
Since September, I have been practicing the lesson of the boundary between my mother and my lover. When I can say no, when I can truly express myself, when I can honestly face myself, I am no longer afraid of relationship breakdown, I am no longer afraid of others being happy, I am no longer afraid of conflict, I begin to truly face what is happening now, practice expressing my feelings, and establish a real intimate relationship.
I no longer accept what others call being good to me, all for me; I will never do anything good for you to my family and friends around me again; Start to distinguish which ones are yours and which ones are mine; What I am willing to accept, what I am willing to bear, what I am unwilling and unwilling to bear; Let the relationship relax and let each other relax.
Attend the third period of teacher Zhou: narrative counselor development supervision class-narrative private school class. In this process, I learned the lesson of self-love and self-love, which has always been emphasized by Teacher Zhou. We can't give others what we don't have. Teacher Zhou has always taught us to love ourselves, love ourselves and take care of ourselves.
He said so and did the same. He goes to Kyoto every year to enjoy cherry blossoms, maple leaves, hot springs, tea and massage to nourish himself. In every class, he treats every student with heart, but he never flatters, and the boundaries are very clear.
After the course, it happened to be cold in Beijing. I have been practicing loving myself all winter. From aromatherapy and candles before going to bed every night, to indoor music and lighting, to steaming in winter, to doing SPA massage, to learning to cook and preparing food for yourself. . . Practice loving yourself and taking care of yourself bit by bit.
When I can take care of myself, I have more space in my heart. I can accompany my lover, parents, relatives and friends and slowly bring love to more and more people around me.
From June 165438+ 10 to June 65438+ 10, Mr. Ran Ran returned to the online class again to practice spiritual writing with his classmates in order to form writing exercises at least once a week and make deep links with life at any time.
I attended the workshop entitled "Retrieving the Initial Heart-to-Heart Dialogue and Self-orientation, Rewriting the Life Story" organized by Mr. Zhou at the end of October/Kloc-July, which was the first anniversary of attending Mr. Zhou's course. I walked into the classroom twice and had two feelings. 20 17 walked in for the first time at the beginning of the year, and life was too hectic and fragmented. When I walked in again at the end of this year, my life had a solid strength. I firmly did what I liked and influenced many people around me. This year, my life has undergone a profound transformation. I am constantly rewriting the past life stories and gradually becoming a beautiful life. I want to be bold.
This year, I struggled, feared, worried, hoped and had a good time. I felt this year wholeheartedly and experienced it wholeheartedly. By the end of the year, I want to say: how much I like myself, and I finally grow into what I like. Instead of doing things better and better as before, I don't like myself more and more.
On June+10, 5438, she led the online reading club, and the four girls became friends of the soul from strangeness and unfamiliarity, supporting each other vigorously.
March-65438+February, Litchi micro-class: Peace of mind reading club, opening online reading leadership by reading+free writing. From March to June, teacher Zhou Zhijian's "The Healing Power of Stories"; From July to September, Teacher Zhou Zhijian "embraced imperfection"; 10- 12, Teacher Zhou Zhijian's Love Yourself; I read 54 books, counted 6 13 fans and listened to 15000+ times.
4 offline peace of mind reading sessions from June to July;
In July, Wuhan "tell your story" workshop;
In August, Harbin Institute of Technology "Tell Your Story" workshop;
In September, Mindwork Mind Decompression Salon;
65438+ 10 month, freelance writing 28 antenna training camp;
The offline activities of Xin 'an Reading Club in February 1 1-65438+ were counted for 5 times.
There are also: the free writing and sharing of Athena English Speech Club, the free writing and offline salon experience of vivid understanding institutions, the free writing and salon experience of music union teachers, an online sharing of learning, and the online sharing of dark institutions.
Last March, we hosted a classic of 300+ people, and Uncle Akiba shared their "Four IP Super Personal Beijing Stations" and the host of "Fuck up" in May.
In May, he hosted the Touma Summit Gala for 500+ people, and in February, he made his own forum and hosted the professional values experience activities.
There are also some part-time jobs: the explanation instructor of the speech training camp, a ***9 issues, each ranging from 10 to 15, the tutor 100 or so, and the students stand out from more than 200 people in the current period to become champions, and the list is endless;
At the same time, the lecturers of junior and senior high school career courses led more than 200 students to explore and discover their careers, which provided a lot of support and guidance for children's career exploration;
As Li Xiaolai said, during this year, I studied hard, tried to adapt, collided everywhere and found my way.
No matter what I like, no matter whether I am good at it or not, I will start to think of various ways to do it well as long as I have the opportunity.
When I don't know what to do, I'm like a fly, bumping around looking for directions;
Once you have a direction and direction, just like a bee, you will try your best to grow in that direction and break through.
In this way, I grew up savagely A year later, I completed the first year of hard study and hard adaptation.
Many friends privately trusted my recommended books, books about narrative stories, and several books I like very much. I guarantee that every book is a good book that makes you cry and touches your little heart. I recommend it to everyone.
Zhou Zhijian: The healing power of stories, saying goodbye to family injuries, loving yourself and embracing imperfections.
Books by Mr. Golden Shield and Mr. Huck: Grow up with your heart, be yourself or a can, make love a kind of ability, life is the most worthwhile place, the mysterious formula of life, accompany your children to meet their beautiful self, your dreams and your strength.
Kim: "Such a deep play"
Natalie Gao Bai's Trilogy: Spiritual Writing, Wild Writing and Healing Writing.
Britney Brown: Imperfect gifts and the power of courage.
Ma Ran: The most beautiful flowers bloom from pain, goddess. The more you write, the more you understand.