First, the close relationship between Baoyu and xiren can prove that Baoyu loves xiren deeply.
Xiren was originally the maid of Grandmother Jia, whose real name was Pearl. Because the old lady dotes on Baoyu, she is afraid that Baoyu's maid will not have people who are devoted and loyal. She was always happy that xiren was kind-hearted and conscientious, so she married Baoyu. Baoyu knew her real name was Hua, and once saw an old poem "Hua Qi attacks people", so he went back to Grandma Ming and changed his name to Aroma. It is said that xiren is a bit silly. When serving grandma, she only has grandma in her heart. With Baoyu, I only have Baoyu in my heart. Xiren takes care of Baoyu's daily diet, which can be said to be meticulous. With Baoyu, she only has Baoyu in her heart. For example, after sleeping with Baoyu every night, she will take down the jade worn by Baoyu and bake it under the pillow to avoid freezing Baoyu's neck the next day; For example, every time Baoyu goes out or is called by Jia Zheng to meet a visitor, once he comes back late, he will look around in the garden or wait by the door. This "infatuated" loyalty is the foundation of love.
Jia Baoyu was dreaming in a dreamland. After wet dream, xiren dressed Baoyu who had just woken up and found his underwear wet. He asked Baoyu what happened. Baoyu's hand twisted, and he came out, blushing with shame and afraid to ask again. After dinner, xiren changed Baoyu's Hanfu. Baoyu is ashamed to tell people, good sister. "So he linked the dream to the attack in detail. Then he said that he covered his face in shame and fell to his knees with a smile when telling the story of the stone rain given by the police illusion. Baoyu also likes the tenderness and charm of Xiren, so he forces Xiren to train Shi Yu with the police. Aroma always knew that the old lady had given herself to Baoyu. Now, it's not a gift, so she secretly tried it with Baoyu. Fortunately, no one touched her. From then on, Baoyu looked at xiren differently than others, and xiren was more devoted to Baoyu.
This "Shi Yu of Jia Baoyu's First Trial" is the first time that Xiren has achieved Jia Baoyu's sexual life. According to the present statement, "Attacking People" is Jia Baoyu's first "* * *" book, but this time he wrote both Baoyu and the opposite sex on the front. It is concise, implicit and critical: after a few words, write an outline at a time. Since then, the unique position of xiren in Baoyu's mind has been determined. To be fair, xiren didn't seduce Baoyu. When Baoyu was "forcibly pulled" in the book, she still "twisted for a long time", just reluctantly. What's more, she is not only facing a man, but also a gentle and handsome boy. Besides, the old lady has already made plans to be Baoyu's aunt sooner or later. Therefore, from the angle of attacking people, his affair with Baoyu is beyond reproach. Zhi Yanzhai believes that the "sexual rain first trial" incident conforms to the identity of the attacker. Bai Dun, a red scientist, thinks that although Zhi Yanzhai has a "Taoist spirit", he gave warm praise to Huaxi Ren without reservation. It is generally believed that Zhi Yanzhai is a person who is close to and knows Cao Xueqin. As for some critics, there are many criticisms about the motive of the affair between Xiren and Baoyu, even saying that it is to "restrain and coerce" Baoyu, which is beyond the text and unconvincing.
Baoyu's "forcing the assassin to have sex with the police illusion" can be regarded as Baoyu's emotional catharsis from "joy" to "love" for the assassin. In the future, "Baoyu regards Xiren as different from others." From the perspective of comparable objects, the most comparable "other" is Qingwen (with the original text as evidence: Fu Xia Qingwen). In terms of appearance, Xiren looks worse than Qingwen, and Baoyu really likes Qingwen, but now Baoyu prefers Xiren to Qingwen.
In the time of "Love a Good Night", xiren went home to visit relatives for the first time, crying in front of her mother and brother, and rejected the idea of her family's redemption ... His mother and brother saw him so stubborn and saw her and Baoyu with their own eyes. The relationship is extremely close. "They will never be redeemed." Aaron "stubbornly" refused her family's redemption, not only because he "eats and dresses like a master and doesn't scold him all day", but because he has fallen in love with Baoyu and feels that he can rely on him for a lifetime. After making a "firm" decision to refuse to be redeemed, xiren couldn't help worrying about Baoyu's "unwillingness to do things right" and thinking about how to make Baoyu listen and accept her "advice": xiren saw Baoyu's abnormal personality from an early age, and his mischievousness and stubbornness were not only due to the large number of children, but also to several strange and unspeakable faults. Recently, because of grandma's doting, parents can't be strict and restrained, but feel more dissolute and willful and don't like to do things right. Every time I try to persuade, I won't listen. Today, there happens to be a theory of redemption. First, find out their feelings with deceptive words, suppress their anger, and then make good suggestions. Sure enough, if the attacker said that he wanted to be "redeemed", it would be immediate, which made Baoyu very sad. Aroma saw Baoyu's face covered with tears and said with a smile, What's so sad about the sword? If you really keep me, I won't go out. Baoyu said with a smile, "Which ones do you think?" ? I depend on you. Good sister, good sister! Don't say two or three dollars, even two or three hundred dollars, I still rely on it. So xiren said three chapters of the contract that she had been thinking about for a long time: first, no swearing; Second, let Baoyu say that he really likes reading, whether he likes it or not, just in front of his master or others. Don't just criticize Joe for slander and pretend that he likes reading, so as not to be scolded and beaten. Third, fear can destroy monks' slander, fat powder ... and stop eating rouge on people's mouths and their love for red. "In order to keep the fragrance, Baoyu said bit by bit," Change another one and twist your mouth if you say it again. "Never say it again." Change, change. What else is there? Say it. Aroma said with a smile, "No need." . Just behave yourself, don't be arbitrary. You do everything, and eight people can't lift me in a sedan chair. "Baoyu said with a smile," You have been here for a long time, and you are not afraid of not having a sedan chair for eight people. " Aroma sneered, "I don't want it. With that blessing, it is meaningless. It is not very interesting to sit down. "
Baoyu said, "You're in a sedan chair, and there aren't eight people, so I'm not afraid." It seems that he has already decided that Xiren is one of his own. Later, I learned that Mrs. Wang had confirmed the identity of xiren. Baoyu couldn't help laughing. I don't know if you can go home! That time I went home, and when I came back, I said that your brother wanted to redeem you, that it was nothing if I didn't land here, and that I was fooled by those heartless words. From now on, I will see who dares to ask you out. Aroma sneered, "Don't say that. From then on, I was a man with a wife. I left without telling you. I'd better go back to my wife. " Baoyu smiled and said, even if I am not good, go back to be your wife and let others hear that I am not good. What are you trying to tell me? "xiren laughed." What's so boring? Should I follow the dirty people? Otherwise, there will be another death! People who live a hundred years old will die anyway. The sound is gone, and they can't hear or see. Hearing this, Baoyu shook his mouth and said, "Forget it, don't say these words. "。" ..... xiren busy cover your mouth.
"Enthusiasm" is a very realistic adjective. When Aron returned to Hongyi Garden from his own home, Baoyu first asked the maid to bring Aron's special crisp cheese. The maid said it was eaten by Mammy Li. Aaron was afraid that Baoyu would lose his temper, so he said that he ate it badly last time and now he doesn't want to eat it. He said he wanted to eat dried chestnuts (deliberately changing the subject) and asked Baoyu to peel chestnuts for her. He also said that two aunts and sisters are good-looking, so that people can wear red and so on. In this series of dialogues, readers can feel that Baoyu and xiren are called masters and servants, and they are really like lovers. Not only do they have nothing to say, they can also talk about their feelings, and they are "different". Many times, when Baoyu and xiren are together, they will have a particularly natural, kind and willful performance: coquetry, infidelity, anger, happy smile, wronged cry and anger for no reason. Baoyu often has a weak childlike innocence in front of xiren, saying stupid things that turn to ashes and smoke, and can't help crying. Aroma's gentle persuasion turned into comfort. This kind of love has a different kind of lingering warmth.
Sometimes Baoyu doesn't even want to tell Daiyu what he has learned in life, but he is willing to tell xiren. The thirty-sixth time, the night before, Baoyu and xiren talked about the significance of some people's death, saying that if they die, "you can cry my tears into a river", and that is the time to die. The next day, he witnessed the love at first sight between Ling Guan and Jia Qiang. When he returned to Hongyi Hospital, he saw Daiyu and Aron talking, and he sighed with Aron! "Last night, it was wrong to say that you buried me with tears. I can't have it all. Since then, only everyone has their own tears. " Aroma didn't fully understand Baoyu's thoughts, but Baoyu was still willing to confide in her. Baoyu wouldn't have done this if he didn't love attacking people in his heart.
Secondly, comparing Baoyu's attitude towards Qingwen and xiren proves that Baoyu loves xiren.
The thirty-first time, Baoyu was angry because Qingwen had picked a thorn in xiren's side, and wanted to drive Qingwen away: "Don't be angry, I guess what's on your mind. I will go back to my wife, and you are older than me. Can I walk you out? " Qingwen felt hurt again when she heard this, and said bitterly, "Why should I go out? If you don't like me, you can't send me out in other ways. " Baoyu said, "Have I ever made such a noise? You must go out. Why don't you go back to your wife and see you off? " He stood up and left (in sharp contrast to the urgency of Baoyu when Aaron said that his family wanted to redeem himself). Aroma quickly turned around and stopped her. "Where are you going?" She said with a smile. Baoyu said, "Go back to your wife." Aroma said with a smile, "It's really boring! Aren't you ashamed to go back? Even if he is serious, it's not too late to talk back to his wife when this anger goes down. Now hurry back to serious business and don't make your wife suspicious? " Baoyu said, "Madam, I won't be suspicious. I just made it clear that he wanted to go. " Qingwen cried, "How long have I been clamoring to go? Forgive me for being angry. Send me words. Just go back, and you can't get out of this door if you hit your head. " Baoyu said that he is surprisingly healthy. If you don't go, what are you doing? I can't stand noise. I might as well clean up. "Said must go back. ("I must go back" is obviously not a joke, nor is it anger.) When xiren saw that she could not stop, she had to kneel down. Bi Hen, Qiuwen, Musk Moon and other maids saw the movement, and all of them were in the house silently listening to the movement outside. At this time, they all came in and knelt down when they heard Aaron begging on his knees. Baoyu quickly helped xiren up, sighed, sat on the bed, called everyone up, and said to xiren, "What can I do? "This one is heartbroken and no one knows." I can't help crying. Aroma saw Baoyu crying, and she cried herself.
There are two meanings here: first, only xiren knelt down to plead, but Baoyu had no choice but to promise not to drive Qingwen away; Second, everyone kneel down. Baoyu only helped xiren up, and qingwen cried while she was distressed. It can be seen that xiren's position in Baoyu's heart is irreplaceable by others.
It is generally believed that Baoyu sent xiren away on the thirty-fourth return, and then asked Qingwen to send a handkerchief to Daiyu, and he trusted Qingwen more than xiren. In fact, this is a big mistake. Imagine that Baoyu is a person who is willing to work hard on girls and is considerate and meticulous about girls' minds. He asked Qingwen to send her a handkerchief. Although he meant to trust Qingwen, the most important thing was to be considerate and offensive, for fear that she would be angry and not like it, so he tried not to let her know. Being so careful shows that he has an attack in his heart. Therefore, although Baoyu lamented his love for girls, the only one who really loved "outside Daiyu" was Xiren.
The thirtieth time, Baoyu came back from the rain and knocked at the door. The little girls were playing and didn't hear. Aron answered the door, but Baoyu thought my little girl was lazy and kicked Aron by mistake. Baoyu couldn't bear to be considerate of xiren. Baoyu ... poured tea on the case and gargled xiren's mouth. Aroma knew that Baoyu was unstable, and he wouldn't listen unless he was asked to wait on him. Second, if you must disturb others, you might as well leave him alone: therefore, Baoyu only waits on the couch. After even the fifth watch, Baoyu hurried out to change clothes, called Wang Jiren and asked him himself. Wang Jiren asked the reason, but it was only an injury, so he said the name of a pill, how to take it and how to apply it. Baoyu remembered, went back to the garden and nursed back to health. "
Compare the performance of Baoyu when Qingwen was ill in the fifty-second session. Baoyu stood by (Qingwen) and asked for a while, "Would you like some boiled water?" At that time, he ordered: "Take a break." He once put a squirrel cloak on his back, and once again ordered ("life" means ordering others to take it, but he personally served the attacker in front of him) to take a crutch pillow and lean on him. Anxious Yang Qingwen said, "little ancestor! Go to sleep. Stay up late at night, and I will lick my eyes tomorrow. What can I do? " Baoyu saw that he was in a hurry and had to sleep at random, but he still couldn't sleep. At that time, I only heard the bell strike four times and just finished filling it; Slowly pick out the fluff with a small toothbrush. "That's good," Musca Moon said. "If you don't pay attention, you won't see it again." Baoyu was eager to see it, and said, "It's exactly the same." Qingwen coughed several times and finally made it up. She said: "Although I have made up for it, I don't like it after all. I can't do it anymore! " It's warm, and then my body can't help falling down. It is said that Baoyu was exhausted when Qingwen finished mending bird feathers, so he ordered the little girl to beat each other for him (and the little girl) and have a rest. Before I finished eating, it was already dawn, and I didn't go out. I just called the doctor quickly. It was almost dawn, so I called the doctor. Aroma said, "Baoyu didn't wash and dress in the fifth watch, so he hurried out to change clothes and asked Wang Jiren to inquire for himself." This difference should be obvious!
Aroma and Qingwen had a quarrel. Baoyu said to Aroma, "You are angry. I will praise him tomorrow." Baoyu's flattering "he" refers to xiren, and "you" is Qingwen!
As for (Qingwen), this kind of "tearing a fan to make my daughter laugh" that everyone appreciates is a rich joke, and crying for xiren with Baoyu is not an emotion at all. Baoyu didn't want to find Qingwen that day, but happened to meet Qingwen when he was looking for xiren. Qingwen doesn't have much decoration, her hair is loose and her coat is drooping, but she looks like a stunning girl who laughs in spring. Baoyu wobbled when drinking, so Qingwen tore up two fans for fun and laughed happily himself. Can this explain Baoyu's special feelings for Qingwen? Just like a playmate's friendship!
When Mrs. Wang took people to the hospital to drive Qingwen away, Baoyu was too scared to say a word to protect Qingwen. After Qingwen's death, Baoyu wrote a colorful and emotional Lotus for Qingwen. Some people think that this is the proof that Baoyu loves Qingwen [2]. The author believes that this just proves that Baoyu doesn't love Qingwen. Imagine if Daiyu died and Baoyu was heartbroken, how could he be in the mood to write Lotus? What's more, when Baoyu read obituary and burned incense to pay homage to Qingwen, Daiyu came out from the shadow of flowers. In Daiyu's obituary, "in the red account, the child is affectionate; After the loess in the middle of Gansu, my daughter's life was thin, and they discussed it for a while. Baoyu proposed to change it to "Under the screen window, I miss you;" Loess in central Gansu, dark victory! "This is clearly addressed to the future dai jade. No wonder Daiyu "suddenly changed color" after listening to it. Although there are infinite suspicions, they refuse to show it. " Whether Fu is written to Qingwen or written to Daiyu in advance depends on everyone's understanding.
From the above comparison, it can be seen that Baoyu's affection for xiren is undoubtedly love, but what he shows to Qingwen is only a very pure friendship.