Speaking of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I believe many people have a bitter stomach to vomit. As one of the top killers affecting marriage, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been concerned and criticized by people. Many times, women are very afraid of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. What's more, they choose not to get married because they don't want to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It can be seen that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has great influence on marriage.
Why is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law so difficult to handle in China? Because everyone pays more attention to family relations, even if the husband and wife get married, many things are not decided by two people, and they will also involve family background. As an important role in the family, mother-in-law can directly affect the marriage of husband and wife.
The reason why many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations have become so difficult is that both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not regard each other as their relatives, and they still haggle over many things. In this way, the relationship is naturally difficult to deal with.
In fact, A Yan thinks that if we can all learn to put ourselves in each other's shoes, consider each other's feelings from each other's perspective, learn to understand each other's situation, and have some emotional abilities, perhaps the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become more harmonious.
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As we all know, in everyone's mind, it is very important to people around us. In the face of some things, the balance in my heart will naturally tilt to more important people, which is understandable.
For example, in life, my mother-in-law will definitely like her son more, but she won't like her daughter-in-law so much. There is a difference between intimacy and sparseness. In fact, no one is equal in this world. Even the mother's compatriots, the mother will prefer one of them, but will not like the rest of the children so much.
This kind of thing is easy to think of favoritism. Yes, many times, if a family has more children, parents will be biased and there is nothing they can do.
Just don't be too eccentric. Don't choose to exploit other children just because you spoil one child. After all, the palm of your hand is full of meat, which really hurts a person's heart. Then don't blame others for falling out.
Because people generally want to pursue fairness and be treated fairly, if they are not satisfied, it is easy to escape.
Reader Macey's contribution, which she told about what happened to her and her husband, also made her find it hard to accept.
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Macey and her husband have been married for five years, and their children are all three years old. Macey has always had a good relationship with her husband, who is a warm person and takes good care of Macey and the children. Even Meng Xiao's friends envy her for finding such a responsible and painful husband.
Although Macey and her husband have a good relationship, there are still some problems, and that is the problem of marriage. A large part of the reason is because of Macey's mother-in-law.
If the only thing that bothers Macey in this marriage is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Since marriage, Macey has never dealt with her mother-in-law, and there are frequent frictions between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Fortunately, after Macey and her husband moved out, there were fewer opportunities to see their mother-in-law, which ensured that the conflict between them did not escalate.
Macey's husband's family is very complicated. The man's father died a long time ago, leaving his mother, him and his brother. The male mother has always liked her youngest son very much, and she is also very fond of him, and she is almost responsive.
If we just spoil our youngest son, there is no problem. The problem is that we are too eccentric. We hope that Macey's husband will let his little son do everything from childhood. When he grows up, he hopes that men will make money and come back to raise his little son.
Macey didn't know all kinds of customs until after she got married. Because of these things, Macey loves her husband very much, so she quarreled with her mother-in-law many times.
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When Macey married her husband, he didn't have a house or a car, and her mother-in-law didn't give her eldest son money to get married. Fortunately, Macey is determined to marry a man and is willing to suffer with him.
They just got married and lived with their mother-in-law. Macey often quarrels with her mother-in-law because she doesn't like her mother-in-law always exploiting her husband and sticking to her brother-in-law. After the quarrel, Macey simply gritted her teeth and moved out with her husband, and made up her mind to have as little contact with her mother-in-law as possible.
These years are the most satisfying years for Macey. Without her eccentric mother-in-law, Macey and her husband are more loving. Moreover, the two have been trying to save money after marriage and have already saved enough down payment for a house.
When my mother-in-law heard that Macey wanted to buy a house, she didn't want to help at all. Instead, she went to Macey and said, "Daughter-in-law, you must leave one of the houses you bought to my youngest son. He doesn't like living in an old house. Just when you buy a new house, ask him to move in. "
Macey doesn't know where her mother-in-law got the courage to say these words. Looking at her eccentric mother-in-law, Macey was so angry that she sarcastically said, "Yes, the house is 10,000 yuan per square meter, and a room is less than ten square meters. Just ask my brother-in-law to give me 100 thousand yuan! "
When her mother-in-law asked her for money, she immediately stopped talking, but complained that Macey had no conscience and didn't even help her relatives. She also scolded her eldest son for marrying his daughter-in-law and forgetting his mother. When Macey heard these words, he became more angry and had a big fight with her.
In Yan's view, everyone may admit that no one can guarantee that a bowl of water is flat, even if it is flesh and blood. We don't mind you being nice to others. You can be eccentric, but please don't be too obvious, and don't let others pay for your eccentricity.
Because people's patience is limited, if they overdo it, don't blame them for not considering family ties and making a face-injury move.