Although Taozi and her boyfriend have been in love for four years, in fact, when they went to Gulangyu Island in Xiamen two years ago, the boys carefully prepared a romantic proposal on the water. However, Peach felt that she didn't know enough about her boyfriend at that time. She told her boyfriend that she felt insecure and hoped that the boys wouldn't worry. It was a romantic proposal that was euphemistically rejected.
As Peach is the only child in the family, Mom and Dad have played the role of too many caregivers since childhood, and they have always had a good relationship with Peach, so that the family situation has cultivated many lifestyles for Peach.
For example, my boyfriend should take good care of me every day, and she won't wake up until her boyfriend picks her up in the morning.
At first, my boyfriend thought the peach-like temperament was very cute, and the whole process of taking care of peaches made him feel needed, helped and powerful.
Even if two people are so harmonious together, why do they continue to have such a bad result? How to guarantee peaches?
First of all, we need to see why boyfriends join the blacklist of peaches. What does it mean to join the blacklist?
The breakthrough point of peach breaking up with her boyfriend is about the gift of Children's Day on June 1st. Peaches want to give gifts, suggesting that her boyfriend failed several times, so she got angry:
"I have hinted that you are so obvious. I just need to speak at once, but what's the point if I speak at once?
I don't lack this talent, okay? I can afford it myself. Don't I just want you to pay more attention to one thing? You don't care about my feelings at all. In that case, no one can compare with breaking up. "
Boyfriend is very tolerant of peaches. When he saw that Peach was angry, he immediately bought some gifts, apologized and smiled, but Peach felt insincere, and deliberately refused to answer the phone or return messages. Her boyfriend waited for her at the bottom of the building for several nights, but Peach didn't go downstairs and threatened her boyfriend to say, "I _ broke up."
_ If the boy finally couldn't stand it, he said, "Well, if you are not satisfied with what I did, let's go.
Peach saw her boyfriend willing to break up, and suddenly felt that she was out of control and collapsed. The air raid boyfriend sent a mobile phone close to 100. He stammered at his boyfriend, begged him to forgive himself, apologized, and got angry. ......
Obviously, in that case, it is not easy for boys to respond to information at all.
When Peach saw that her boyfriend didn't return the message, she began to talk to her boyfriend on the phone for dozens of times. Until late at night, the other party's mobile phone was dead and turned on and off automatically. Peach cried all night, but the next morning she found that her boyfriend had joined the blacklist and had all her contact numbers!
Boyfriend's blacklisting is ostensibly to disconnect your contact phone number, but the only real answer is that for your boyfriend, you have become a threat to his daily life.
There will be some strangers in your circle of friends, and they may even forget who they are. However, unless the friends directory is full or under some special circumstances, it is not easy for everyone to join the blacklist or delete someone casually.
Even if you meet these pen pals who send friends to WeChat merchants' circle of friends, it is very likely that a large part of them just choose not to look at his circle of friends. To join the blacklist, you must find you professionally and then join the blacklist professionally. You can imagine how extreme your brand image is for the other party.
Originally, the other party may choose to be polite, but because of your purpose and execution, the other party has to choose the way of preventing consciousness in order to better protect itself.
After talking about being hacked, let's see why I can't control my personal behavior.
Hacked, she couldn't contact her boyfriend. In order to get it back, Peach squatted in front of her boyfriend's house every day to watch him go to work, and even once opened the door when her boyfriend was driving. She immediately got into her car and asked to get back together. My boyfriend blew up immediately, but she didn't drive away most of the day. Finally, she could only agree that Momo would go to see her two weeks later.
DOG was convinced. It was not until the time was up and her boyfriend didn't make any noise that DOG realized that she had been cheated by her boyfriend.
At this time, in fact, everyone can clearly see that DOG has rested and has no time to take care of what happened to the other party.
There are usually two situations behind this:
First, in daily life, when I was a child, I often put forward boundaries with my parents in daily life.
Everyone knows that the interaction in marriage begins at an early age.
If children lack a sense of boundary in their interaction with their parents, it will also lead to the same lack of boundary depending on the other half of the marriage relationship.
When parents are young, they can't tell the age group clearly, which will also make their children have the same hope for the other half of the marriage relationship when they grow up.
At the beginning of love, everyone is looking forward to each other's integration. The closer the relationship, the better the sense of boundaries, and even happier. But with the dissipation of enthusiasm, people gradually think about their own indoor space, and it is necessary to follow at will.
However, when your definition of boundaries is missing, it will make the other person very painful, if you want to escape from this relationship.
The second is caused by childhood trauma.
Many children have experienced being left behind by their parents in various ways in their childhood.
For example, no matter how you express it, there is no answer.
When I was young, my parents often threatened my children. You don't need to do anything you need. I picked it up in a trash can when I was a child, not from my biological parents.
And children cannot live without their parents. Under the condition that long-term lack is itself safe, it is fear of death to let children separate. This experience is remembered by the human body, and it is reopened by the fear of death in childhood because of breaking up.
Just like people who fall into the water, they catch what they see. How can they care about what they have caught?
Knowing this problem, momo controlled her mental state in my emergency. Let Mo Mo establish the present situation.
When a person is regarded as a threat, whatever you do will be interpreted as intentional.
There will be a basic law in laws and regulations, and no one can escape it, because reasoning is conducted in accordance with the law. To put it bluntly, if you want to add a crime, you can always find it.
In each other's eyes, we are an existence that destroys him and keeps everything normal and daily life. Therefore, what we did well, called trying, rather than being happy, also proved that we were right to leave. Only when the mentality is not stimulated and slowly recovered can everyone's goodness be realized by the other party again.
After a month of painful waiting, the deer met an emotional counselor and finally met a breakthrough.
Because of the rising temperature, the quilt I left at my boyfriend's house in summer has never been taken home. So, my boyfriend sent a short message on his mobile phone, telling him that he wanted to get his bedding suit back. This is also a legitimate reason, and finally he made an appointment for her.
At this moment, in order to further eliminate her boyfriend's vigilance, let DOG find a common basin friend to help DOG take the items home and convey the following sentence:
Because you don't really want to see me, let this friend come and get her things.
This person's behavior completely exceeded her boyfriend's expectation, which made her realize once again that DOG is actually an understanding person, and it is not easy to hurt him. After a week, Momo tried to send a \/letter to a friend with his mobile phone, and it didn't take long to verify it.
It is not necessarily difficult to save feelings. In fact, it is more difficult to resist your own mentality and do what you have to do.