There is another sentence that is also very valuable: "In this era, real opportunities are often disguised as traps, and real traps seem to be huge opportunities."
Is the immediate temptation an opportunity or a trap?
Next, I'll show you a story that you can't extricate yourself from falling into a trap to scare you. Pay attention to this problem first.
If swearing can solve this problem, I can get the first place. But in fact, if the beating and cursing were effective, if it could sober people up, there wouldn't be so many "stupid women" desperate to go to the temptation trap.
I recently came across such a case. By reading this case, I will teach you how to deal with those irresistible temptations, how to learn from love rat and love rat, and how to have a pair of discerning eyes.
Here's the thing: an executive from a foreign company came to the company. He used to be the president of a famous company in China. He is brilliant and personable. Everyone drank a little at the company dinner. He kissed a beautiful employee and said that he fell in love with that girl at first sight. In the company, the gentleman claimed that he was divorced and "confessed" to the girl that he had been separated from his wife for a long time and had two sons.
The girl is a little confused. First of all, this gentleman is charming, handsome, talented and rich, and he also shows his love and appreciation for the girl. At the same time, the girl herself is single and definitely wants to meet a man with quality. But I am also worried. After all, others have families and are not divorced. How to treat and deal with this "temptation"? She came to consult me.
My first inference: this man, with high emotional intelligence and rich experience, completely beats you. This disparity in strength is enough to make any girl feel that she has met each other for a long time, rather than the perfect man or blue confidante customized by God himself.
The second inference: he and his wife are separated, and there are problems in their marriage, which means that he may have problems himself. He started hooking up with people outside without divorce, and he didn't say how to deal with family problems, which further shows that this man has problems.
Where is the root of the problem, whether it is serious or not, is still inconclusive, but it does not prevent you from paying more attention. Too many people always fall on the same stone. Even if you end up with him, he may still have problems. Don't think that you will easily become an exception.
The third inference: he used the potential energy of talent and the convenience of his position to covet young and beautiful girls and earn a sense of existence from being worshipped, which is also a temptation. Physical and mental orgasms are the same.
Don't think it's a good deal to meet such a person, so be especially careful:
It is not ruled out that he will continue to control you mentally and physically under the guise of illusory love and commitment, with promotion, salary increase and property as bait, and with the threat of dismissing you and damaging your reputation.
As a man, I laid hands on him too hard, why bother a man!
I didn't tell the girl what to do directly, but asked her first, what do you think and what to do. It is meaningless to make comments, beat and scold without considering the ideas of the parties concerned. Moreover, my judgment may be wrong, because the information I obtained is "one-sided".
Therefore, there is a fourth inference: he is indeed a very good and excellent man, which is worth grasping. It is lucky to grasp it, but it is also robbery to fail to grasp it. There is a golden sentence on the Internet: "How can a woman who loves an eagle fall in love with a crow?" After all, eagles are rare, but they can't be loved or hurt.
She consulted me twice on this question, and the first time I gave three suggestions:
1. In private, you can make a fool of yourself, but keep yourself steady and don't be suspected of a third party;
2. All occasions where you get along should have clear boundaries, so that the other party can feel your bottom line;
3. Pay attention to your words and deeds and the signals you can release, and let the other party think that you are gullible or casual. People who recruit mosquitoes often have their own reasons. You release a feeling to others, and some people will have evil thoughts.
Generally speaking, there is only one guiding ideology: let the bullets fly for a while. Since the situation is unknown, since it is inevitable under the same roof, you should guard yourself first and wait and see.
Before the story was finished, the second consultation exposed specific problems. For example, I often invite her to read, eat, watch movies, and even invite her to my own home. The girl is taking a nap on the sofa, and he runs to sleep next to her, which is extremely ambiguous ... In her own words, if this continues, she will lose herself. It will probably turn into an example at the beginning of the article.
Well, it seems that more specific suggestions are needed.
Frequent dates, have they all been rejected?
Doing it too simply may make the other person feel embarrassed and bear a grudge. After all, he is a leader, and it is not time to give up his post. After all, there is a better choice. So some can make an appointment, some find excuses to refuse, and some stand firm. For example, you can go to work and study in public; Out of a little privacy, I made an excuse to go to the movies. Never go on an intimate date.
Make a stand to the other side:
1. Don't get involved in other people's emotional marriage;
Huang Hua's eldest daughter dare not bear the reputation of destroying others' feelings and family. Even if it is not true, rumors are greater than floods and beasts;
Youth waits for no man. If you are ambiguous, you may miss your destiny.
The first two are particularly important. There is a subtext: if you really like me, you won't put me in a position that may ruin my reputation.
Take a stand, be gentle and firm.
Will the other party resent it? Can you refuse?
Did you return the question to the other party!
People may want to hook up with you, but they want you to be young and beautiful, to communicate with you and be worshipped, to have an emotional life with you, and what kind of life. I hook you, and you are passive.
"Silly woman" may take the bait and keep asking: Do you really love me? You divorced her, right? When are you getting divorced?
Any problem, as long as it is in your heart, even if it has not been exported, has been defeated! There are also some stupid women who make trouble with others and force them to divorce.
What about my clinic? I didn't ask for anything. I didn't show any expectations. I just asked for myself.
Whether the other party can leave the divorce is his own business, not mine. Even if the other person is divorced, is there room for change? Did I tell him I was divorced? Don't!
I protected my present and my future.
This kind of man with high emotional intelligence, high IQ, rich experience and high income is kind to you, careful and considerate to you, and spends money casually. For such people, there is no pressure and no difficulty. And this kind of person is particularly good at "attacking the heart." If he is not in a hurry, he will not use force, giving people the feeling of being polite. He is definitely a master of human nature. This temptation is not something that ordinary people can resist.
However, his works can be smashed in one sentence. Picking up girls is good. Why don't you let him handle his family affairs? He became stupid at once! There are many things in this world that intelligence can't solve.
Therefore, the male god who charms you may be scum; The present temptation may be a trap.
How many people, seemingly imposing, are actually chicken feathers, and one sentence is enough to defeat all his self-righteous self-confidence and pride. But the world is so difficult, some things should not be revealed, and no one may stand the question of the soul.
I don't think it's profound enough to write this level. Add another fire.
What are people usually moved by?
There may be many specific points, but to sum up, there are only a few situations:
1. The so-called "silly and sweet" is easily moved by small tricks;
2. "Smart people" are easily moved by sincerity.
Both of them may fall into the pit. Why do smart people fall into the pit?
Two situations. In one case, this person is really sincere and not hypocritical to you. However, he also has another real personality, a demon side or a dark side. I call it "leakage", and many of them are injuries left by family background or bad thoughts left by experience. They are "involuntarily" and harm others and themselves.
In the second case, some people in this society are too smart, which is called high IQ and high EQ. Their acting skills can fool themselves, and naturally it is easy to fool others. And these people, who are good at starting with details, will always have a positive image of sunshine, and will not force you to be willing.
Therefore, there is a third kind of person: the wise. I can know people and see things clearly, and I won't get lost in "falsehood" or local "truth". This is difficult, but it is not without methods.
Of course, it's not good to be ignorant. Understand when you should understand, be confused when you are confused, and despair when you are desperate. This kind of life is fresh, powerful and attractive.
May each of you become such a person.