Psychological consultation ≠ sympathy+experience
Many consultants, especially telephone consultants, hope that psychologists had better meet and deal with their own problems when consulting questions. It seems that only when psychologists have the same experience as them will they feel at ease and feel that only in this way can they sympathize with him and understand him. Obviously, it is human nature to require psychological counselors to have experience and experience. There is no need to ask a counselor to have a similar experience. Psychologists will treat counselors with great sympathy whether they have similar experiences or not, just as the gentle movements of midwives are not necessarily learned from the experience of giving birth. Besides, the purpose of counseling is not to gain sympathy. We should sincerely accept the problems pointed out by psychologists and don't always think that our side is right. Imagine that a psychiatrist praises and sympathizes with the counselor. The counselor could not understand his cognitive defects except for the temporary comfort at that time, and then returned to the original state. What is the significance of psychological counseling? Otherwise, how do you say "good medicine tastes bitter, but advice is hard to hear"?
Psychological counseling ≠ mental illness, disgraceful, disgraceful.
At present, although people know something about psychological counseling, there are still many people who think it is a way to "treat mental illness" or feel that they have reached the level of mental illness before going to see a psychiatrist. According to the statistics of psychologists, only 16.3% people come to the psychological clinic for consultation, which meets the diagnostic criteria of mental illness. Some people feel that it is disgraceful and disgraceful to see a psychiatrist, and often come to the psychological clinic secretly for fear of being discovered by others. In fact, in most developed countries, people's understanding of psychological counseling is just the opposite of ours. For example, in the United States, a boy went to see a psychiatrist before his lover dated. When dating, he may show off in front of his girlfriend that he has seen a psychiatrist before, and her girlfriend will be moved by this, because he thinks that her boyfriend attaches great importance to her and dating, and that he is a person who values the quality of life.
A psychologist/fortune teller
Some consultants myth psychologists, a psychological state is that psychologists are engaged in psychology, and they should be able to see the psychological problems of consultants at a glance, otherwise they are incompetent. Another psychological state is that the counselor is ashamed to express his inner feelings, unwilling to disclose his psychological activities, and thinks that doctors can guess. In fact, psychologists are also human beings. They just use the principles of medical psychology, combine their own professional knowledge and propose effective solutions according to the problems provided by consultants. Just like when a person has a cold and fever, the doctor will take his temperature with a thermometer and then make a treatment plan. Therefore, counselors must open their hearts and communicate directly with psychologists.