Only after asking did I know that the main reason why Sister Wang was driven out by her son was that the wedding bride price was not negotiated. Because Sister Wang didn't want to get a bride price of 6.5438+10,000 yuan, but her son insisted on giving a bride price of 6.5438+10,000 yuan, the mother and son quarreled a lot about it and even almost broke off the relationship directly.
Sister Wang said that the reason why she didn't want to give her future daughter-in-law the 65438+ million bride price was because her future daughter-in-law was pregnant. She understands that the pregnant daughter-in-law has no right to refuse at all and can only marry his son. So she wanted to save the bride price of 654.38 million yuan, because her daughter-in-law had a younger brother, and she couldn't get it back after sending it out.
Sister Wang said that although many people would think that she broke her word, she didn't care at all. Even if many people scold her, she will continue to do so for her son's happy marriage.
Sister Wang said that nowadays women are so realistic, so there are so many women who worship money and cheat marriage, so when she knew that her future daughter-in-law was pregnant, she wouldn't pay the 654.38+ million bride price.
Sister Wang said that she didn't want to give this 65438+ bride price, and there were three considerations:
The first consideration is: if she doesn't give the bride price money, then after her marriage, her daughter-in-law will have no confidence to oppose her, so she can only live in peace and their family has absolute control. Even if the daughter-in-law is divorced, their family will have nothing to lose.
The second consideration is: not giving this bride price money is for the sake of her son's future marriage, because her family conditions are not good, and it will cost money for her son to have children and raise children in the future, so this money must be prepared.
The third consideration is that she feels meaningless. Anyway, she is such a son, so if the daughter-in-law really lives in peace, then all her things will not be theirs. Whether to give it to her now is actually the same. Sister Wang said that her mother-in-law didn't give anything when she got married, but there was no problem in marriage, so in her opinion, it was the same whether the bride price was given or not.
Sister Wang said that it was because of these considerations that she didn't want to give a bride price of 654.38 million yuan, but even if she explained it clearly, her son seemed to be stupid and didn't listen to her at all. She insisted on giving a bride price of 6.5438 million yuan, saying it was a man's promise, and even threatened to sever the relationship with Sister Wang, which made her particularly uncomfortable.
Sister Tianwang said to her son, "Son, she is pregnant, so 654.38+ 10,000 bride price is unnecessary. She can only marry you, she has no choice. " Sister Wang thought that her son would agree after hearing her words, but she didn't know that her son said to Sister Wang, "Mom, don't hurt me, she will break up."
Sister Wang said that in her opinion, her son is so worthless and afraid of breaking up. In fact, Sister Wang herself has considered these issues. In her opinion, it is impossible for the future daughter-in-law to divorce because she is pregnant. If she doesn't marry her son, no one will marry her at all, so she has no choice. This is also the reason why Sister Wang insists that she does not want the bride price of 654.38 million yuan.
It is precisely because neither of them gives in and quarrels every day that Sister Wang was driven back to her hometown by her son from the house rented in the city.
It is also because Sister Wang was driven away by her son, and her resentment was particularly deep. She looked for people to judge everywhere and then spoke ill of her son. Many people said that Sister Wang deserved it, and Sister Wang's son was right, so Sister Wang came to ask me, "Did her son really do nothing wrong?" ?
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, I also think there is nothing wrong with Sister Wang's son, because it is his responsibility as a man. He must keep his promise, give women a sense of security and protect his women.
In this case, it is not Sister Wang's son who makes the most mistakes, but Sister Wang herself, because she is neither a good mother nor a good mother-in-law. She has been misleading her son and almost ruined his marriage.
Sister Wang always thinks she is calculating her daughter-in-law. Everything she did was for the good of her son, but she never thought that if she really ruined this marriage, her son would suffer.
Sister Wang's behavior, in my opinion, is particularly naive and stupid. She thought she could eat her daughter-in-law to death by virtue of pregnancy, but it was by no means as simple as Sister Wang's abacus.
Although it is difficult for a future daughter-in-law with children to get married, what if Sister Wang's future daughter-in-law chooses not to have children? You know, every mother has the right to choose whether to have a child or not before her child is born. So all this is too simple for Sister Wang.
Sister Wang said that her son was worthless and ungrateful, but in fact, in my opinion, Sister Wang's son was very promising, because as a man, he did his duty and undertook his promise, so he didn't make any mistakes, just for the sake of family harmony, which was not considered "unfilial".
They all say that "ten years to see a daughter-in-law, ten years to see a grandmother." In my opinion, these behaviors of Sister Wang are particularly stupid, because her attitude towards her daughter-in-law today is probably her attitude towards her daughter-in-law in the future.
Therefore, I often warn my parents around me: "When children grow up and have their own families, they should mind their own business, because you don't know them at all, so it is very likely that you are helpful and thankless."
Psychologists all say: "Putting the relationship between husband and wife in the first place is the foundation of a happy marriage". Therefore, there is nothing wrong with the behavior of Sister Wang's son.
In my opinion, as a man, you should take responsibility, put your wife first and give women a sense of security. If you can't keep your promise, then you are rude to men and don't marry, because it is doomed to harm others and yourself.