Being brave is easy to suffer from greed, and the word being brave is often encountered in our daily life. Therefore, in the workplace, trying to be brave also has certain risks and has many different effects on our work. The following sharing is prone to greed.
Courage and belligerence tend to produce greed. 1 "White-collar greed" is an obsessive-compulsive disorder. Once frustrated, they quickly show obvious hysteria and even self-abuse. White-collar workers who are prone to this disease are often introverted, eccentric and depressed.
With the intensification of social competition and the gradual increase of work pressure, a psychological obstacle called "white-collar greed" appears more and more among white-collar people, which cannot but attract people's attention.
Young Liao Xiaojun works as an ordinary salesman in a large e-commerce company. Although he didn't work long, his grades were good. However, his roommate found that his heart was always higher than the sky. Recently, he often stays in his room for a long time, counting his bank deposit certificates over and over again, or a stack of newly acquired RMB, with a strange smile on his face. He also hangs inexplicable charts such as "Annual Total Wealth Rising Chart", "Personal Wealth Index Table" and "Personal Income Short-term Planning" on the wall of the dormitory room. He often doodles on it, sometimes crying and sometimes laughing. The above cases are typical "white-collar greed".
Once frustrated, it will be self-inflicted.
Psychologically speaking, the so-called "white-collar greed" is a kind of obsessive-compulsive disorder, which belongs to mental disorder related to psychosocial factors. Clinically, it often shows the following characteristics:
1. is essentially a morbid and conscious compulsive behavior, forcing yourself to be excessively obsessed with career development. At the onset, its pathological behavior is similar to the external manifestations of other types of obsessive-compulsive disorder.
2. In clinical manifestations, once frustrated or paused, it usually shows obvious hysteria and even self-abuse.
3. From the symptoms, "white-collar greed" is stubborn, hidden and harmful.
4. From the patient's personality, it is often those introverted, eccentric and depressed white-collar workers.
5. In terms of the spread of diseases, because the sick patients belong to the specific group of white-collar workers, their identity and personality are often unwilling to take the initiative to seek help from doctors, and it is easy to spread diseases within the specific group of white-collar workers.
Most patients are brave and aggressive.
In foreign countries, "white-collar greed" has long been valued by people, and many psychologists and psychological counseling institutions have listed this disease as one of the "important prevention and treatment diseases". Generally speaking, the prevention of this disease can start from the following four aspects:
1, keep a good attitude. Clinically, it is found that all patients with "white-collar greed" are arrogant and aggressive. If you often comfort yourself with proverbs and aphorisms such as "contentment always brings happiness" and keep a good attitude, it will be very helpful to prevent this disease or get rid of its symptoms in time.
2. Consciously avoid the competitive environment. If you are infected with this disease, after several adjustments, you should take timely measures to change the environment and temporarily avoid competition, such as applying for leave, changing jobs, resigning from the original level, and returning to your post after getting rid of this disease. Stubbornly "persistence" and "struggle" are not only unhelpful to the cause, but also make this mental illness more serious.
3. Strengthen self-control. It should be said that necessary self-control is the premise of preventing or eliminating diseases. The main methods are: to annihilate one's greed in time; More affirmation of yourself, less comparison with the winners; Try your best to transfer your interests and goals; In daily life and work, avoid people and things that are prone to anxiety and depression as much as possible to prevent this disease.
4, with the help of others. Including getting help from psychologists, such as seeking psychological counseling regularly, learning to accept other people's advice and actively participating in normal communication with others. Once you get sick, go to the hospital in time.
Workplace tip: In the workplace, "resignation" is no longer feasible. When you work hard to finish a job, you will get all the honors because of a word from others. At this time, if you choose to be silent and don't know how to fight for your rights and interests, then the boss may think that you are willing to accept this arrangement. There is nothing wrong with A Xin who plays hard in the workplace, but it is the key to express his views, feelings and communication in time. Set a bottom line for yourself and stick to the principle, otherwise the unreasonable demands that follow are likely to make you unbearable.
I don't know when it started, but we are all used to pretending to be brave.
When a relationship ended, I was heartbroken, but I still stubbornly said with tears: "I never loved him at all";
A person goes to the hospital for infusion. When he goes to the toilet, he holds a bottle in one hand and unbuttons his pants in the other. He could only watch the blood return, but said to his friend who called, "I can, I really don't need your company";
I often cry in the middle of the night, but someone asks me, "How are you?" I bite my teeth and swallow my blood. I say "I'm fine", but my face is faint.
Some people say that behind every brave soul, there are unspeakable grievances and sorrows.
I hope you can be strong, but you don't have to be brave.
Stop trying to be brave,
Because the soft heart has been put away.
This holiday, many happy things happened, one of which was to attend the wedding of Reiko Kobayakawa, a good friend from college.
Reiko Kobayakawa is a particularly outstanding girl. When she was studying, she was our idol: she won the first place in the exam every year, served as the head of several major societies, and worked hard.
After graduation, we got married and had children one after another, but we never heard the news of her love. I saw that her work was promoted again. When she is busy, she works overtime until she has no spare time. Whenever I have time, I punch in everywhere, still looking full of vigor and invincible.
We asked her what she was looking for. She said she didn't need a partner: "I can change the light bulb, I can fix the toilet, and I can handle my work and life by myself." What do you want a man to do? "
We have been worried that she is too tough and misses happiness. Until this time, when we saw her husband, our hearts were relieved.
That boy is very ordinary, not an overbearing president or a jade-faced mistress, but he smiles very warmly.
She said that once she was sick, there happened to be a project, and her colleague advised her to rest. She refused until she suddenly fell on her desk at home in the middle of the night.
She called him in a hurry, and he appeared soon, followed by his guardianship and care in the hospital for a month, which melted her cold heart.
She told us: "I used to be strong, and I forgot that I was weak, too." It was his appearance that told me not to be brave all the time. "
Seeing his full affection with her, our corners of the mouth are also rising.
Christine sang in the song: "People say I am strong, and only you advise me not to be brave."
You don't have to be brave. You can meet a soul, talk to each other and have a warm time. This is happiness.
Don't want to be brave,
Because you have someone you want to protect.
Watching the variety show "My Wife's Romantic Travel", Yinger burst into tears when exploring at high altitude, which made everyone feel distressed.
She said that as an actress, hanging Weiya is a daily job, and she is afraid of "terrible memories".
She is very strong at work, even to the point of being brave: when she was pregnant for three months, she insisted on filming and caused massive bleeding, and only one twin survived.
I missed the opportunity to be a twin mother, which made Yinger feel very guilty and sorry. She said, "Sometimes it's not always good to be brave. As a mother, I really can't be brave and do something. "
As a mother of two children, I take this very seriously.
I was fearless before, and so was my mother. I always bite my teeth when I feel unwell.
Once, I couldn't control my angina pectoris, and I choked back a lot of tears and didn't talk. It happened that my eldest son saw it.
He began to cry and asked timidly, "mom, are you going to die?" Mom, please don't leave me. "
At that moment, I was alert. Being brave all the time made me forget my softness and fear. I always say I love my children. How can I love them if something happens to me?
Zeng Guofan said: "Only awe can stop."
The TV series "Please Answer 1988" said: "People really become strong, not because they protect their self-esteem, but when they put aside their self-esteem."
I no longer try to be brave, because I know that only by taking care of myself can I protect my family and my happiness.
Unwilling to be brave,
Because you know that reasonable weakness is the real strength.
Wang Yangming of the Ming Dynasty was famous as a military master who was good at sophistry. His general plan of using troops has been vividly reflected in Chen Yan's border affairs.
He said: "If you want to take it, you must persist. Or abandon cattle and horses and flee, or hide to show weakness, or ambush, or dive for peace, all of which tempt me to benefit. "
Translated into vernacular Chinese, never confront a powerful opponent, either use the weak to reinforce the strong, or hide the strong to show weakness, or pretend to fail and ambush, or hide the strong to pretend to make peace.
Wang Yangming applied this "four weak strategies" to the extreme. He also proved by facts that life is not about saving face, but knowing weakness and disguise is great wisdom, and only the winner who laughs last can take everything for himself!
Li Ka-shing also often shared with young people: "One should know how many bowls of rice one eats, and don't try to be brave and do things that exceed one's authority. If you must face such a thing, then you must find someone who has the ability to do it. "
Moderate bluffing is an independent process. However, if you are used to fighting with others and have more than one can chew, it is childish and incompetent.
You know, not all bravado can be applauded, not all hard support can be applauded, and not all people who are not willing to show weakness can get a bright future. It is not shameful to say "I can't"!
As Jiang wrote in "I admit that I have not experienced vicissitudes of life": "The most manly moment is not the moment when one person defends and ten thousand people can't force it, but the moment when I still admit my blind spots and weaknesses, and I am not ashamed to ask questions and know how to ask for help. The real strong will show weakness and the weak will continue to be brave. "
A truly mature and powerful person never needs to try to be brave to prove that he has confidence and pattern, and let his glory wait for applause.
Don't try to be brave,
Because I learned to reconcile with life.
Why do people choose courage?
Perhaps, I am afraid to spread my vulnerability and can't satisfy that understanding and consideration.
Maybe, I'm worried that once I retire, someone else will take our place.
Maybe, I don't want to trouble others, I always want to prove that I can, and I want to be psychologically troubled.
Maybe, just don't know how to refuse, and then let yourself be full of expectations. If you get caught, you'll never get off the shelf again.
As we all know, only by putting down the bluff and being honest with yourself can we meet the truth and be nourished by love.
Only by showing weakness reasonably and keeping the bottom line can we be cherished and respected by others.
And choose to face up to the imperfection of life, not suppress your heart, not pretend to be calm, and cry and laugh loudly to achieve reconciliation with life.
May you be lonely and stop trying to be brave. Someone knows everything about you and shares your sadness.
May you be brave, shoulder-shouldered, off guard and gain gentle and warm strength.
May you and I walk in the world, strong, but not brave!