Portugal scored only one goal against Holland, but there were 16 yellow cards and four red cards. The players of both teams were not calm, which caused the game scene to get out of control. Boulahrouz and Van Bronckhorst were sent off, leaving the Dutch team hopeless. Deco's red card also affected Portugal's continued campaign, and the player's impulse brought immeasurable losses to the team. People in the workplace will also have such emotional problems, some of which may be caused by their own abilities, some may be caused by unfair treatment, and some may be inexplicably agitated, impetuous and depressed because of temporary emotional fluctuations, which will affect their work attitude more or less. If the control is not good, it is easy to make mistakes in work, and the boss will show you a yellow card or even a red card. How to control yourself when mood swings has become a problem that can't be ignored in professional life.
Bringing irritability to work can easily affect the working state. In the long run, you should be careful that the boss will give you a bright "red card".
■ the voice of "people"
Arguing with my husband at home makes me very angry at the office, but we have been quarreling a lot recently. I also know that bringing home emotions to the company can easily affect my work, but I really can't calm down.
—— Ge Yu, a company employee
The work of the unit is less and more, and units at all levels are still selling. It's strange not to bother. Those endless things climb up like nests of ants. It's so hot. Do you think you are bored?
-Qionghua Wu, accountant.
Mainly sleepy. I watched a panda eye at football recently, and I couldn't lift my head during the day. But the machine is going to work, but an efficient leader like me also found it two days ago and warned me.
—— Network engineer WU GANG
Representatives between "people"
1 upset, job hopping again and again.
● Xing Rui, graduate student, unemployed at home.
I graduated with a master's degree from a famous university in Hunan in 2004, and came to Beijing after graduation. I used to be a teacher in a school, and I got a red card three months later. Later, I worked in an advertising company, also worked in a cultural unit, and finally worked as a receptionist in an electrical appliance company. I don't work long hours every time, and I feel like a lone ranger. During that time, I couldn't find anyone to talk to and I couldn't communicate with anyone. I've been in a state of anxiety, and it's hard to calm down at work. This may be the reason why I got a red card from my unit.
2 can't be promoted and fail in anxiety.
Hong Chu, director of an office.
I have worked in the subordinate units of Beijing Municipal Corporation for more than ten years. I have always been the director of the office and a department-level cadre. I have good popularity and ability, and I have done a good job, but I feel that I have never been promoted again. Everyone around me is taller than me, but I'm still a director. Now I am anxious in failure, failing in anxiety, and entering endless irritability.
■ Anger
Auctioneer: Zhang, trainer and consultant of Beijing Wisdom Light Consulting Company.
1 Newly graduated college students tend to be impetuous.
With the impetuous spirit on campus, newly graduated college students find that only they feel important when they enter the society, so they are prone to a sense of loss, unable to concentrate on their work, easy to get a red card, and have to enter a strange circle of frequent job hopping. If a fresh graduate can do his first job for one year, it will be easy to stabilize his job in the future. Because the first master has a great influence on a person.
It is premature to fire the boss. A resigned person may lose his career on impulse, and his life's future will be wasted during this period.
We should learn to change ourselves and adapt to society.
Ms Zhu Hong is still using her old theory to explain new problems. Today's professional life is very different from before, but many people are still used to solving problems in the old way. Ms. Zhu Hong always thought that doing well was enough, but she neglected communication. The higher the position, the more communication is needed. In the past, you followed the above instructions, but the old way of working has not adapted to the requirements of today's work. If you don't change it, it's easy to be upset. You may not be convinced, or you may be wronged, but your practice really doesn't adapt to society.
■ Support
Clear goals, get rid of too much thinking.
Zhao, Senior Consultant of Bailing Studio and Workplace Network.
Workplace irritability is a typical manifestation of professional confusion, and the result is the same as the performance of players on the court, which will lead to abnormal behavior, abnormal action or simply stop acting. Irritability comes from overthinking, which rarely leads to correct action. Trying to reduce workplace irritability by quitting smoking is as difficult and repeated as men quitting smoking and women losing weight. In fact, the biggest source of thinking lies in the confusion caused by unclear goals.
Determine three levels of career goals
People with clear goals don't panic when they are confused. Therefore, the key to eradicate irritability lies in clearly positioning your current workplace goals and establishing reasonable psychological expectations and countermeasures.
Workplace goals can be divided into three levels, the most basic is to enter the professional environment, increase professional resume, earn money to make a living, which is the demand goal in the survival stage. Learning things, gaining long-term experience and establishing contact with customers and industries are the demand goals in the accumulation stage; Being recognized, appointed and promoted is a high-level goal in the stage of development and feedback realization. Don't spend energy to make a finer distinction, which will only increase the time cost and get into thinking, and will not bring any practical value.
Goals directly determine your psychological expectations. If you expect to exceed your goal, you will suffer. If the expectation is lower than the goal, you will be immersed in happiness and satisfaction, thus losing motivation and failing to reach the goal.
Use different strategies at different stages.
The strategy in the survival stage should be simple-follow. When an enterprise fulfills its promise to pay wages, it will work in a down-to-earth manner. Any change in the organizational environment has nothing to do with your goals. Actively intervene when there is an opportunity; If there is no chance, go home from work, eliminate interference, teach yourself to charge, ride a donkey to find a horse, and seek better new opportunities. Is it too alarmist to think about something that has nothing to do with your goals?
The strategy in the accumulation stage is "reality". The chores, tasks, challenges, accidents, customers, overtime, meetings and even chores pushed by others in the working environment are all real, which bring you operational experience, successful experience and performance opportunities. It is self-defeating to criticize what is the real "reality" without immediate goals.
The stage of development and feedback is the stage to realize the glory of the workplace. Advanced goals need to be supported by powerful strategies, which not only emphasize the accurate choice of opportunities, but also emphasize the active grasp. Occupational environment is a typical multi-factor complex environment, and accurate selection is very important. If it is predicted, it will be established, and if it is not predicted, it will be abolished. Another feature of the professional environment is fierce competition, so we must take the initiative.
There is little difference between "acting after the prophet" and "acting after the prophet" in practice, and it is difficult for professionals with certain professional qualities to neglect things in practice. Thinking about "who comes first" is a challenge to an unsolved problem, and if you get caught up in it, you will be agitated and depressed. If you think clearly and have countermeasures, you will stay away from workplace irritability.
■ Workplace ecology
There are three sources of workplace irritability
The reporter visited several career consulting companies such as Beijing Wisdom Light Consulting Company and Bailing Studio on the phenomenon of workplace irritability. All the career counselors agree that this phenomenon is quite common and tends to be serious and complicated. The root of this problem can be summarized as the following three aspects:
From the change of workplace culture, the modern workplace embraces the eastern and western cultures, but in many cases, the complementarity between the eastern and western cultures is not enough, which makes us easily confused when facing the management model that integrates western management methods and traditional oriental management thinking, thus easily generating impatience.
Personal opinion: people are like trees, and only when they are deeply rooted can they flourish. When there are problems in the workplace, first of all, don't blame society, don't blame the boss. Rationalizing failure is a sign of asking too much. At the same time, don't be influenced too much by successful people. Not every success can be put on the table. Learn to process information. The general practice is to choose to accept and ignore the useful. In fact, your blind spot, what you don't want to accept, is what you need most.
From the market point of view: With the rapid development of society, the requirements for people's state are getting higher and higher, and people need to keep learning. But at the same time, we must understand that making money is only one of a person's parameters, and happiness is the most important thing. Only by adjusting your focus to your commitment to social responsibility can you succeed in the workplace.
■ Workplace testing
Look at your professional maturity.
David is in charge of a project that needs to be completed in cooperation with another department. It is a young girl who works directly with him. Every time there is disagreement, the girl will be very unhappy and even lose her temper with him in the office. David keeps telling himself to be patient, but things are getting worse. If you were David, what would you do?
A. Next time you meet this situation, tell her sternly that you are not easy to bully.
B. Find a chance to talk to her alone so that she can pay attention to her behavior in the future.
C. don't care about her. If this happens again, discuss and analyze with her calmly.
test result
A. the professional maturity is not high. Deliberately losing your temper is nothing more than expecting two effects, one is to strongly resolve work differences, and the other is to be more serious. Resolving differences and persuading communication are the most effective; Calm and peaceful will show your maturity and weight.
B. Career maturity is not bad. It is a habit for a person with a quick temper to lose his temper, and it is unrealistic to expect a communication to solve the problem. The solution to the habit problem is to try to drive her with your emotions.
C. The professional maturity is still quite high. You know arguing blindly is definitely not a good way to solve the problem. You also know that enterprises are organizations, and teamwork is more important than anything else.
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