When chatting with several netizens, Xiaojun's thoughts represent the thoughts of many women:
People's personality will change, and their ability to make money will remain unchanged. Why should I choose a useless man?
Xiaojun, who has worked in Shanghai for more than three years after graduation, is not amazing in appearance. It will look good if he dresses up a little. At present, I am engaged in interface design, with a monthly income of about 10 thousand, and rented a one-bedroom and one-bedroom house near Tangqiao for more than 3 thousand months. This standard of living is barely passable in Shanghai.
Not long ago, she broke up with her boyfriend who had been talking for less than a year, because she felt that the man was not enterprising and made her feel insecure.
"His salary is similar to mine. People who are almost 35 years old have no house or car, and all their savings are not enough for 50 thousand. I can't imagine where all the money he used to earn went! I have only worked for two or three years and have a deposit of 100,000. "
Xiaojun believes that it doesn't matter if her husband has money or no money. She sees if the other person has a car or a house, mainly to see if he has the ability to make money. Without the ability to support the family, you can't hug and eat air at home every day.
No matter how sincere love is, once you get married and have children, it is easy to deteriorate. Since everything will go bad, why don't I find a man with a higher starting point?
Of course, some netizens think that money and material wealth are not enough to measure whether a marriage is happy or not, such as Xiao Ning.
It's no use abandoning your husband blindly. Let's work together to improve our lives.
Xiao Ning is in her thirties, not far from her husband's age. She has been married for more than ten years and her children are in kindergarten.
Speaking of her view that her husband has no house, no car and no savings, she told her own story.
They just got married more than ten years ago, so they have nothing. They were originally in Shantou, Guangdong. At that time, her husband heard that going to Shenzhen was developing well, so he followed her husband to Shenzhen very obediently.
When I first arrived in Shenzhen, two people were crowded in a rented house in a village in the city, living in poverty. She often cried alone, but she persisted.
I have worked in factories, restaurants and teahouses. Later, they opened a restaurant and cooked Chaozhou-Shantou cuisine, which lasted for many years.
After several years of hard work, her husband also learned some cooking skills in the restaurant. After operating for so many years, their restaurant has also gained some fame, expanding from one facade to six facades.
Now the house and car deposits are accumulated step by step.
Now there is no house or car, so we can earn together. But if there is no one to support each other, maybe there will be no one in the future.
Jun, what Xiao Ning said represents the views of most of us. Although they have different views on cars and houses, we can actually see that they have the same requirements for men:
No matter whether you have a car or a house, men need to have the ability to make money and manage money, and have the possibility of actively changing their lives.
I want to walk into your world, a family and emotional headline with the right point of view. Thank you for your attention.