Readers are young women in the new era. After graduation, they are full of wisdom, not only in their work, but also in their lives. Xiaoke's husband is her graduate classmate, and their families are both relatively average. When they bought a house, their parents didn't help much, but Xiaoke didn't care because they had strength.
In the third year of marriage, Xiaoke was pregnant, and her mother-in-law came from her hometown to serve. Although Xiaoke is very grateful to her mother-in-law's care, she still can't accept some bad habits of her mother-in-law, such as forgetting to flush when going to the toilet, taking the garbage out of the house, and not willing to throw yellow leaves when cooking. But on the surface, Xiaoke didn't complain about anything. After all, her mother-in-law is very kind to her. Her mother-in-law took care of the children until she went to kindergarten.
A few years later, my in-laws' old house was requisitioned and received a compensation. My mother-in-law wanted to give the money to Xiaoke and then live with them, but Xiaoke refused. She took out some money, and the compensation given by her in-laws was just enough to buy a house locally. Friends around me know that Xiaoke is stupid when she does this. According to friends, you can bring your in-laws to live with you. They can help with housework, take care of children and get valuable rewards.
Xiaoke just laughed off her friend's remarks, because she knew very well in her heart. On the surface, it was good to live with her in-laws, but Xiaoke knew clearly that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would intensify with the passage of time, because Xiaoke could not endure her mother-in-law's bad habit all the time, and her mother-in-law could not get rid of it in a short time. It is better to nip in the bud than to intensify the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
On weekends, her husband will take Xiaoke and her children back to visit her in-laws. Because we don't meet often, Xiaoke and her mother-in-law have a very harmonious relationship. Every time I go back to visit my in-laws, Xiaoke and her husband are very relaxed. Because her mother-in-law is busy cooking and her father-in-law is playing with her children, Xiaoke, who is full of wisdom, naturally won't wait for dinner. She will take the initiative to go to the kitchen to help her mother-in-law choose vegetables and wash dishes. Therefore, the family is happy. Isn't this envi?
In my opinion, Xiao is a virtuous daughter-in-law. She knows how to get along with her mother-in-law, when to give in and when to make a decision. Imagine, when Xiaoke is pregnant, if she doesn't stop complaining about her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law is likely to leave, and even make her feel uncomfortable, causing conflicts between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. If Xiaoke didn't help her in-laws buy a house, but took them to live together, I think Xiaoke would have a headache every day about how to get along with her mother-in-law, and it would be difficult for her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have a harmonious family atmosphere.
At the end of the article, I also want to advise the elderly to relax and stop thinking about interfering with their children's lives, because there will always be a generation gap in their lifestyles. Where there is a generation gap, there is friction, and where there is friction, there is contradiction. The best mode of providing for the aged is to keep a certain distance from the children, so that both parties will be more comfortable and have a more harmonious relationship.
Do you think the distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be kept between a bowl of soup?