Such counselors have made some professional efforts, but most of them are psychological counseling skills. They are often willing to use immediate methods, keep their mouths shut, lack practice, lack of exploration of people's hearts, and lack of exploration of psychological counseling. In the process of psychological counseling, we often only see the problems but not the people, only the technology but not the Tao. They take themselves too seriously, have a strong sense of professional role and can't see their limitations. In fact, some of my own problems have not been solved well, and some knots have not been opened, thus affecting the mentality and effect of psychological counseling. At this time, you will feel that such a consultant is confident, ostentatious and aggressive.
Second? expert
? Such psychological counselors are no longer limited to mastering professional theories and techniques, but also have rich practical experience, in-depth excavation of people's hearts and in-depth psychological consultation.
? Such a psychological counselor is mentally healthy, has more psychological energy and solves his own problems better than the average person, and can be said to be a self-fulfilling person. He understands the boundary between his professional role and his true self, and also understands his limitations. He can face his shortcomings frankly and never imagines himself as a perfect person without shortcomings. At this time, you will feel his inner self-confidence, but his self-confidence has no pressure. He is introverted and easy-going. Being close to him is like spring sunshine, which makes people feel warm and comfortable, and makes people feel a kind of love and reverence.
Third? everybody
Such consultants have gone beyond the concept of professional role and no longer intend to play a professional role. The whole person is harmonious and unified. They have detached views on people, things and themselves.
? Starting from the simple road, all theories and technologies have retreated on him, only the spirit of cultivating all things and the feelings of loving all beings. Elephants are invisible. When he appears in front of you, you can't see any experts or the shadow of experts. You will think that he is a particularly simple and ordinary person. However, you will feel that he is extraordinary among ordinary people. A smile from him is enough to make you feel warm. Even if he just sits there quietly, you will feel his pity and love for mankind. You don't think he has anything obvious, and you don't think he has anything to show off. You will only feel that his heart is as deep and calm as the sea, giving you strength unconsciously and making your heart calm and peaceful.
(Excerpted from Teacher Ma Zhiguo's point of view)