Appearance anxiety has "extended" to children.
Nowadays, as luxurious as wealth freedom, it may be appe
Appearance anxiety has "extended" to children.
Nowadays, as luxurious as wealth freedom, it may be appearance freedom. Once, in Weibo, the last entry was read, "Do you have appearance anxiety?" It has reached 730 million, which shows how huge the crowd with anxious appearance is.
In recent years, the trend of cosmetic surgery has blown from the entertainment circle to the student circle, from adults to minors.
The People's Daily once sent a news: There are 32 students in Class One, and almost all the girls with single eyelids have their double eyelids cut, even the boys are no exception.
What makes children feel anxious about their appearance?
In this era of increasing emphasis on face value, adults and children will come into contact with aesthetic standards from different channels.
If you find yourself inconsistent with the so-called beauty, you will have doubts or be more seriously affected.
This is also one of the important reasons for the younger age of plastic surgery.
Seeing that the youngest cosmetic consultant in the news is only 8 years old!
Many netizens commented, "Do 8-year-old children know where the plastic surgery hospital is? Parents also have problems! " Paying more and more attention to the disadvantages of face value may lead to aesthetic distortion, but this wrong guidance is brought to children by parents.
There is an ugliness that makes parents think you are ugly.
On the contrary, only your parents think you are beautiful.
When children feel that they are ugly and feel inferior, they say, "You are so beautiful." In fact, it is difficult to suppress the small flame of children's inner inferiority.
You may not know that the evaluation between children is far more influential than you think. This is "peer pressure", which refers to the influence between peer friends.
Faced with these problems, positive body awareness and self-confidence become particularly important for children's growth.
Physical self-confidence education must be early!
When a child is 1 year old, he will have a basic understanding of his body.
I have been talking about physical problems since I was five years old. For example, "Mom, do I look good?" Or "Mom, why am I shorter than my friend?" If parents do not give correct guidance, it is easy to lead children to have the idea of physical inferiority.
Physical inferiority can easily lead to children's health problems, such as eating disorders, emotional disorders, anxiety and so on. This not only harms their health, but also harms their psychological problems.
This is why parents should give their children active physical education as soon as possible.
Let children fall in love with their bodies.
It is not only early but also correct to teach children physical self-confidence. Let children fall in love with their bodies and acquire these skills quickly!
Help children understand their bodies.
When the child is still a 6-month-old baby, you can teach him to know all parts of the body! Including the baby's hands, feet, fingers, toes, nose and eyes.
As children grow up, they usually start to know themselves in the mirror from 15 to 24 months. You can stand your child in front of the mirror and say to him, "Where are your ears?" Then he said, "Your little ears are amazing. They can help you hear. "
It should be noted that children also try to use the official names of these parts when discussing reproductive organs. Euphemisms such as' shh' will make children mistakenly think that this is an embarrassing thing!
Let children know that there is more than one kind of "beauty"
When children say they are ugly or fat, don't rush to refute them.
Just let him know that there is not only one kind of beauty: big eyes are beautiful, tall people are beautiful, and health is also beautiful.
Also tell him that talent, wisdom, creativity, courage, athletic ability, imagination, language ability, critical thinking or compassion are all beautiful.
For children, parents can have hundreds of ways to make them feel good about themselves, which has a far-reaching impact than making them feel beautiful.
You are unique in the world.
Many children have appearance anxiety, not because they are not beautiful enough, but because perfectionism is at work.
When a person demands perfection, he is doomed to never accept himself 100%.
Because he always looks for something that makes him unhappy and turns a blind eye to the advantages. This is why many girls in life are always "beautiful without knowing it".
You can tell your child that there is no perfect face and figure in the world. Although you may look ordinary, you are unique and can't be replaced by anyone.
Correct the child's wrong information
Today's children are easily exposed to incorrect aesthetic standards on the Internet. Parents need to find and correct their wrong information about cosmetic surgery and weight loss in time.
You can also tell children that their bodies are beautiful, so that they will no longer demand themselves with aesthetic standards on the Internet. Nor will it lead to inferiority, depression or even change yourself in an extreme way because of other people's evaluation.
Parents need to set an example most.
The best thing you can do as a parent is to set an example.
However, this is not easy. Because parents and children are members of this era, it is difficult for us to change the status quo of attaching importance to face value. The only thing you can do is to make your children realize that you have a correct aesthetic and confidence in your body and personality.
For example, when you put on a new dress or bathing suit and stand in front of the mirror and admire yourself, children will feel it.