With a monthly income of 20 thousand, I can't afford my girlfriend's consumption
Some people's love is emotional, and some people's love is inseparable from material things; Couples who talk about feelings often leave a good impression on their predecessors when they finally break up; Couples who only pay attention to material things and stay together simply for each other's money often have a bad impression when they finally break up and are easy to turn against each other.
For Xiao Zhi (a pseudonym), he just ended a two-year relationship and was unilaterally broken up by his girlfriend. After breaking up, Xiao Zhi kept his girlfriend for many times, hoping that she could get back together with him, but she refused.
Girlfriend even said: what can I do with that money for a month? Can you support yourself after you get married?
Xiao Zhi, 26, worked in the company after graduating from college, and has been in this company for more than three years since graduation; Xiao Zhi is the best in the company, both in ability and income.
With a small team, the monthly income can be more than 20,000, and with two months' salary as the year-end bonus, the annual income of Xiao Zhi can be 300,000.
But these incomes, in the eyes of Xiao Zhi's girlfriend, are far from enough to support her own living expenses.
My girlfriend works in a public institution with a monthly salary of less than 5K, but she spends tens of thousands of dollars a month. The only child in the family, her parents give 10000 more living expenses every month, and her boyfriend supports her.
A bag costs tens of thousands of dollars, so you can buy a new mobile phone immediately, eat in a high-end restaurant and buy expensive cosmetics.
Xiao Zhi, with a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan, soon felt particularly stressed; Fortunately, Xiao Zhi's parents helped pay the down payment for buying a house, and they also paid more than 5,000 yuan in mortgage every month.
But the rest of the money, his girlfriend will spend 1 10,000 every month. Although Xiao Zhi earns more than 20,000 yuan a month, she is a moonlight clan.
When breaking up, Xiao Zhi was scolded by his girlfriend face to face; Shopping outside, surrounded by people, his girlfriend shouted at him and turned away.
When men pay too much emotionally, all that remains is humility.
Girlfriend's family is much better, her living expenses are very high, and she lives in the upper and middle circles. For Xiao Zhi, a male reader, he is an ordinary office worker, but his income is relatively high among his peers and his own circles.
The relationship between two people is only one aspect, but if you want to get married, you have to go through all kinds of hardships in the middle; The hardest thing to overcome is the circle between two people.
-02
She is a delicate girl, and you are just an ordinary person.
If couples want to go far, they must cooperate in many ways.
The matching of family background, the matching of three views, the matching of income and consumption, and the consistency of future planning.
When one of them doesn't match or is completely different, then the couple may end up breaking up.
Just like a male reader Xiao Zhi's contact experience with his girlfriend.
My girlfriend is a girl born with a golden spoon in her mouth. She has been protected by her parents since she was a child, and her family conditions are excellent. She is an only child. And he is an ordinary person, relying on his own efforts to work hard step by step, and now he has made some achievements.
The huge gap between the two families is only one hurdle between them, and the other hurdle is their consumption concept.
Buy a bag for tens of thousands of dollars, even if you spend 50 thousand a month, you can't afford it.
Breaking up is also a timely stop loss for Xiao Zhi, and you will find someone who matches you better.
-03
In the emotional world of adults, love is not everything.
When you reach a certain age, you will find it difficult to get rid of the bill again.
You like a person, but you will have a lot of hesitation and stop, and you will think a lot: what if you are rejected? Are you worthy of each other? Can two people get married?
Those couples who get married successfully are often more realistic than love, because the objective conditions of two people are very matched. In the process of matching, they constantly cultivate love and feelings, and finally reach the elements of marriage.
Couples with the same three views, similar family conditions, similar interests and hobbies, and the same consumption income are the most suitable couples.
Adult feelings want to enter marriage, "fit" is greater than love, because love can be cultivated slowly, but it is not suitable, which means it is really difficult for you two to go to the end.
So, when you reach a certain age, if you find it really difficult for you two to get married, then you must force yourself to make a decision; It is better to get rid of the pain as soon as possible than to be more sad in the future.
Why force each other when you know that you two have no future? This is for two people, both of whom are hurting people.
When you break up, your pain will be infinitely magnified.
Sometimes, learning to break up at the right time is a good thing to stop loss in time.