Psychological counseling case: What if a man has an affair?

1 Find yourself as soon as possible. No matter whether your husband is cheating physically or mentally, sharing what should belong to you with other women is absolutely the biggest and most direct harm to you. Nothing breaks your heart more than the betrayal of your husband who has always trusted and loved you so much. But since things have happened, we should always face them. It is better to face them actively than passively, so that at least we can maintain more dignity. At this time, don't rashly file for divorce, and don't condemn it as moral corruption without analysis. Don't mistakenly think that your husband's feelings have completely shifted, thus pushing your still-loving husband into the arms of others and disintegrating the marriage that could have been saved. If you want to bear the burden of humiliation, strengthen your spirit, influence your husband with an inclusive heart and sincerity, and let him return to your arms, this is cruelty to you, and you don't have to be so great. You have your own dignity. But you can't always indulge in helplessness and self-pity. You need to get rid of it and replenish nutrients for your injured soul. Take part in more parties or outings. These activities can distract your attention and, more importantly, help you find yourself.

Give each other a space to think. A few days before the incident came to light, you and your husband were at their lowest or most anxious mood. You don't want to face it, you can't accept it, you are in pain, and you don't know what to do. At this time, the best way is to separate from your husband for a while and give you and him a space to think calmly and sort out your emotions. You can go on holiday or find a place to stay alone for a while to avoid making wrong decisions on impulse. When the husband hesitates to weigh, don't make things public, socialized and open, but try to solve the things between the two. Men are most afraid of their wives tearing their faces. If you push your husband to the wall and let him "look inside and outside the mirror", he is likely to sever the friendship between husband and wife for several years, break the jar and fall into the arms of his lover or mistress.

Be brave to leave your husband for a while, don't make excuses to escape, things must be solved. If you feel that you have sorted out your emotions and can calm down and deal with them, take the initiative to have a frank talk with your husband. Find out the crux of your husband's betrayal Is it because you are too busy to take care of his indifference that you make him dissatisfied and try to find comfort from others, or is it because of his own reasons? What is your husband thinking now? Can we put aside our marriage? Don't ask too much about the details of your husband's infidelity, because those will not help solve the problem, but will only increase your inner pain and injury. You face it bravely, mainly because you want to find out the reason why your husband cheated, so that you can handle it correctly with him. If your husband still takes care of both sides, makes up his mind and delays solving it indefinitely, you must come up with an opinion and let him make a clear choice within a time limit. You should let your husband know that nothing in the world is perfect, everything goes well and everything will be lost, especially marriage. If you want to keep your marriage, you must focus on renewing the love between husband and wife. Half-hearted can only make marriage worse and worse. Finally,

It may not be so easy to ask a professional to tell this kind of thing between you to another irrelevant person. However, this method is often very effective. When you pour out your frustration and helplessness to your good friends, they are often on your side and one-sided, so it is impossible to propose constructive solutions. And the expert's advice can be judged fairly, so as to find an effective solution.

Don't use coercion or revenge. If your husband is ready to give up his lover, it is particularly important to give him a transition period and let his feelings cool down. Trying to cut off his emotional connection with his lover by coercive means will only make him more miserable, which is likely to be "wildfire burns them endlessly, and spring breeze blows high." Don't vilify and insult your husband's lover in front of him, otherwise it will only make him feel embarrassed and humiliated, and then make him think that you are narrow-minded, and don't settle accounts with your husband's lover, otherwise it will only make things worse, but it will be self-defeating, because revenge is the most undesirable stupid thing. Maybe your revenge is successful, and you can get temporary comfort when you see that the person who betrayed you has been punished. But soon you will fall into depression and deeper pain, which is like adding a burden to the snail's shell, which is not good for you, him or her. If you really can't get through this, why not let go? Letting go is also a beauty. If it's not your fault that my husband cheated, then losing such a good wife is his loss and his regret. If you and your husband are both responsible for this, then this is also a detour in your life, and you and he must bear the consequences themselves. Your future path will continue. Instead of revenge, it is better to seek the next wonderful thing in life again. Take a step back, radical measures will only make things worse.