Life is not a lonely journey. If you find your soul mate, the rest of your life will be colorful and meaningful. The appearance of love has lit up many people's hearts.
However, finding love is not easy, and many people fail to grasp happiness. Some people eat up the pain of love because of lack of consideration, concern for face and lack of understanding.
There is no need to be too clear between two people who love each other, but both sides should be honest with each other. Routine each other, pay attention to interests, feelings are no problem.
Compromise and concession of lovers should not be your bargaining chip. Don't know how to be grateful, repeatedly test each other's bottom line, and finally will pay the price.
A week later, the man ushered in "retribution", and his wife's practice made him lose face.
0 1. Because of her introverted personality, Meng Xue (pseudonym) is looking forward to a warm and sunny boyfriend. Through the software, she met Xiao Tao (a pseudonym). The other party is not only eloquent, but also sweet. Soon after, the two established a love relationship.
Meng Xue has never been in love before. Under the sweet words of Xiao Tao, she began to look forward to marriage. Although her family is average and her income is not high, she gives her partner 2000 yuan every month to support her business plan.
Xiao Tao has a big breath, but he is stingy in love. He can spend several hundred yuan to invite friends to dinner, but he is reluctant to buy Meng Xue a cup of milk tea. His explanation is: "Men should pay attention to communication, otherwise there will be no future."
After spending some time together, Meng Xue introduced him to the people around him. Afterwards, friends advised her to break up, because everyone thought Xiao Tao was out of tune and unreliable. However, Meng Xue didn't care: "The man I like can't be wrong."
02. Because I am introverted, Xiao Tao is responsible for everything in my feelings. Meng Xue doesn't care about material things. Although her friend has hundreds of bridesmaids, she didn't ask for anything, but Xiao Tao promised 80 thousand bridesmaids.
Meng Xue was rejected by another mother when she met her parents for the first time. Because he didn't help wash the dishes after dinner, he was accused of being immoral and ignorant. If Xiao Tao hadn't taken the initiative to save it, this relationship might have ended long ago.
After getting along, Meng Xue found that Xiao Tao was different from his imagination. He not only loves to talk big, but also lacks courage and opinion. Even he asks his mother what color socks to buy and what clothes to wear every day.
As for the promise of "seeing parents to buy high-grade gifts, buying a house before marriage, and giving the money to Meng Xue for safekeeping", Xiao Tao has never fulfilled it. Before the engagement, he offered to borrow money on the grounds of capital turnover, and Meng Xue took out 30,000 yuan.
According to the local custom, the man should take out the bride price after the engagement, but Xiao Tao made an excuse to prevaricate. Parents hollowed out their property to help Meng Xue buy a house, but interestingly, Xiao Tao's mother claimed that she bought the house.
During that time, Meng Xue learned some bad information. It turns out that Xiao Tao once had several girlfriends online, all of whom were brought home to meet his parents. His so-called entrepreneurship is deceptive, and the reason why he borrowed money is to pay off gambling debts.
Suddenly, Meng Xue lost hope for love, but after Xiao Tao admitted her mistake, her heart softened. In order to take care of the overall situation, she insisted on obtaining the certificate. But a few days later, Xiao Tao said, "Anyway, I got the certificate, and the bride price was changed from 80 thousand to 8 thousand!" "
At this point, Meng Xue knows how stupid she is. Maybe in the other person's view, she can't raise an objection. However, a week later, she broke up cruelly. No matter how Xiao Tao coaxed and apologized, she was unmoved.
Everyone thanked Meng Xue when we learned that Xiao Tao had no job and was only in debt. After Xiao Tao's lie about buying a house was exposed, he was even more humiliated. The retribution came so quickly that he did not expect it.
I have something to say:
The lack of emotional experience and discrimination made Meng Xue somewhat blind when looking for love. After suffering injustice and pain, her letting go can be regarded as recovering the loss. I hope she can take a warning in the future.
From the beginning, Xiao Tao was not worthy of this feeling. In his view, interest is more important than love. It is not surprising that he finally paid the price of asking for it for a long time, ingratitude and even no basic responsibility.
Everyone has a certain responsibility and mission in love. If you always love others, pay attention to your own gains and losses, and even use deception and concealment to calculate each other, you will definitely lose happiness and leave regrets.
In fact, it is not only personality and temper that determine the quality of love, but also personality, quality and three views. People who are selfish, greedy and don't know how to care about each other not only have an incorrect view of love, but also push their feelings to an endless abyss.
When you meet a good-tempered partner, you should know how to cherish and protect it with your heart. Her gentleness is not the capital you want. Only a wise and responsible man who sincerely accepts her and coordinates the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can keep happiness.
In love, refer to other people's opinions appropriately.
People who are deeply in love will gradually lose themselves. They only see the advantages of lovers, and can't objectively examine their feelings. This blindness will affect your own judgment.
Believe that there is nothing wrong with your choice, but in love, we can refer to other people's opinions appropriately. After all, sometimes, the beholder sees clearly.