How to communicate with powerful colleagues in the workplace?

I know many friends in the workplace, and every time I chat, they invariably tell me about the overbearing and powerful colleagues in the company. So people often ask me whether I should be obedient or strong when communicating with such colleagues. And I have always suggested that they first analyze whether this so-called strong colleague is strong or conceited. Because this involves two completely different solutions. It's useless to deal with such people simply by improving their abilities, so I have two suggestions on communication and expression:

1, be gentle with people

When the other side is strong, we should learn to make appropriate concessions. The concession here is not to yield and obey, but to take a step back first. The stronger the opponent is, the softer you are, so you won't be tit for tat. For example, when we meet a strong or even emotional person, we should listen to him first and don't interrupt. When the other person has said everything in his heart and his emotions are almost exhausted, then you can express your views. Even if he doesn't approve, he's not as excited as he was just now, so I suggest you take a step back and soften your heart.

2. Master Yes &；; Peace principle

In communication skills, a generally accepted principle is "Yes&; But "the law. This is very similar to the rhetorical device of "promoting first and then suppressing" that we have learned: when you want to deny a certain point of view, praise its advantages first, and then express your point of view with a turning point like "but", which is more acceptable than directly criticizing the other party.

In this way, this law seems to be a perfect communication method. However, we have overlooked that when we disagree with each other's views, we don't have to use "criticism" or "refutation" to communicate. Here I teach you a new communication principle-"Yes&; And "principle". Yes, the essence of the & principle is to accept and add. Its core meaning is an attitude of acceptance. It should be noted that I said acceptance, not acceptance. Acceptance means that I allow your opinion, idea or behavior to exist, but it doesn't mean that I have to accept it. When accepting, we put ourselves on an equal footing. We all have the right to keep our own opinions and attitudes, that is, to put forward our own opinions on the basis of accepting each other.

The workplace is the epitome of social conditions, and you will meet all kinds of people. The word "strength" is only the attribute of a person with natural ability, but it must not be his most prominent attribute. Because compared with the "uncomfortable feeling" brought by strength, his ability is the weapon to attract others.

But for those who are "conceited", strength is just a protective color. All we can do is not expose each other. The first point is to be soft and firm, don't be tit for tat, let the other party vent their emotions first, and then speak for themselves; The second point is to master yes &；; And learn these two tricks by supplementing your own point of view instead of refuting the other's. I believe you can not only feel your growth, but also gain the respect of the other.