1. Husband and wife should be honest with each other and learn from each other; Learn to tolerate each other's mistakes and try to coordinate on big and small issues. Everyone has his own personality, don't try to change each other and suit himself; The best way to change is to be yourself, so as to maintain the initial love. Honesty between husband and wife is the patron saint of love. "Thomas" once said: If you open your inner truth, the truth you open will save you; If you don't disclose your inner truth, your undisclosed truth will destroy you.
Husband and wife should care about each other. If you have made achievements, don't hang high, thinking that you are great and ignoring each other's feelings. Behind successful men are women who get along, so it should be said that family is the cornerstone of career success. We should share weal and woe; Even small snacks should be taken into account.
The communication between husband and wife is going on almost every day. Small communication between husband and wife is as common as water and air, so it is easy to be ignored, and few people pay attention to communication and emphasize the effect of communication. A word can make people laugh, and a word can make people jump. The so-called relationship between husband and wife, husband and wife feelings, is actually the communication effect between husband and wife, that is, whether they can communicate.
4. Husband and wife are not a reasonable place in the family. There is a great need for mutual respect and understanding. The meaning of respect is not to be polite in everything, but to communicate needs closely and effectively, so as to achieve mutual understanding and communication. With mutual understanding, the differences in personality and pursuit between the two sides can be mutually compatible and coordinated. Understanding does not have to be exactly the same; I don't do my own thing, and nobody cares about anyone. Understanding is to understand each other's personality, psychology and outlook on life. You can disagree with some ideas and performances, but you can't totally deny them. Couples who understand each other may have different views or do their own things; But emotionally and spiritually, they are closely linked. Husband and wife need praise, even a redundant greeting, a bland and meaningless kind words will make each other relaxed and happy.
5. Husband and wife are not intimate, and husband and wife are close as friends; Friends keep friendship forever because they have space for each other. Love is also a kind of friendship. Only when husband and wife have the same space as friends can they love each other for a long time. The so-called "having a house" means that husband and wife have the space to play their own specialties. Husband and wife should respect each other's privacy. If there are differences between husband and wife, they should show their strengths and weaknesses and make concessions to each other. Both husband and wife must take the initiative to love each other, forming a psychological hermaphrodite and Eden. The love between husband and wife is generally not as warm and considerate as when they are madly in love and newly married. Things that care about each other are mostly trivial things. Because it is trivial, it is radiant and easy to do, but it is also easy to be ignored. If couples are as active and meticulous as lovers and have more emotional appeal, they can avoid the negative impact of trivial daily life, form a long-term, warm and lasting family atmosphere, and achieve perfection without circles. Appreciation is priceless, accommodate and praise your lover, and constantly enhance the relationship between husband and wife!
As for the specific plan, two people should also discuss it together, such as when to have children, how to arrange for the elderly on both sides, what kind of house to buy, how to balance the monthly income and expenditure, how to balance career and family, and how to make up when two people quarrel, such as making up before going to bed at night, not sleeping in separate rooms, not running away from home and so on. These things, discussed together, will further promote the understanding and opinions between two people and enhance their feelings.
How do couples get along? What do you want? Hello, I have the following views on your question for your reference. Husband and wife should live in harmony, respect and care for each other, and the family can be harmonious. Think more about each other's benefits and maintain family harmony. Regarding your question, there are two blog posts by Mr. Guo Xudong for your reference:
Husband and wife live in harmony, but good laws never fail (continued)
The following is for reference. "Good Life Classics": "Husband and wife live in harmony, and good laws do not fade." The general idea is that husbands and wives should maintain harmony so that good laws cannot rot.
What is the purpose of husband and wife becoming husband and wife? From the perspective of life, it is mainly to help each other and keep moving forward in order to live together. If this is the case, after marriage, husband and wife should start from the overall situation of the family, overcome their habits and correct their shortcomings, instead of doing whatever they want, otherwise what's the point of getting married?
Many couples don't like each other, mainly because of their personality and habits.
For example, the man hopes that the woman can do housework, take care of the family and be filial to the elderly. Therefore, the woman seldom or refuses to do housework on the pretext of being busy with work and "women in the new era want to be liberated". On the contrary, Larry's sloppy and lazy habits are very serious. Not only that, he also asked the man to follow himself, care about himself, like to be alone, and take the blame for the man, which would make the man very disgusted and angry. In addition, due to the lack of traditional morality, they refused to live with their in-laws, even had nothing to do with them, and even turned against each other. This is why men hate women.
The woman has always hoped that the man can make a difference outside and strive to create a world. But it often backfires, so the woman always feels that men have no future. If the man misbehaves outside, it will make the woman hate him even more. In addition, the woman thinks that men and women should be equal, so she always thinks that she should do less housework and the man should care more about herself. Psychological imbalance is also a major reason why women are more disgusted with men.
It is the above reasons that make both husband and wife very disgusted and even turn against each other.
How to solve such a problem? If you want to make the family harmonious, you must first understand the significance of forming a family, so as to increase your sense of responsibility, and then involve the solution.
The significance of starting a family has been mentioned above. For the sake of family, we should have the following sense of responsibility, which is also our way to solve family problems.
1, we should start from the family collective, not as casually as in the past, and let our habits run amok. For example, women should not be too delicate, lazy and narrow-minded. They should take the initiative to correct these habits, learn to take the initiative to do housework, take good care of their families and in-laws, and learn to treat guests warmly. While doing some careers outside, men make more arrangements for their families from major events. Don't run amok outside. Neither side should be presumptuous, but should be self-disciplined.
Both sides have the responsibility and obligation to help each other change their habits.
Both sides should learn more about husband and wife in Buddhism and try to increase some common sense, life experience and social experience.
4. The gentleman said nothing. Don't do it if you are really angry.
Both sides should try not to contradict each other, accept each other's opinions and suggestions with an open mind, reflect on their own shortcomings and keep moving forward.
6. Correct the shortcomings of yourself and the other party based on morality, not from the perspective of selfishness and immorality.
7, the husband sings with the woman, don't show inconsistency with the outside world, causing both sides to be angry.
8. Learn to encourage and praise each other and make the family present a good scenery.
9. Keep blaming yourself and thinking about how to be a good family.
10, care about your family and in-laws, don't be dismissive and perfunctory. Take care of the elderly in every possible way.
1 1. Learn to ask about each other, so as to take the initiative to care about each other and avoid their bad behavior.
12, pay attention to the sense of language and take the little things in life seriously.
13, strengthen family ideological education, dare to do it.
14, seriously implement the resolutions of the family meeting, and don't act rashly.
15, husband and wife should be single-minded and not fickle.
16, integrate theory with practice, and quickly apply the life experience learned to life.
17, live in harmony and avoid disputes.
18, don't follow the trend, be independent. Solutions should be introduced.
19, morality first, we should constantly improve our self-cultivation.
20. Pay attention to the role change, such as being a leader outside, being a wife and husband at home, the son of parents, the father of children, etc.
2 1. Give more encouraging suggestions. So as to constantly solve the problem.
22, do not show merit, mostly pay for the family.
23. Long live understanding and learn to empathize.
24. Young couples must be aware of their lack of self-cultivation and improve their self-cultivation without arrogance or rashness.
25. sympathize with the hardships of the elderly in their lives and honor them better. Don't selfishly think that old people are old feudal, special and unreasonable.
26, be polite, pay attention to master etiquette, know the rules, and learn to reciprocate.
27. Husband and wife should discuss things well, be generous, considerate and rigorous.
28. Don't spoil each other, and point out and correct any problems in time. But don't quarrel.
29. Make demands on the other party to restrain the other party's bad personality, habits and behaviors.
30. If you do something wrong, you should apologize to the other party, ask the other party for forgiveness, and don't argue unreasonably.
3 1, both sides should behave naturally, and don't be artificial and cause the other side's disgust.
32. Have the consciousness of supporting each other to old age.
Husband and wife live in harmony, but good laws never fail (continued)
First of all, let's see how the word "male chauvinism" is explained in the dictionary: a theory that men should be superior to women and control their behavior.
We advocate equality between men and women, not male chauvinism or female chauvinism. Husband and wife should not label each other as "male chauvinism" or "female chauvinism" to cover up their shortcomings and habits. In particular, men and women are different in physiology and psychology, and it is very necessary for both sides to do their part to maintain family harmony. For example, women are weak and delicate, so women take care of their husbands and in-laws and keep their homes clean and tidy. This is what wives should do. You can't disrespect the elderly under the guise of pursuing a lifestyle, hate housework, and can't even sweep the floor and fold quilts at the very least. You keep saying that you want to promote equality between men and women, which is advocating that "female chauvinism" men are physically strong and have rough feelings, so they should do more business and take care of their families from a big perspective. If you don't work hard outside and can't do anything well, it's true male chauvinism to be Kang Wang at home and take it out on your wife. Therefore, both husband and wife must blame themselves more, do more self-reflection and change their habits, instead of making excuses not to change their habits. At the same time, we should also have the responsibility and obligation to help each other correct their shortcomings and habits.
Male chauvinism is completely different from men's thoughts and behaviors. Male chauvinism is selfish, immoral, stupid and incompetent; The heart of a gentleman is compassion, kindness, diligence and wisdom. "On Men's Courage, Men's Courage": "Only those who can be blessed without wisdom and sorrow are called husbands; Have wisdom and a good husband; It is a gentleman to cultivate music, sorrow and wisdom. " "On Ten Dwellings in Piposha" Volume 5: "Cowardliness and lack of ambition are not determined by your husband's words ... You should spare no effort to make progress day and night, such as saving your life."
Both husband and wife should cultivate a man's mind.
1, when dealing with a thing, husband and wife should proceed from morality and the overall situation, that is, do it with a man's heart, not from a selfish point of view.
2, each other should think more about the family and establish a sense of family responsibility, instead of ignoring empty oil bottles and sitting back and relax.
Neither side should haggle over every ounce.
Both sides should take the initiative to control their thoughts and change their habits and shortcomings.
5. Check what you and your family need to improve and improve as soon as possible.
6. Both sides should learn to think and solve problems through consultation. Don't be opinionated, let alone playful and willful.
7. Accept each other's criticism with an open mind, don't talk back, always reflect on your own shortcomings and correct them.
8. The two sides have differences or habits and cannot cross the moral bottom line of life. For example, we should take the initiative to honor the elderly and always care for our children.
9, to learn to pressure, don't be suspicious and nameless anger. Tell evidence in everything.
10, integrating theory with practice. We should really put the methods we have learned to improve our self-cultivation into practice and constantly sum up how to improve our self-cultivation methods. Experience is the mother of wisdom.
1 1, don't be a "master of ceremonies" and always instruct others, especially the elderly to do housework. For no particular reason, try to do it yourself; Don't be a "shopkeeper", be diligent in discovering and doing small things and chores around you.
12. Learn to stand on your own feet, especially your wife. Don't rely too much on your husband. Don't let your husband help you, and don't let him do trivial things that are easy to do.
13, be mature gradually, learn to live carefully, and don't fight like children every day.
14, be diligent. Don't be sleepy.
15, conscientiously fulfill moral obligations, and cannot exceed the moral bottom line of filial piety, hospitality, courtesy and communication.
16, don't expose shortcomings. Since you have helped others, don't regret it. Exposing shortcomings is the behavior of villains.
17, a lot of things should be done in a down-to-earth way, don't look at one mountain and look at another.
18, always bless and pray, I hope you and others are happy.
19, don't follow the trend, be independent.
20. Sometimes, when both sides find a real dilemma, it is easier to help each other in the same boat and overcome the difficulties together.
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What is the way of getting along between husband and wife? Happy couples can share daily chores. Daily chores themselves can't bring happiness, but they bring self-confidence to spouses and enhance mutual trust. In these day-to-day gratifications, happy couples can raise their ideals to a higher level. Happy couples never envy each other. They usually don't quarrel, but they get angry and angry when there is a contradiction-but then they give in. The ability to solve problems is a common feature of these couples. Happy couples value each other's best. When spouses focus on each other's strengths, they will become in love and harmony. This doesn't mean that both sides need to be optimists, but they don't notice the shortcomings of the other side that easily lead to anxiety, anger or sadness. Happy couples know each other's best side and let him (her) show it to the maximum. This "rose realism" is the basic feature of a happy marriage. Happy couples know how to change themselves. Most couples feel that they have changed themselves in many ways after marriage, and happy couples feel that they have become better-so do their spouses. A happy marriage can make both husband and wife more perfect. Happy couples understand the importance of * * *. People often say that * * * is not important in a happy marriage. A happy marriage depends on friendship, respect and commitment-these factors can make the marriage last when love fades. However, under the seemingly calm appearance of these marriages, it is often found that loving couples have a strong and charming life and have obvious chemical attraction to sex. Happy couples will never compete with each other. Although they will conflict, it is not because of the power and status of the family. No matter how big their contribution is, they are regarded as equally important contributions to the family. In financial management, every loving couple thinks that the family income is the same, not his or her personal income. There is no power struggle between them on financial issues. Happy couples think their spouses are best friends. They spend a lot of time together, talking about their families, working for their families and pursuing the same hobbies. Whatever they want to do, they want to do it together. In this respect, loving couples can support each other and be loyal to each other-even if they think each other's behavior is wrong. Some experts tell us that romantic love must be "deceptive" and realistic idealization, but happy couples try their best to maintain their romantic marriage life, and after many years, they are still deeply attracted to each other.
What if there is no affection between husband and wife? The way husband and wife get along 1. Learn to listen to each other's conversations.
When talking about their spouses, most interviewees enthusiastically said that he (she) is a very good person and listens to me carefully. He (she) did it not out of politeness, but out of genuine interest.
Step 2 be careful
Happiness is like broken glass.
Therefore, your daily behavior should be like this-as if you have just made a decision to give your future to him or her. You should let him or her know how happy your love makes you.
3. Panel contacts
Pietro Pinto said, "If there is no warmth for one day, the marriage relationship will be shortened by two days." Couples don't have to hug each other often. However, the touch of love is a placebo for the soul.
Step 4 show your feelings
For marriage, affection is the water that flowers need.
Without feelings, the relationship between husband and wife will break down. But both husband and wife should also learn to express their feelings, and encourage each other to do the same thing, that is, show their feelings.
Step 5 be patient
This relationship must be deepened and developed. But trust can't be created overnight, so be patient. Many couples make this mistake in the first few years, that is, they expect too much from each other too quickly. Be clear: you have plenty of time to get to know and understand each other, but it takes time.
Step 6 be sincere
If the other person does something you don't like, then you should talk to him or her and say it. Maybe you don't have to talk to each other right away, let alone argue, but you can fall in love twice and talk to each other calmly and talk about everything. Otherwise, how can the other person know what you like and dislike?
How do couples get along? What if the husband and wife can't communicate? Don't be too careful People meet: by a little fate, people get along with each other; by sincerity, people love each other; by a sincere heart.
In this vast world, there are different ways to communicate with people. In communication, some people are very kind to others; Some people are straightforward; Some people are generous; Some people are stingy; Some people are insidious; Some people are treacherous to others.
Some people are harsh; Some people are very tolerant; Some people are kind to others and friendly to others; Some people are petty and critical, and always think that others are too ... In short, people have different philosophies of life and different ways of dealing with others, and the results are different.
Through the test of time, I think it is very important to get along with people, that is, "open-mindedness", that is, grace, mind and temperament. It is a symbol of knowledge and talent, and it is also the embodiment of profound knowledge. A friend in need can make people recognize and understand each other, and can also make people blame themselves and repent.
What are the ways of getting along between husband and wife? Husband and wife love each other and are loyal to each other. Communication is the first key to solve marriage problems.
Marriage must be as dull as a long stream of water, which can last for a long time, but insipid does not mean tasteless.
Fine water does not mean that it is completely calm.
Otherwise, it is the other extreme of marriage.
This is another corner of marriage,
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Tasteless and lack of freshness is the biggest achilles heel of marriage.
The way to get along between husband and wife is trust. Without trust, the family will not be harmonious. There is also the need to care more about each other, be filial to parents and communicate as much as friends.
What if the husband and wife can't communicate &; Rq= the way husband and wife get along &; Sa=brs that is to calm down and communicate well.
Solve contradictions in time,
Don't hold it in your heart.
How to be a good wife and daughter-in-law What is the way of getting along between husband and wife? No, the good times of the daughter-in-law. The good times of the daughter-in-law episode 36 Grandma Hou gave Doudou a photo to record the growing process of the aftertaste. Grandma told Doudou that she always knew that the aftertaste was not black, and Doudou felt that she had married a good man. Yu Hongshui and Cao got together to meet Yu Hao's fiance, Cao and Yao Jingguan ... The Beautiful Times of Daughter-in-law Episode 35 Doudou spoke tactfully in front of Cao, and Cao's attitude was loose. Jing Yao told Yu Hongshui about her going to Cao, and Yu Hongshui also confessed about100000 yuan. At the same time, she told Yao Jingyu about the wedding, and Jing Yao suggested that he give his favorite work to his daughter ... His daughter-in-law's "Good Times" episode 34 told Doudou that the train in Yang Yifan was about to pass through this city, and she wanted to meet him at the station, and Doudou was very supportive. Snow White came to invite Doudou and his wife to the wedding. Doudou told Cao about this good thing and persuaded her to agree. Yu Hao went to the station to see Yang Yifan, a wonderful time for two people ... daughter-in-law. In episode 33, Pan Fenghuang and Mao Doudou exchanged experiences with their mother-in-law and learned a lot. Yu Wei gave Cao100000 yuan and lied that Cao was happy to solve the case. At this moment, Mao Feng also gave him the deposit of100000 yuan from his parents. In the hospital, my father Pan also took100000 yuan ... the beautiful times of his wife. Episode 32 Cao was seriously ill and numb. She takes turns taking care of her in the hospital. Mao Feng regretted it very much. Beauty thinks that the husband and wife have brought trouble to others, and Mao Feng discusses selling the store to make up for everyone's losses. Mao's parents also plan to sell their house to pay off their debts. Mr. and Mrs. Mao Doudou are also happy times for their daughter-in-law. Episode 3 1 When Doudou wanted to settle accounts with Mao Feng, Pan's parents came to Mao Feng with local products, and Mao Feng felt guilty. Jinlong went to the flower shop to provoke and told beautiful Mao Feng that she loved her and did business with her. Beauty is sad. Mao Feng invited Fan Ge to drink, and Fan Ge also advised him to come to their senses. Mao Feng went to the studio ... After the mobilization meeting of the 30th episode of "Beautiful Times of Daughter-in-law", the project of investing in forest land triggered a hot discussion among several families. Despite repeated opposition from the aftertaste, Cao joined; Even Jing Yao wants to take part. Finally, Mao's parents, Pan's parents, Cao, his wife, and his wife each offered100000 yuan ... Mao Feng mobilized several families to do business together-invest in forest land, and everyone was dubious. Cao Meixin asked Yuhao to move to Wei Yu's house to live with him without Doudou's consent. What makes Doudou even more angry is that Cao insisted on being a housekeeper and let the three women pay all the monthly wages ... The 28 th episode of the beautiful times of the daughter-in-law was wronged by Cao because of the true and false jade bracelets; Cao He suggested Yuhao move back and conveyed it to Doudou politely, but Doudou refused angrily. Wang asked Pan Fu to solve the problem of Doudou's work, and the beauty readily agreed. Mao Feng plays ... his wife's beautiful times, episode 27. In the morning, Doudou went to work, and Cao asked her to take care of herself at home. Doudou is in a dilemma. Doug asked Snow White how to solve the problem of getting along with her mother-in-law. Snow White introduced her to a five-star nursing home and helped her move in. In the evening, Doudou came home and excitedly conveyed this letter to her mother-in-law ... The 26th episode of "Beautiful Times of Daughter-in-law" comforted Cao, and the beautiful woman specially brought a bonsai to Cao, and Cao expressed her gratitude. I want Yuhao to move out of Yang's house. Cao wrote a letter in the middle of the night, expressing his willingness to be buried with his ex-wife, waking up the aftertaste and peas. Cao couldn't help laughing: ... Mao Doudou promised Pan Fenghuang to solve the problem of Mao Feng. She had an in-depth conversation with Mao Feng, and Mao Feng reluctantly agreed to break off relations with Jinlong. The beauty asked her mother-in-law for business experience and asked her to help in the shop. Her mother-in-law is very happy. Mao Feng temporarily cut off the relationship with Jinlong and reconciled with Pan Meili ... The beautiful time of his daughter-in-law Episode 24 When Cao met Yu Hongshui, she was even more wronged and finally burst into tears. In the evening, Doudou handed over the white bag in the flood, but it attracted Cao's picky and lost his temper. Doudou is very wronged. Cao narrated his heartthrob in front of him, talking about being buried with poplars a hundred years later and the good times of his wife. Episode 23 Li Ruoqiu promised Jing Yao to cooperate even without peas. Cao heard that the company had a financial crisis and Doudou resigned, so he went home to praise Doudou. Jing Yao's business is over, and she also thanks Yu Wei's house. Two mother-in-law met, and it was a fierce battle. Doudou brought back the aftertaste ... episode 22 of the beautiful times of daughter-in-law Jing Yao confessed the company's predicament and asked Doudou to help her. Doudou was embarrassed by Jing Yao's request. Doudou and Snow White talked about it, but he didn't come up with a solution. Jinlong went to the cultural center to find Mao Feng, just as Pan Meili sent him sweet potatoes, and Mao Feng's colleague Fan Ge covered for Mao Feng ... After Yu Hao and Cao Meixin left, Yu Wei told Doudou about his work, and Doudou made up with him. Doudou went to work in a company in Jing Yao. Colleagues in the company are polite on the surface and talk behind their backs. Doudou feels ashamed. I went to Doudou Company to pretend to be the big boss and take care of Doudou, and I went to the office building where Doudou was located to do business ... Good time for my daughter-in-law, episode 20.