In China, it is a shame to admit that you have psychological problems.
Let's imagine the following, when you want to tell each other that you are mentally ill, how do others react? Most people will tell you: "You just think too much", and radical people will stay away from you: "You won't kill me, will you?" Or some euphemistic people, while taking care of your emotions, plan to stay away from you. No matter what kind of people, they all feel that depression is like a plague and can't wait to leave you at once.
Born in China, I can't understand one thing: in this continent full of conquest and conquest, it is a shame to admit cowardice. Our ancient legends and biographies of celebrities have always emphasized that cowardice is a hard thing to say. Suffer humiliation, bear the burden of humiliation, bear the burden of humiliation, be independent and constantly strive for self-improvement is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. I don't know when it started. Exposing weaknesses is like showing your bloody heart and lungs to others. People know it's true, but they turn around and throw it on the ground in disgust.
How many people are judged to be "fragile" because they reveal their depression to family and friends out of trust, and how many people think it is too shameful to expose their weaknesses and hide their "vulnerability"?
People who have the courage to face their vulnerability will bravely believe the truth of the world at first, but the fact is another situation: a patient with terminal cancer, enduring chemotherapy, will be praised for his courage; A disabled person, if he doesn't give up and live hard, others will praise him for being strong; A depressed person tries his best to stay strong, but others say "you think too much", "be strong" and "die if you want to" ...
How can this be true?
Don't wash your dirty clothes in public, you are too short to show to others!
China people are different from westerners, which is a unique tradition of the orientals, especially our Chinese descendants. Anything shameful at home will be digested by me as privacy, so that time will dilute everything! If there are any defects, there will always be a sense of inferiority, and the meaning of self-protection is particularly strong. These feelings will accumulate over time to form a kind of pressure, a strong pressure, but China people love to carry themselves! This is determined by the Confucian culture in China from ancient times to the present.
Westerners are different. Westerners are not shy. They are extroverted. Western society is a very open society, reckless and outspoken. Westerners don't like people in China who swallow their pride and hide their talents. Westerners seem reckless, rude and even barbaric, unlike us in China who are delicate, and unlike people in China who like to think twice about everything. This feature of westerners makes western society develop rapidly.
The shyness of China people leads China people to like to close themselves up and keep everything in their hearts. They are strong on the outside and hurt on the inside! Society is progressing and ideas are changing! Everything will be accepted slowly, including psychological counseling.
Influenced by traditional ideas, many people have misunderstandings about psychological counseling. Many people think that psychological counseling is equivalent to psychopathy and psychopathy. So many people are ashamed to talk about psychological counseling.
Actually, it's not. This is a one-sided view. We can say that some psychological counselors have psychological problems and psychological abnormalities. But most counselors are mentally healthy. They seek the help of psychological counselors, just want a happier life.
When a person is mentally unhealthy and psychopathic, he usually can't live, work and fall in love normally. Because people's awareness of mental illness is not high, the public's acceptance of these people's behavior is relatively low. In this case, the first thing people think of is the psychological counselor. In addition to drug therapy, psychological counseling can help counselors reverse abnormal psychology and promote their return to normal life.
The more important role of psychological counseling is to help ordinary mental health counselors to resolve their depression, pain, sadness and anxiety, and to help them establish a positive and healthy outlook on life, world outlook and values. Everyone will have negative emotions, but not everyone will deal with them by themselves. In this case, the help of a psychological counselor is also needed.
Usually, we can seek the help of a counselor in the following three situations: First, when we are mentally unhealthy or abnormal. Second, when there are psychological doubts and conflicts, you can't make a decision. Third, when the career orientation and career planning are not clear.
Psychological counselors not only solve psychological problems and conflicts, but also help us ordinary people achieve a happier life.
The industry of psychological counseling started relatively late in China, which is a strange field for many people, and even many people think it is deceptive, mainly in the following aspects, which makes people feel a little embarrassed when doing psychological counseling.
First of all, people have little contact with this industry and are skeptical about psychological counseling. It is not as direct as a doctor's treatment, and the curative effect is not obvious, which makes people who go to consult afraid of being laughed at by others.
Second, people who go to psychological counseling are a little obscure in their inner world and can't tell normal people. They will try their best to hide themselves. This will arouse the suspicion of others, so even if you consult a psychiatrist, you won't tell others.
Third, it is not excluded that some psychologists will exaggerate the mystery of the industry to patients, leading to patients' silence.
Fourth, the treatment of mental illness needs a long process. Those who need psychological counseling will choose to keep it secret. In order to avoid outside suspicion, they always consult and treat carefully without telling anyone.
In fact, with the development of society, people will face mental illness calmly, and we also hope that patients with mental illness can consult psychologists and face-to-face treatment.
Why do some people find it difficult to do psychological counseling?
Psychological counselors are embarrassed or even embarrassed because people have misunderstandings about psychological problems and psychological counseling. A long time ago, people lacked scientific understanding of psychological diseases, especially hysteria, obsessive-compulsive disorder and schizophrenia. They feel that they are possessed by evil spirits and ghosts, which is considered a shameful thing.
With the progress of science, people are more and more aware of the causes of psychological problems, that is, there is a deviation in the perspective of seeing problems and inaccurate evaluation of things, which causes some anxiety, anxiety leads to physical symptoms, endocrine disorders and so on. And cause the work ability and communication function to retreat, change these cognitive thinking, turn these cognitive thinking into the automatic running program of the brain, and the problem will be solved.
The emergence of psychological problems is actually the same as that of students who are not effective in school, looking for a tutor, or going to a make-up school to make up the left courses and correct unreasonable cognition.
It is important to admit your limitations, show your inner darkness, and face the status quo of "failure" and "incompetence".
But the courage to admit that you have an unsolvable proposition is not wrong, nor does it mean that you have failed. No one is perfect, and there must be shortcomings and limitations. Facing problems positively, facing crises bravely and finding solutions are the successful life.
Due to the lack of in-depth and comprehensive understanding of psychological counseling, I mistakenly think that it is not a glorious thing to do psychological counseling, and I will be troubled by some misunderstandings. In fact, some psychological problems are normal and common. People encounter some psychological problems in different degrees and actively solve their own psychological problems. This kind of help-seeking behavior is worth advocating, and it is a manifestation of their responsibility to themselves, others, families and society. Moreover, the process of psychological counseling itself is based on the principle of confidentiality, and there is no very special reason. Neither the client nor the counselor will make it public, which is the ethical requirement of psychological counseling.
Give a brief explanation of the ethical aspects of psychological counseling. The ethics of psychological counseling follows certain norms and standards, which is of great significance for promoting the smooth development of psychological counseling. The ethical standards that psychological counseling should follow mainly include the following three aspects:
First, provide qualified professional services to ensure that consultants have good professional qualities and do not exceed their own abilities; Second, we should safeguard the rights and interests of visitors and respect their independent rights. Whether to consult or not is up to the visitors themselves. At the same time, we should treat every visitor fairly and avoid harm. For example, privacy can't be leaked without the consent of the visitors, which is the biggest harm to the visitors. Third, the consultant should pay attention to the truth of the content promised to the visitors, make the promise honestly, and not deceive the visitors. This is a very important moral principle. Therefore, psychological counseling has a referral mechanism to better protect visitors.
We know that psychological counseling can't solve all problems. It provides mental health services for ordinary people's general psychological problems and serious psychological problems. Learn some psychology and help others help themselves.
Psychological counseling is difficult to talk about, mainly because of the influence of traditional ideas. In our country, there is an incredible phenomenon, that is, when there are physical problems, patients and their families will actively seek treatment, but when they find that their psychology is abnormal, they always try to cover it up. It is precisely because of this phenomenon that psychological problems are not treated in time, which leads to delays and the problem becomes more serious. The reason for this phenomenon is that in the traditional concept, mental problems are regarded as mental disorders, which is a very shameful thing and is often looked down upon by people. It is for this reason that psychological counseling is difficult to do.
Now that science has become very prosperous and psychological knowledge has been widely popularized, it has become a trend to actively seek help for psychological problems. I believe this situation will be improved obviously in the near future.
If we make a further in-depth analysis of this phenomenon, it is also a defense mechanism in professional terms. Psychological defense is very common, and life without defense is difficult to survive in this world. However, whether the defense is scientific and reasonable directly affects mental health. Some defenses are unnecessary, such as psychological problems. If you don't feel ashamed, but choose to accept and take the initiative to seek help, then many psychological problems will be reduced because of the pain of canceling the defense. For this problem, Zhou Dunyi of the Song Dynasty had already warned in Zhou Zitong's book: "What people have today is not gratifying. If they are afraid of disease and avoid medical treatment, they would rather destroy their bodies than realize it. " The ancients were able to realize this. Today, with the vigorous development of science, we really shouldn't be so stupid.
Everyone wants to show their bright side to outsiders. Why do they have to wear makeup? Why do many people not admit that they are wrong and think they are the most perfect?
Difficulties in speaking are also psychological reasons, but it shows that their thinking is still in a normal state and can be overcome through reasonable adjustment.