In fact, disputes are not easy to hurt emotions, and they can also produce warmth if they are properly resolved. Today, we will talk about a couple or a couple quarreling. As a woman, don't do these three things, which are the least harmful.
1. Cold words
When people get angry, their mentality goes out, so they can speak frankly and say whatever comes to mind. When you calm down gradually, you will regret it again. When two people quarrel, they should restrain such objectivity emotionally. For these people who think with judgment, it is not easy to guess what you really think under such exciting circumstances.
Therefore, when quarreling, you need to manage your clarity, consider how to express yourself before quarreling with your husband, and then express your views in the most direct way. For example, if you want the other person to think more about himself, don't say divorce. If you want to express your concern about his coming home late, don't blame him for not worrying about this family. In order to better improve communication skills, better grasp each other in the whole process of quarreling.
2. Hands-on ability
If you can't win in the middle of the language, you will be beaten in a rage, and even your fists and feet will be added to vent your inner bitterness and hatred. Although practical ability can solve inner insults more effectively, what about practical ability in the future? Will the couple go home again? Obviously, this kind of struggle can't handle the differences between husband and wife well, and it will also expand the differences. After a battle, it may become more difficult to maintain a broken marriage.
Smart women manage their feelings in this way, and human contradictions are more serious than verbal contradictions. If you want to save your marriage, no matter what happens between husband and wife now or you don't like this person, you should restrain your anger and limit your personal behavior. Fight after the quarrel, so that the other party thinks that you are unscientific, and the other party is unwilling to communicate with you, and you don't have to think that he will withdraw from you.
3. Cold violence and separation
After the quarrel, _ didn't get all the results, and the anger subsided. The wife does not allow her husband to go back to the house to sleep. This is a mistake made by many ladies. Maybe one or two punishments will make the husband reflect on himself, but if there are more and more punishments for sleeping in separate rooms for no reason, he will doubt the practical significance of this marriage.
There is some truth in the saying that husband and wife have a one-night vendetta. Emotional counseling, why can couples who often quarrel go back to the house to sleep and deal with conflicts? Because one room for husband and wife is a method of intimate communication between husband and wife. Even if two people lie back to back in bed without saying a word after quarreling, they can feel each other's emotions at the moment, whether they are angry, wronged or sad. This unspoken truth is better than yelling at each other.
What is the most comfortable state of feelings? The above three things are not to be done when a husband and wife quarrel. Why do you always quarrel after marriage? Why is the other half more and more unscientific? Not because marriage is too bad, but because marriage is too critical. Happy marriages are always difficult to calm down, and they all support each other through difficulties and obstacles. Think of every quarrel as an opportunity to master each other. Junior high school will develop in quarrels again and again. I firmly believe that everyone's marriage will become stronger and stronger, and the relationship between husband and wife will become deeper and deeper.