As far as human development is concerned, the family is the most basic and important institution. Heininger found that in the family system, there are some hidden motives to control the relationship between family members-the order of love, which does not follow the social and cultural standards or rules, but operates on these standards or rules. If we get along with our families in the order of love, our relationship will be very good and everyone will grow up happily and healthily; If we ignore it, our family will be troubled, and these troubles are "implicated".
Heininger found that many people's physical and mental problems are actually caused by "involvement". "Implication" can be said to be "repeating the fate of a former family member". And the beginning of many "implications" is caused by children's simple "love" for their parents in the early days, trying to take over their parents. In today's psychoanalytic concept, it is because a person has failed to separate from his parents. In a family, this unfinished separation may also be a series of "implicated" relationships in the family. "Involvement" will make a family member have incomprehensible thoughts, emotions, behaviors, poor interpersonal relationships, diseases and psychological problems from childhood, and continue throughout his life.
These hidden motives influence or control us, and we hardly realize their existence, but in fact we may feel hurt because we don't respect them. Therefore, we can know its existence from these injuries. Heininger's "family system arrangement" therapy is to expose the reasons of "involvement" through the method he developed, and often find out the possibility of solution.
In human society, everyone shoulders some hatred, resentment and sadness towards their ancestors. "Family arrangement" can quickly find and resolve these burdens. When I was in class in the United States, a case of Indian aborigines was used by almost everyone in class: the tutor guided a dozen students to line up in two rows behind the parents of the parties, representing the ancestors of paternal and maternal generations, plus the brothers and sisters of the parties and some relatives related by blood, and more than 20 people stood in the whole circle. Every "representative" has his own feelings and personality. Indians have a sense of hatred, sadness and guilt (sorry for the people) about whites landing in the United States. In 200 years, eight generations can imagine how heavy the burden is. No wonder aborigines everywhere have serious problems such as alcoholism.
Institutional arrangement is a newly developed applied knowledge, which can help people get the hidden information in the system, so as to have a clearer understanding of the handling of things. The skill of institutional arrangement is used for enterprise management, personnel disputes, future choice and other needs, which is called "organizational institutional arrangement"; When used in psychotherapy, some deep-seated family troubles can be found and resolved, which is called "family institutional arrangement"
The systematic arrangement is the German psychotherapist Bert? Heininger discovered it after 25 years of research. It can be done in three ways: people and as representatives, one-on-one as mentors, and small objects on the table. In our system arrangement skill class, you will see the application of three ways. In our systematic arrangement workshop, you will see how systematic arrangement (and nlp skills) are applied to psychological consultation, because the primary purpose is to help friends in need to deal with their troubles. Friends who are watching often find that some of their systematic things will change very well: although they have not said it, they have not raised it and have not dealt with it.
Last year, at the invitation of the psychotherapy circle in China, Master Heininger held a seminar on "Family System Arrangement" in Shanghai and Beijing, which received a strong response. Participants not only learned about the deep concept and operation paradigm of human nature and family contained in this therapy, but also gained many insights or solutions to their own life and growth. Since then, some domestic psychotherapy professionals have also achieved surprising results in their attempts.
System layout features:
● The subordination relations presented by institutional arrangements and the handling process of these relations are beyond the time and space restrictions in real life: generations separated by decades, people all over the world, and even people who are no longer alive can appear at the same time and space.
● What appears in the institutional arrangement is more true and correct than what the parties know. The truth that some parties don't know can be revealed in the systematic arrangement. There was once a customer who found out in the systematic arrangement that he was not born by his parents, and was later confirmed by his parents.
● There is no "standard procedure" for system arrangement-the exact "when to do what" regulation. A good instructor of institutional arrangements will not make institutional arrangements with judgment and speculation. He made full use of his feelings and let the phenomena that appeared at that time push him to make the next decision in his mind. Mr Heininger called it "phenomenological method".
Can't create the effect of systematic arrangement. We can only present all kinds of problems in the system, including the solutions. If there is no solution to the system, the director of the system arrangement can't "create" the effect of human will, because maintaining the law of system operation is beyond human thought and will.
There is no "predetermined result" in institutional arrangement-an exact affirmation of "what should happen after institutional arrangement". A good director of institutional arrangement completely forgets this experience once he finishes it. He won't guarantee any effect to his customers, nor will he ask them to do anything.
Timeline therapy and system integration are the latest and highest level psychological counseling skills, which can solve the deepest problems of human beings and can only be described as "shock"!
The continuation of mankind depends on the generation of new generations, and each generation of new generations is like the growth of a branch on a tree. When this branch has special circumstances, such as damage, distortion, etc., its growth will inevitably be affected by this special situation. All new growth will be different from the pattern produced by this special situation. An African scholar once said? "The younger generation is the future of the older generation."
A group of people, whether family or career, is a system. Everyone's position in each system has its own factors, just like the growth of branches of a tree. Under normal circumstances, it will present a certain pattern, so that we can judge what tree it is from a distance through its posture. However, if the growth of the branches of this tree is affected by pests, wind and rain or other reasons, the posture after growth will be different, even special, so that we can't recognize it immediately. Members of a family often have a special influence on their own growth because of the special circumstances of the ancestors of the previous generation or earlier, and this influence will affect the growth of the next generation.
"System Constellation" means that by observing the position of each person in a group system composed of people, it shows the deviation caused by the influence of the above-mentioned growth process, and more importantly, by confirming the meaning represented by these deviations, people concerned can understand the reasons behind it and re-integrate the system.
"System Integration" in Family Therapy