Many people think that it would be better to change people if they have emotional problems. But many times, people will find that after mentioning it, there will still be great differences, so they will blame others and hate what they trust.
Generally, people who have this idea are interested in examining their attitude towards marriage, and cadres are not good at interacting with others. In fact, it is an ability to change direction, especially in the five abilities of true love.
So _, if we want to stay, when is the prime time to stay?
Generally speaking, there are several kinds of opportunities that can be retained: Who has consulted an emotional counselor, and is it reliable? A month and a half, 2~3 months, within half a year, there are also how long it took to break up.
But in fact, the real retention opportunity is different for each emotion and must be distinguished according to the retention progress.
Generally speaking, there are two times that are particularly suitable for retention.
The prime time to save feelings is 1. Check in immediately after breaking up.
There is no doubt that this is the best time to stay, because some emotions can't stand dawdling, and the longer the time, the greater the change. But in addition, this is also a risky retention stage, because during this time, the other party is likely to remain dissatisfied with you, and the problems between everyone are still a big obstacle to prevent everyone from getting back together.
In addition, in the long run, staying immediately after breaking up is more like a last resort. Because you are unlikely to correct your problems in a short time, you may even not realize the importance of the problems at all, and staying is only based on the begging of the humble, and the other party can agree to get back together because of indecision.
The prime time to save feelings is for the other party to contact you actively, which is one of the complicated signals.
Many people find that the other party has been willing to stay for a period of time, so they give up and think that they will never contact each other again.
But after a while, the other party actually took the initiative to contact you.
This small key point is very easy to be ignored by the retainer, because there is a profound meaning behind this behavior.
Many people think that the other party is looking for themselves because of something, or independently understand their current situation and finally fall in love.
But in fact, no matter what the other person really wants to do, it is good for you. _ Do you like it on WeChat or Weibo? If you are contacted, you need to seize the opportunity to retain.
Naturally, you can't rush for success, and you don't have to mention complexity. You can learn from ordinary friends. But this is a targeted basin friend. In the end, everyone's goal is to turn each other into their own lovers or lovers.
Moreover, you must pay special attention not to let the other person be regarded as a spare tire. It is very likely that he only contacted you because he was lonely.
In any case, you can create a connection, which at least means you have taken another step from the other side. Even if you can't stay, you can still save a precious memory.
The prime time to save feelings. 3. Care about each other's mentality and look for suitable opportunities.
It is an incorrect personal behavior to delete all the contact information of the other party in a fit of pique after breaking up. It doesn't make sense. You think it is mainly to show indifference to each other, but the objective fact is just the opposite. The real indifference is that even if the other person is in front of you, it can't cause you a little emotional fluctuation.
The second best opportunity to make up for breaking up is that it must be delivered to you in this way. This opportunity was given to you by the other party. It is often said that emotion is a matter of two people, and so is retention. Even if the other person is not easy to take the initiative to retain you, if he has this idea, he will inadvertently let you retain his relationship. Sometimes, some problems will be erased and the differences between people will be eliminated. Even if you learn from your friends, if you are always by his side, you will find the right opportunity.
Retention is a kind of looking back, or success, igniting ambition 3. If you don't succeed, people will pass by day by day. For love, everyone should learn to do what he should do, just because you really love that person and you don't want him to give up your side. In fact, the choice of the stage of breaking up depends more on your ability to work during the whole process of staying here, and more on the choice of the other party. You have finished 99 steps. How to make the other person choose to take this important step is an opportunity that you must always create in 99 steps.