How to find a suitable psychologist?
1. When you think you need to see a psychiatrist, you can use Google search engine to search the doctor's name first. Generally, some mature psychologists have many traces that can be obtained from the Internet. For example, the professional background, qualifications, training, writing, consulting experience and so on. Of course, if you don't "hit the list", you can't say that online psychologists are not credible. This is just a resource method.
2. Pay attention to the reputation of the psychiatrist. Good doctors are always mentioned and recommended by friends. When waiting for a doctor, seekers often exchange views on the doctor, especially those clients who have maintained a long-term relationship with the doctor, and their feelings for the doctor should be in place. But at present, the demand for psychologists is in short supply, and there may be a group of blind admirers at the door of any embarrassing doctor.
3. Do you think doctors are reliable? For you, your feelings are real. But for others, your feelings include your values, experiences, your defenses and your empathy.
A good psychologist has a strong personality charm and affinity. He doesn't talk or laugh. Looking at you will give you a lot of information. He makes you feel safe, comfortable, loved, respected, accepted and recognized. You are relaxed and have nothing to be afraid of. He will arouse your desire to speak, but at the same time guide you to think, analyze yourself and control. He never mentioned Freud or Jung. He is easy to draw conclusions, but he cares about your feelings. He always tries to get to know you, understand you and get close to you, instead of controlling, evaluating and guiding you. A good psychiatrist is not complicated, authoritative or profound at all. He flows with you like water, as transparent as glass, and dissolves your defense and resistance into invisibility. When you complain about others, others will be silent, don't fan the evil wind, don't light a ghost fire, and when you reflect on yourself, his eyes will shine with joy. He listens a lot and says very little, but every sentence may be a new vision, giving you a new experience and making you feel a new world.
Factors that should be considered
The following things can be referenced, but they are not reliable:
1. When introducing doctors, institutions often only identify the doctors' medical qualifications, but not their personal character, professional quality and professional ethics.
2. The doctor's education and professional training background generally require a medical or psychological background and an intermediate title, but this does not mean anything. The professional training background provided by many psychologists is only a short training course, which is useless.
3. Professional license or psychology license. Some doctors will say that they have professional qualifications or licenses granted by a foreign institution, which is not reliable, because there is no qualification certification institution in China, and you don't know the authenticity of these things.
4. The time for psychologists to experience themselves and accept supervision and analysis is the only way for psychologists to practice. The doctor's analysis of the client will not go beyond his own depth. In foreign countries, a psychoanalyst has to accept no less than 800 hours of self-analysis. The gold content of psychologists consists of three parts: one third is to receive education and study psychological theory, one third is to receive professional training, and one third is to experience oneself. In China, psychologists generally lack self-analysis because of the lack of supervision system. This is very dangerous for customers. Doctors don't realize their own problems, and helping the parties realize themselves is a bit like "a blind man riding a blind horse and going to a deep pool at midnight". Of course, psychologists in China have flexible methods. More than a dozen doctors form self-analysis groups to supervise each other, thus promoting their own growth (there are spiritual oasis groups, psychoanalysis groups, family therapy groups, etc. in Beijing). Of course, there must be a doctor who will say how many hours he has been supervised abroad. Can we trust him? I dare not say, because the supervision fee is very expensive, one hour of supervision costs at least 200 dollars, which is not affordable for very rich people.
5. Professional years. Generally speaking, the longer the working hours, the higher the professional level, but not necessarily. Being a psychologist requires understanding. I have seen a doctor who has been engaged in psychological counseling 17 years, and I don't even understand the basic methods of some counseling techniques. I think he is not helping people, but hurting them.
The following aspects are the least reliable,
1. titles, such as professor or chief physician, or even doctor's title, can't represent anything, indicating that they have made achievements in some knowledge, but it can't mean that he is a psychology major.
2. Leaders of psychological societies, such as presidents, directors and members of national committees. Busy with business work, unable to settle down to do the case.
3. expensive people, expensive people don't mean that he is high-level. Self-righteous people always think that others should be his and overestimate themselves. Of course, a doctor with low fees should not go to see it. He will unconsciously compensate himself in other ways.
4. It is good for overseas gold-plated people to have a background of studying abroad, but it is necessary to find out what they want to learn and what gold to plate. Some people go back to China and think that this country is full of hillbillies, so let them do whatever they want. I met several conscious people, and I sincerely hoped that she would come to do case supervision or give a lecture, but it turned out that the bull's head was not the horse's mouth.
People who publish books should never think that people who can write books have a high level of consultation. Ten books written by Dr. China can't be read, which makes good people see the problems all over their bodies.
6. For the elderly, psychological counseling is a challenging job, which requires psychological counselors to be energetic, open-minded, flexible, ahead of the times and have a multicultural value orientation. It is hard for the elderly not to be rigid, think that they eat too much salt, and it is hard to restrain themselves from educating others.
You can learn everything by yourself, but not medicine, because medicine is not only a kind of knowledge, but also a kind of practice, training and operation technology. Psychologists also have the skills to form a perfect personality.