First, I am tired of learning educational skills.
In view of different psychological phenomena, effective educational countermeasures are taken to alleviate students' weariness of learning.
(1) Correct attribution Parents should help their children analyze the real reasons for "weariness", which may be the tension between teachers and students, problems in classmates' relationship, bad parent-child relationship, or obstacles in learning ... and so on, which may cause weariness.
(2) Appropriate guidance-giving children too much pressure will cause children's fear and disgust. At this time, parents should lower their requirements for their children and don't often compare their own shortcomings with the advantages of others. It is necessary to set appropriate learning goals (low starting point, small goals, diligent test and quick change), moderate pressure, and put forward reasonable requirements so that children can easily accept them.
(3) Clear goals and form habits-let children know their daily study tasks, and it is best to list the study schedule and study regularly, which will help to form a good habit of "conscious".
(4) Encouragement and appreciation-parents should be good at discovering their children's academic achievements and giving them praise to build up their confidence in learning.
Of course, each child's personality characteristics are different, each child's learning ability is different, and the situation of each family is different. I hope parents can implement and choose different family education methods for your children according to their own specific conditions and grow up with them!
Second, the main performance of weariness
Learning weariness is different from general learning weariness. Its main characteristics are that it has no interest in learning, regards learning as a burden, regards learning as a painful thing, can't engage in normal learning activities, often plays truant or truant, which will seriously lead to dropping out of school.
At present, high school students are generally tired of learning. Diagnostic criteria of learning weariness: losing interest in more than two-thirds of subjects and unwilling to study, being in a passive coping state and muddling through in learning; I don't care if I don't get good grades in most culture classes. Students with this kind of performance are also tired of learning.
Third, the main reasons for weariness
There are objective reasons and internal psychological reasons for being tired of learning.
The objective reasons involve examination system, educational concept, educational system, educational content, curriculum, teaching objectives, teaching methods and teaching evaluation, as well as the negative influence of family education environment, community education environment, social environment and mass media.
The most fundamental reason is that students' internal psychological factors play a decisive role. Specifically:
(1) lack of motivation
When students lack enough learning knowledge and have no demand, it is impossible to love learning and they are often in a passive state. These students know how to study, but their views are negative and even wrong. They accept some misconceptions from family or society that reading is hard work and useless, and they can still make big money in business without reading. Parents with low education, self-employment and strong financial resources often mislead their children inadvertently, prompting them to be tired of learning and pursue pleasure.
(2) Transfer of benefits
The growing interest of high school students is characterized by vacillation. As long as the interference factors are strong, it will shift. From the object of interest transfer, most students who are tired of learning are obsessed with games, videos and surfing the Internet. Some students who originally loved learning gradually abandoned their studies because they were obsessed with computer games. Those pornographic images are more harmful to students, ranging from depression to fighting against the law. Once students' interest changes from learning to unhealthy social activities, they are not only not interested in learning, but hate learning and resist learning.
(3) Learning is hopeless
Students who are pessimistic and disappointed in their studies and have no self-confidence are also prone to weariness.
Some students have worked hard and sweated, but no matter how hard they work, they often fail, and rarely even feel the joy of success. Repeated failures ruthlessly shattered their enterprising spirit, prompting them to make incorrect attribution, thinking that they were born stupid, weak and mentally retarded, so they gave up their efforts and raised the white flag. This is a typical learned helplessness phenomenon; There are also some students who have worked hard and achieved what they think they can achieve, but they are often not as good as others, so they rarely get praise from teachers. After being neglected by the teacher for a long time, he gradually lost his self-esteem and became broken. Among students who are tired of learning, such students account for a large proportion.
For example, a sensitive female high school student said: She will do anything as long as she can stop her father from heartache and her mother from crying. But her parents don't need her to do anything, just hope that she loves learning as much as her cousin, and study hard! As for her, she thinks that the only thing she can't do at present is to like learning and make progress in learning. There is a female classmate, because she knows that her family's economy is not very affluent, but her parents do not hesitate to scrimp and save, and worry every day in order to let her go to a private middle school. She knows very well that the only way to repay her parents is to study hard and get good grades. However, she can't do this anyway. She works hard every day, but she can't. As a result, she is pessimistic and disappointed, and often has the idea of suicide and running away from home.
(4) Emotional hunger and thirst
Some students often seek emotional compensation because of family changes, parents' divorce, emotional loneliness and lack of warmth, and learning is a hard thing, so it is difficult to play the role of emotional compensation. Therefore, they often get psychological satisfaction from other channels by making friends and pursuing excitement to make up for the incompleteness of family feelings, which also easily leads to the phenomenon of weariness of learning. There is another girl whose parents are divorced and live with her father, who is busy with business all day and has no time to take care of her daughter. Therefore, the student made friends with some irresponsible young people in society, fell in love prematurely and often didn't go home at night, which eventually led to the consequences of playing truant and running away.
Many examples show that parents are divorced and their children are emotionally incomplete; Family changes (death of father or mother), and children's emotions are withdrawn; Family education is rude and children are depressed. These can be said to be the fuse of students' weariness of learning.
(5) High expectations
Many parents, anxious to see their children get rich, put forward unrealistic demands on their children. When their children don't meet the standards, they will take inappropriate measures. Some children can bear it, and some simply "can't touch the cold with a dead mouse", but in any case they can't meet the requirements and simply give up their pursuit. China Youth Daily once reported that Xiaoyu, a girl from No.1 Middle School in Tongling City, Anhui Province, had excellent academic performance from primary school to junior high school. After entering high school, her grades declined. Her parents had high hopes and took pressure measures. As a result, the student ran away from home because of the pressure of study and family.
(6) Utilitarian consciousness
Some parents' utilitarian thoughts are particularly serious, which are manifested in: first, vanity. Neighbors' children or classmates' and colleagues' children have better grades than their own children and are psychologically unbalanced, so they desperately ask their children to live up to their expectations. The second is adulthood. Strengthen children's adult consciousness, and ask children to regard learning as an adult's thought. Only after studying well can they be admitted to a good university and find a good job. In fact, the strengthening of these utilitarian concepts is difficult to produce the expected results, but it makes children insensitive and even bored. Because their psychology is not mature enough for adults, it is impossible to live according to the ideas of adults, and haste makes waste.