In particular, buying a house has become the highlight of many couples' marriages. There are many things around the house. Sometimes, just because of the property right of the house, the two families are likely to break up in discord, and a beautiful marriage is broken like this. I'm really sorry.
"Today, I like the marriage of two surnames, a contracting party, and a lifelong marriage, which is worthy of being called. Look at the peach blossoms burning today, and IKEA in Yi Shi will be full of fruits and vegetables in the coming year. With the promise of Whitehead, I am willing to write a letter to Hong, so that the alliance of Hongye can be well documented. This card! "
This is a marriage oath of the Republic of China. After a hundred years, it still has a unique flavor. Compared with this western-style colloquial oath of "you will marry me today", it is really a shame.
We used to look forward to marriage because we yearned for beautiful love, but now we rush into marriage because of better conditions.
Love is beautiful, but it is rare. More and more people don't believe in love, or that they can get love, so they choose a seemingly easy way to give up love and only consider the material view of marriage, but the easy way is not necessarily a good result, and sometimes it is self-defeating.
When an ordinary family gets married, the man and the woman generally contribute money together, and they bear the mortgage after marriage, and the ownership of the house is also owned by both parties. It is also common for one party to contribute separately. In the case of separate contributions and repayment of loans, it is natural that the house belongs to the contributor, but some families don't think so.
One of my readers, Xiao Deng, is getting married this year. His parents mortgaged Xiao Deng to buy a suite, but his boyfriend's family said he was "shameless". The two sides were very unhappy, and the result was natural. There was no follow-up, and the five-year relationship was also burned with the curtain call of this farce.
Xiao Deng is 27 years old. She is the only daughter in the family. Her parents are engaged in small business, and their family conditions are above average.
After Xiao Deng's parents fell in love with Xiao Deng, they gave Xiao Deng a small apartment of 70 square meters with their personal savings. Xiao Deng couldn't live any longer, so he rented out the small apartment, and the rent collected was just enough for the mortgage. Even if it is not enough, Xiao Deng's parents paid for it themselves. This property is even the dowry left by Xiao Deng's parents to her daughter.
More and more female families will choose to buy premarital property for their daughters. The woman's pre-marital property is like the insurance lock of marriage, which makes women have enough confidence in marriage and be arrogant in her husband's family.
Xiao Deng's parents think so, but Xiao Deng's boyfriend's family doesn't think so.
Since the boyfriend's family learned that Xiao Deng's dowry is mortgaged property, their attitude has changed greatly, because the man's family thinks that Xiao Deng's family is taking advantage of his family.
At present, there is a controversial way of premarital property marriage, which is called "poverty alleviation marriage". It refers to a way that the man asks the woman to undertake decoration or loan after marriage, but the ownership of the house still belongs to the man.
Now Xiao Deng's property is also pre-marital property and mortgage money. Therefore, the boyfriend's family requires that if the two parties get married, it is only fair to add the boyfriend's name to the property.
In this case, things have become confusing because of the interaction between men and women. The woman did not agree with the man's request, and the man felt that the woman's behavior was "shameless" and finally did not discuss it.
From the man's point of view, the request seems reasonable, but in fact it ignores a very important point, that is, the property can be self-sufficient, even if it is redundant, it will be borne by the woman's parents. In the future, it will not become a burden for small families, nor will it require the man to contribute to support them. It is undisputed premarital property and there is no poverty alleviation phenomenon. How can this man ask his name?
Sister Zhang, the prospective mother-in-law, told Fang Face that if the future daughter-in-law was willing to take the mortgaged house with her and have her own provident fund or rent to repay the loan, she would probably laugh.
What does it mean for a woman to have real estate and get married?
The woman's parents love her daughter.
If a woman's parents are willing to support her daughter, they don't just marry her, but hope that her daughter can get happiness, and whether it really hurts her daughter.
If you don't pay in return, you will never see Fan's parents, which is also very beneficial to a small family in the long run.
The woman's parents have a good family background.
A woman's family that can afford a house is generally not too bad. Even if the family conditions are average, they are generous parents who are willing to spend money for their children.
The parents of such a big family will not only bring a burden to the small family in the future, but also help the small family.
The woman's family is really married, not empty-handed.
Some are poor female families. When the square-faced cousin got married, the woman directly asked for the full amount and the woman's name, and a new car of several hundred thousand was owned by the woman. She ordered eight cases of wine and eight cigarettes, and chose all kinds of milk nutrition. It is no exaggeration to say that the boss of the wholesale department is the happiest at this wedding. Several cars were pulled to the woman's house, and finally the woman only returned two carp. This is a windfall.
Sometimes, both men and women regard each other's house as ice cream, always thinking that they can take the opportunity to dig a few more spoonfuls and fill them into their own cakes.
No one wants to be scooped by the other side, but if it is only a slight spoonful, I think it is acceptable to both sides under common sense.
However, it is worth mentioning that the physiological cost of women in marriage and childbirth is much higher than that of men under the same conditions. Some were dug slightly by the woman's family. It's really not an exaggeration. There is really no need to haggle over this little gain and loss. It is most important for the young couple to live in harmony.
Marriage depends on the mutual help of husband and wife and the mutual understanding of two extended families. Marriage is mutual and evenly matched. Diamond cut diamond, a good marriage "does not help the poor".