"Because I have cancer, my wife has been ill for many years. I can't make a living under such a blow. Considering the future outcome, I now transfer my wife to someone else, give him the real estate, and give her 2000 yuan (monthly) in cash as living expenses. Until his (wife) died. " On the bulletin board of Zhongxiang Road, Luqiao, Tangtou Village, Jiangbei Street, Yongjia County, this notice attracted many people to watch.
The notice was posted by Lao Yu, and several of his old neighbors shook their heads, indicating that they could not understand. Lao Yu's relatives even tore up the notice and refused to talk more.
Lao Yu is 59 years old and his wife Ye Xiaojun is 58 years old. They have been married for 36 years, have a daughter, and currently live abroad. Ye Xiaojun suffers from epilepsy. After they got married, her illness broke out frequently and she needed to take medicine for a long time. Over the years, Lao Yu has been looking after his wife. Three years ago, Ye Xiaojun was seriously ill, bedridden and unable to take care of himself.
"He knows that she likes souffles, and he always buys them for her every once in a while." Ye Wenbo, Lao Yu's 87-year-old father-in-law, said: "The son-in-law never speaks loudly to my daughter. Such a son-in-law is really rare. "
After learning that he had cancer last year, Lao Yu actively treated it, but on the other hand, he always felt that there was a stone in his heart. "My parents are gone, my daughter has been abroad for a long time, and my parents-in-law are old. Who will take care of her if I die? " He admits that he has been pondering for a long time, thinking that he has a landing house worth about 600,000 yuan under his name, and that he and his wife have a monthly rental fee and subsidy of 2,000 yuan, so he came up with the idea of giving away real estate in exchange for taking care of his wife.
As for how to ensure that the transferee can take care of his wife in the case of his death, Lao Yu did not study it in detail. He believes: "Since the other party has accepted the property I gave, it will never go back on its word."
After this notice was posted for some time, more than a dozen people came to ask, but Lao Yu has not yet determined the final candidate.
Regarding "selling his beloved wife", Lao Yu said with tears. He said that his original intention was not to pass on his wife to others, but to find someone to take care of her, regardless of sex.
Netizens have mixed opinions on this. Most people are puzzled, but some people express sympathy and understanding. The supporter said: "Lao Yu is worried that he will die soon. The first thought is not his own funeral, but who will take care of his wife. 36 years of marriage is touching. "
Yongjia realistic version of "Book with Wife"
There is a saying in Lin Juemin's Book of Wives and Concubines: "Because you are weak, you can't stop losing my sadness. I will die first and make you suffer. My heart can't bear it, so I'd rather you die first and I'll bear the sorrow. "
Lao Yu, a native of Yongjia, is worried that his first wife will die and he can't take care of himself. He posted a notice on the transfer of his beloved wife, which was called a realistic version of With His Wife by netizens. Behind this seemingly immoral notice is Lao Yu's hidden love for 36 years.
Brothers and sisters resolutely stopped this move.
No.0/5, Doumentou Center Road, Longqiao Village, Jiangbei Street, Yongjia County, is an old-fashioned two-story building, which is the home of Lao Yu and Ye Xiaojun. This is the house that Lao Yu mentioned in the notice of "transferring his beloved wife". According to the appraisal of the real estate agent found by Lao Yu, it is worth more than 600,000 yuan.
"We have been here for more than ten years and have never seen his wife." Wang of a breakfast shop nearby said that everyone knows that Lao Yu's wife is in poor health, and now she is lying in bed, unable to take care of herself, and has almost become a "vegetable".
Just during the Spring Festival this year, Lao Yu posted the notice of "transferring his beloved wife" on his home wall and motorcycle. Soon, his behavior was stopped by his brother and sister, and the copy paper of the notice was torn up.
I discussed the decision with my daughter.
Yesterday morning, Lao Yu was lying in the hospital bed of Yongjia County Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine, with no one around. There are eight-treasure porridge and bread sent by Yujie and others beside the bed. On weekdays, he takes these as lunch and dinner.
Recalling the happiness when I first met my wife and the happiness when I was newly married, Lao Yu's eyes showed endless tenderness.
Thirty-six years ago, when Ye Xiaojun was going to marry Lao Yu, Lao Yu's mother was very happy.
In order to sneak a look at his fiancee, Lao Yu went to Ye Xiaojun's house on the pretext of begging for water. On the eighth day after marriage, Ye Xiaojun suddenly fell down, foaming at the mouth and convulsing all over, only then did he know that Ye Xiaojun had epilepsy.
After two years of marriage, Ye Xiaojun became pregnant and gave birth to a daughter. Today, my daughter has been abroad for many years and has given birth to two children. For her daughter, Lao Yu is full of concern. He was worried that it would be bad for his daughter to let her in-laws know about her family's recent situation. In order not to worry his daughter, he made the decision of "transferring his beloved wife and giving real estate cash" without authorization. Lao Yu said that her daughter was overseas, and because of her limited economic conditions, she could do nothing about the difficulties at home, so she agreed to his decision on the phone.
Worried about dying first, worried about his wife.
Reporter: Who is taking care of your wife now?
Lao Yu: After her illness worsened, I lived with her in the old people's home for 16 years. Her hearing, language, etc. It's lost. She can't take care of herself. Now, I have a nanny to look after me, with a monthly salary of 3300 yuan. I gave my father-in-law 2600 yuan and helped 700 yuan.
Reporter: How did you come up with the idea of transferring your wife?
Lao Yu: Last February, I was diagnosed with colon cancer and had an operation. What hit me the most was (speaking of which, he covered himself with a quilt and cried bitterly). Last June, our husband and wife's favorite mother passed away, and I felt that I had lost my backbone. My parents-in-law are old people and can't always take care of my wife. I'm afraid I won't live long, and I may die before my wife. In order to arrange the funeral in advance, I thought of transferring my wife and looking for someone to take care of her.
Reporter: Did you write this notice?
Lao Yu: I haven't read a book, and I don't know many words. I found a literate old man in the village. After discussing with him, I made a decision. I copied dozens of these contents and posted them near my own door and my husband's door, about a dozen of them.
Reporter: Did anyone come to the door?
Lao Yu: After the notice was posted, a dozen people came to ask and saw my house. Because the wife is difficult to take care of, these people finally did not agree. If conditions are good, I can add more money every month. The money is my own rent income, the village subsidy, and my wife's disability subsidy. After taking out 2000 yuan, I have no income.
Reporter: What do others think of you?
Lao Yu: Everyone in the village says I'm stupid. They advised me to divorce my wife. But I think, and while one man guards it, bite the hand that feeds you, and my wife sometimes calls me by my name. A couple, two people have been living together, and my wife can't live without me. I couldn't bear it, so I thought of taking care of my wife. I want to make some arrangements for my wife early. The doctor said that I am in good health now and will not be so short-lived. Maybe I think too much, just thinking about who will take care of my wife after I die.
At present, the indicators of "old patients" are normal.
The doctor of Yongjia County Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine said that Lao Yu had an operation on colon cancer, and all the indicators are normal at present. This time I was admitted to the hospital because I was diagnosed with alcoholic hepatitis and was discharged after treatment.
Liu Xiuzhi, the nanny who took care of Ye Xiaojun for 9 years, said that Lao Yu also provided her with a house and cash to take care of her wife. "2000 yuan is only enough for two people." Speaking of this gift house, Liu Xiuzhi also struggled several times, but after careful consideration, she finally disagreed.
Ye Wenjun's father, Ye Wenbo, said that he is 87 years old and his wife is 83 years old. Both husband and wife are old, and they really can't take care of Ye Xiaojun. They are reluctant to say more about the "wife transfer" proposed by Lao Yu.
Ye Xiaojun lying in bed is in a coma most of the time. She still doesn't know her husband's decision. Occasionally, she would wake up, then make a vague voice and call her husband's name with difficulty. "Only when she meets someone will she feel at ease." Ye Wenbo said tearfully.
Lawyer's statement: The agreement should be approved by other close relatives of his wife.
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According to the report, Lao Yu's wife was ill for many years, and it was inconvenient to move, and Mr. Yu himself was terminally ill, so he had the idea of transferring his wife, giving it to real estate, and paying 2,000 yuan for living expenses. I deeply respect his care for his wife and his good intentions! But we are deeply absurd and ignorant of his intention to transfer his wife. Because a wife, as a woman, has an independent personality, not an object, and cannot be transferred. Even if she is a vegetable now, she has no normal thinking. As for Lao Yu, once he dies, he is willing to give his legacy property to someone who is willing to support his wife. His behavior conforms to the provisions of Article 3 1 of China's Inheritance Law and belongs to a legacy support agreement, that is, the dependent citizen and the dependent reach a written agreement on the maintenance obligations of the dependent, and the dependent will bequeath the property to the dependent. Of course, from this case, the consent of other close relatives of his wife should also be obtained.
Feelings are the bottom of money.
Years old and suffering from cancer, at this time, Lao Yu's "transfer" became the "right of care" of his vegetative wife, which is also a good word for "everyone will die" in terms of conscience and operability.
Living expenses of 2,000 yuan per month, a house worth 600,000 yuan, Lao Yu has taken out what he should take out besides my heart. According to Mr. Yu's situation, he can only do these things and think of them.
One day, couples are grateful for a hundred days. As long as they don't die for a day, both husband and wife must stay together and bear the responsibility of their husbands. Even if nothing can help, living is an innate right, a story like a round mirror. Teacher Yu's interpretation is really tearful. China people are not used to openly collecting "supporters" for their wives when the protagonist of similar stories is sober, even if the wife is bedridden and can't take care of herself.
Although Lao Yu said that his original intention was not to pass on his wife to others, the core content of Lao Yu's advertising poster was to "sell" his wife and give her real estate and "subsidies". If you really want to find a nanny, you don't have to give away all your properties. Therefore, it is reasonable that Lao Yu's affectionate actions in his own eyes are not understood by his family and neighbors.
It is inconvenient for Lao Yu to write his tearful "last wish" on paper. It is precisely because of his wife's physical condition that he can only arrange it when he is alive. In his eyes, if he left early, his wife could not grasp the bottom of the future. Now, he has to bear it. He wants to treat his wife's future life as his funeral, and explain the sadness and helplessness of life clearly in the rest of the time, buried in the emotional spring.
We want to understand that Lao Yu is exercising a more pragmatic responsibility by "letting his wife", which is irresponsible for ordinary people. Just a little ahead, a little warm, a little wishful thinking. Lao Yu has a better choice if he simply finds a life caregiver for his wife. If you want to find a man who loves your wife, no amount of money may be enough.
We don't know whether the wife who can't take care of herself can feel Lao Yu's intentions. However, Lao Yu should understand the truth that life can be covered with money and things, but not with feelings.
This is only for the old couple.