There are more than 200 faculty members in the school where I work, and one third of them have become WeChat friends. I have an official WeChat account and added some strange friends. Because my husband's company has ETC tasks, I also added some business friends. It is estimated that there should be hundreds of WeChat friends.
Many of my micro-friends are in the WeChat business. Every day, they send as few as a dozen advertisements, as many as a dozen, and some even send dozens. Sometimes when you open a circle of friends, almost all of them are "dominated". I was not interested in what they sent, so I chose to block it.
Although they are all WeChat friends, some don't know their surnames or where they live, but they are destined to "meet" and should be treated with courtesy. Don't engage in information bombing, and don't turn your circle of friends into your own hypermarket.
I feel very happy and smile at myself. You can bask in a little "luck", but don't bask in a happy "man-Han banquet" Remember, in this world, few people want others to be better than themselves.
For some owners who go to places where others are tired of staying and then go to bask in the sun, they should also restrain themselves. You can tell your relatives and friends about your whereabouts, you can send a picture of the scenery and leave a miss, but it is also unpleasant to send it all the way to let people all over the world know that you have traveled.
I have my own official WeChat account, but after I send it, I will share it once or twice a day, and I will get it. I am afraid that it will be annoying. Some people, as long as they read an article, share it, and they can share a dozen or even dozens of articles a day.
People have different tastes in writing. If they feel good, others may not even bother to look. And they always "lend flowers to offer Buddha". After a long time, "Buddha" will be bored, not to mention people.
In short, the circle of friends seems to be your secret "back garden", but it is actually a public place where others can enter and exit. Since it is a public place, we should pay attention to our own image and consider the feelings of others.
There is nothing wrong with posting in WeChat circle of friends, just like I have never used Weibo myself in these years. In this era, there are too many channels for us to obtain information and show ourselves, so it is impossible to use them often.
Therefore, whether you can send a WeChat circle of friends is not a problem at all, let alone a psychological problem. Just ask this question alone, I don't know if I have any psychological problems. Guess you have been commented by friends or read some articles saying: What about those who never send friends?
This reflects a very important problem: external information and evaluation are very important to you.
We live in the environment and inevitably have to deal with people. External evaluation is of course important to us, but it is not important enough to doubt ourselves. It would be crazy if we have to rely on external standards to evaluate whether we do something or not.
Some people comment on whether they are tall, short, fat or thin, what clothes they wear, and even what they like to eat and don't like to eat, and they can't make friends.
You don't have to care too much about what other people think. Some people in the circle of friends will say: only girls who have no knowledge will make friends with a big fart; Some people who don't make friends will say: this person never makes friends. Any psychological problems?
The most useless thing in our life is to constantly judge other people's thoughts and behaviors, but forget to pay more attention to our own actions.
Most of us don't love ourselves. The performance of not loving ourselves is that we are easily shaken by other people's comments and begin to wonder if we are not doing well here and there. Nobody even judges you. When you see an article or an opinion, you will subconsciously label and define yourself, which is very unwise, and even more unwise.
As long as you are happy and comfortable, as long as you don't hurt others legally, everything is normal. Love yourself, never deny or doubt yourself easily.
You don't like to send things in the WeChat circle of friends, there is nothing wrong with it, and there is no psychological problem. You may not need friends to understand your world, praise and envy from friends. You are the master of your own life, and you don't want to disturb your friends. This is normal.
In my circle of friends, some friends send her three meals a day, some friends send her all the signs of the day, some friends send back their own small things, some sell insurance, some sell products, and some send chicken soup for the soul. I wonder if they are tired. I'm tired of watching it. I closed my circle of friends and felt calm inside.
It's ok to make a circle of friends properly, and everything should be moderate and not overloaded.
Only represents personal views!
Hello, I'm my grandson CaVinsun, and I'm a psychological counselor. As a creator in the field of psychology, I firmly believe that everyone's psychological changes are different. The following is my sharing.
Everyone has given WeChat different functions. During this period, the circle of friends is a popular WeChat function. Eating or traveling, if you don't send a photo in a circle of friends, there seems to be a problem. But not everyone likes to make friends, which is related to personal hobbies and temperament.
Don't send any messages in the circle of friends, which doesn't mean anything. Because the function of WeChat is not just a circle of friends. As long as it can help your homework and days, the days without friends are equally rich and wonderful.
The above is my sharing and opinion. I can get rid of my psychological burden, so that my life can be easier. There will be no pressure and no burden. Everyone gives himself pressure and burden, and must find a way to release it! Thank you!
I don't like whether it is appropriate to post anything in the WeChat circle of friends. Is there a psychological problem?
I'm glad to answer your question. I can definitely tell you the answer. Your behavior is not only without any psychological problems, but also very normal. Let me talk about my point of view.
Like you, I never like to post anything in my circle of friends, because I feel bored and meaningless. Not only that, I also deleted everything I published before, because I found everything I published before was childish and ridiculous. I often see many people in the circle of friends having birthdays, going out to play, or buying a car, or buying a mobile phone to send friends. Some people say it's showing off, but I don't think so. Even that is the freedom and right of others. This is a very common thing, and we have no right to ask.
Of course, posting anything in the circle of friends is also a way to show our lives. It can record every bit of our life. When we are old, it is also a memory of life. Friends circle is also a bridge to build friendship, which can pay attention to other people's living conditions, interact with others, encourage and support each other, and cope with various challenges in life.
In short, I want to eat durian in my circle of friends. Some people like it, some people hate it. It's a way of life, a common thing, not a psychological problem. I hope you won't have any burden.
There is nothing wrong with psychology, just introversion.
People like us have one of the biggest shortcomings. They always care about others' attitudes towards themselves and always live in others' eyes.
Actually, go your own way and let others talk. Remember Scarlett in Gone with the Wind? Scarlett is so cute.
She is beautiful and frank, and always goes her own way. Let others talk.
Although she is overbearing, vain and unscrupulous, she still has many excellent qualities in essence. For example, she was so dangerous that she didn't leave Meilan. Don't forget that Mei Lan is her rival in love. And her dedication to Ashley and her sense of responsibility to the people at Tara are touching.
Most importantly, she lives for her heart. I like it.
Through reading, I gradually changed my personality and became a lot more cheerful.
So, love books!
The appearance of WeChat has brought great convenience to our work and life, and also changed our lives. We use it as an information platform for contact and exchange. Used in payment systems such as collection and transfer. Used for urban services such as tourism and catering. Wechat has now become an indispensable choice in our lives. Everyone makes it the most convenient for their own lives.
Everyone has given WeChat different functions. Among them, the circle of friends is a popular WeChat function. If you don't send a photo in a circle of friends, it seems to be a shortcoming. But not everyone likes to make friends, which is related to personal preferences and personality. It doesn't mean anything not to send any messages in the circle of friends. Because the function of WeChat is not just a circle of friends. As long as it can play a role in your work life, it is not as rich and wonderful as life in your circle of friends.
If you don't do something that everyone is doing, it shows that you have psychological problems, but it highlights your character. Sometimes it is also a right choice not to blindly follow. Everyone has his own choice, and we should fully respect others' choices. Choose what you like, what is suitable is the best choice, and life is equally wonderful.
Life is short, don't care too much about other people's opinions, as long as you don't break the law, violate the moral bottom line and ethics, and love your country.