How does a counselor work?

(1): 3-4 consultations before the first interview are the first interview. There are two main contents in the initial interview. Preliminary understanding: In the initial interview, if you like, you can discuss in detail the situation and degree that bothers you, and sort out the events and people that have a great influence on your growth experience and your life. Through this process, you and I can learn about your growth and the main problems that are bothering you at present. Match or not: The initial interview is the first contact between you and me. You may have some questions and expectations about counseling and counselors. How do you want to help yourself through counseling? All these can be fully communicated, answered and clarified during this period. In this process, you can also feel whether my style can be accepted by you and whether my contact with you makes you feel trustworthy. I will also evaluate whether my training background, work style and experience are suitable for you, or whether I need to introduce them to a consultant who is suitable for you. We will fully discuss this part in the evaluation.

(II) Evaluation of Consulting Objectives After information collection and professional evaluation, during the fourth or fifth consultation, I will give you my preliminary understanding of you, including the possible influence of your growth experience, growth environment and upbringing on your character building, your current troubles, and I will also discuss with you what the consulting objectives are and your feelings about the consultation. Different counseling goals will determine the length of counseling time. After about 20-30 short-term consultations, the general visitors will feel that their symptoms have eased, and they will have a certain understanding and understanding of their troubled emotional problems, behavior patterns or relationship patterns. More than 30 remote consultations, and more than 50 remote consultations. Generally, long-term counseling sessions and psychological counselors have a deeper exploration at the internal level, including how past growth experiences affect and shape certain parts of a person's personality, and how they reflect and play a role in emotions, behaviors and relationship patterns. In this process, you will feel a gradual change from the inside out. All this happened in the process of gradually establishing, stabilizing and trusting relationships with consultants. In the process of consulting a psychological counselor, you may experience a different kind of interpersonal communication.

(3): In every consultation meeting during the consultation process, you can talk about anything you want to discuss, your own pain, growth experience, current life experience and its influence on your mood; Your personality, hobbies, habits, secrets, dreams. You can also talk about your impressions and feelings about consulting and consultants, what the interaction with consultants reminds you of, and so on. Psychological counselors will listen wholeheartedly, try to understand you, respond to your feelings, and explore the profound meaning behind your experiences and feelings with you.

(iv) Evaluation and closure. At any stage, you can decide to suspend or end the consultation according to your own needs. I suggest that you fully discuss this part with me before pausing and ending. I won't interfere with your decision. I may evaluate the possible impact of suspending or ending the consultation and give you feedback.

(5): The ideal destination is that you and I both think you can support yourself independently. People and things that bothered you before may still exist, but your experience and feelings about these relationships and events have changed. Similar situations no longer bother you, or you can look at them from a new angle and find new ways to deal with them. You feel more self-affirmation, self-respect and self-appreciation, and you can trust yourself to face all kinds of situations in life and establish better interpersonal relationships. Maybe we should say goodbye. We can discuss it together. It's over. Unfortunately, not all negotiation processes can end in such an ideal way. If you feel that I can't help you more effectively, or I feel that my ability can't help you more effectively, and you still need counseling help, then we can discuss referral together.