I felt very sad about what happened on the fifth day of confinement, because I couldn't bear to be urged by my mother, so I discussed with him to go back to his house for confinement and come out a month later. Actually, he didn't He had a wish, which was very interesting, and then he said it was better to have a long pain than a short one. Now that you have made such a choice, don't do it again. Even after living together for a while, I can't help getting back together, but it's still not good.
Besides, he never came when I said I wanted to go back. That day, I said I wanted to see him, but he didn't come, which violated the promise of confinement. I was angry, too. Even though I went to his house at eleven o'clock in the middle of the month to find him, I didn't open the door. Finally, call the unlocking company to open the door. He woke up. When he looked at his mobile phone, he saw that I sent a message. He was flirting with another woman when he didn't come back.
I was trembling with anger. I cried and asked him if he had a conscience. I had just been locked up for a few days when he hooked up with someone else. He said more angrily, we have nothing to do, and who to contact is his freedom. I said, can't you wait for my confinement? People say this is their freedom.
I said he hurt me deeply. He said he didn't think so. He said it's over now and he has the freedom to develop with others. I said a lot. I don't understand his feelings and needs. I didn't manage this family well. Being married for four months has brought him a bad feeling. Now it seems that it's all my fault, and the whole person has been fooled. Now blaming all the problems on me makes me feel that I am really that bad and ruined my marriage?
I've only been married for four months, and I don't want to run in again. I don't know whose fault it is. Now that everyone is happy to start a new life, I reflect on what I did wrong during confinement. Even if it is true that he is unhappy for four months, even if I really don't know how to run it, if a man loves you, should he try to face it with you instead of telling you over and over again that we are unhappy and want to end this relationship? He never loved me? But I think it was there before. I don't know when it changed. Is it really my fault?
I can't sleep every day now. I also reflect that I really love to lose my temper in marriage. Really not as rational as he is, not as comprehensive as he considers the problem. I also think there is really little effective communication between us. We both feel that we don't know each other. I really don't know how to express my needs and how to run my business. I do have a lot of questions. I called a few days ago to talk about them. He said don't let me bother him again, saying that he has completely put it down, but I think if it's just
I don't know what to do. Does he really think that we are so unhappy together and let go so quickly, or does he think that we have never loved each other? Is it because a man works too fast to wait for his ex-wife to start a new relationship, or because I have been so bad, so he is so heartless to me, or is he a heartless person himself, but I didn't see it clearly? I don't understand!
Shendu Emotional Advisory Group @ Yiluxuan
Unconsciously, I fell into an endless loop of feelings, and I couldn't relax with a person. Learn to stop loss in time. Right or wrong, happiness is not important. Life is always one journey after another. This marriage is over, which means you are not suitable. Why cling to the past? Develop yourself quickly and improve the quality of life. You must live for happiness and live for this life. When it is in full bloom, the butterfly will come!
Deep Emotional Advisory Group @ Guoguo
I don't think you should think so. The reason for the divorce must be both sides. Now that you have chosen to divorce after weighing and the children have done it, what you have to consider now is how to start a new life. You don't have to think about whether your life before the divorce was terrible. What you have to think about is to work hard and live hard, and don't make the same mistake again in future contacts. I don't know how long you've known each other and got married. I hope you can speak longer next time. You don't have to worry about why he did this to you. He is not good to you. It's all his problem. You don't have to punish yourself with other people's mistakes. Forget it. Your body is your own. Stay healthy and live a good life from now on.
Deep Emotional Advisory Group @ Wu Tong
What a long text! But it's very simple, remarried and divorced, and then unhappy. Regardless of the married life before the divorce, who is right and who is wrong. Since everything they said after the divorce is right, they have no obligation to wait on you. The promise mentioned before is that you are stupid and willing to believe, but you should also be glad that this man is not a good thing and you can stop the loss in time. Don't dwell on the past, don't expect anything from him, you are divorced! Since there is no formal agreement for divorce, don't ask too much. I hope your next marriage will be happy, provided that you are more mature!
Deep emotional advisory group @ Shu
Is it bad to live your own life? Why must we get married together?
Married for four months, pregnant for three months, what's wrong with you? His attitude has told you the desired result. At this time, if you pester him again, you will be bored as a man. Since they are all separated, let's separate. It's safer this way The result of entanglement will not be good.
Not only the first marriage failed, but also the second marriage failed. Then I think you will make the same mistake again. In fact, marriage, like everyone else, always has such troubles, and there is no such trouble. Every family has its own problems, depending on how you deal with them. Husband and wife quarrel all their lives, but they still don't divorce every day. Some people respect each other all their lives and divorce after quarreling. So I think you should reflect on yourself. You should eat your own fruit. You deserve it.
He didn't do much, but what he said was right. We are all separated, which means the end of your relationship. Your entanglement is meaningless. You also said that you reflected, but I don't think the result of your reflection reflected anything. Finally, advice is also a popular saying. The most unreasonable thing between husband and wife is to be reasonable.
Deep Emotional Counseling Group @ He Laoshi
Sister, Wenmo, you are right. From beginning to end, he was so cruel to you because you were too bad. He is a heartless man himself. But I must correct you. It's not that you didn't see it clearly, but that you don't want to accept it. You want to deceive yourself. Your's feelings can still be redeemed, but he has a way to destroy you with actions. You must face the reality. Let me tell you something. Some people appear in your life just to tell you that you are easy to sleep and cheat.
If I were a man, I wouldn't look at you because you are too persistent. Face is given by others, and the fake is lost by yourself. What is divorce? Divorce means that there is no relationship between you, no waves with this person, no dependence and dependence. It means that he is dead, and you can carve a monument to love him forever in your heart. You can cry at night, but you can only hide it in your heart and move on after dawn. It means even if you die, it's none of his business. He won't give you the last trip, and he won't care if there is grass on your grave.
Let me get this straight. Sometimes, when I see the heroines in this situation, I feel deeply sorry for them. If you can't see the road clearly, get on the bus, and you deserve to be dumped. If a woman doesn't love herself, why can she get love? I really can't sympathize with her, and I can't say anything nice to persuade her.
Finally: don't pester the wrong person. If you don't want to be eliminated in the future, just make money. Everything else is nothing. That's it.
Shendu Emotional Consultation Group @ Xiaoyueyue
Sister, the second marriage can be managed like this, which is really a failure. The first marriage failed. Why don't you grow up? You and your ex-husband didn't hesitate at all From what you said, you didn't give up your children. First of all, you don't deserve to be a parent. None of you are responsible. You both took a life. Since I chose divorce, why bother? Can you be worth some money?
Divorce means the end of your marriage. You are passers-by, understand? It is normal for him to have a new girlfriend after his divorce. This has nothing to do with you. What kind of trouble can you find? I hope you can learn from your third marriage. First, don't get married easily. Second, don't get pregnant easily. Third, don't have an abortion easily. Fourth, don't divorce easily. I hope you can forget the past, start a new life, take good care of yourself and stop pampering yourself. A woman must love herself before others can love you, understand!
Shendu Emotional Counseling Group @ Beibei
Before you said this, you didn't say how long you talked about getting married. If I remember correctly, it should not exceed one year. We don't know each other, but we are in a hurry to get married if we have a good impression. We are not responsible for ourselves, nor for each other. Another possibility is that the failure of your last marriage led to a better man and you want to get married. Although, don't blame each other for mistakes, and you don't have to find reasons on yourself everywhere. He doesn't love you and doesn't care. Besides, he is not a responsible and good husband, so why fix it? Cats and dogs have been together for a long time, and they have feelings after serving for a month. I promised but there is nothing I can do. What else do you miss? Is it bad to have a little self-esteem?
In fact, at the beginning, you also discussed how to get along well. You said you broke up and didn't want to be pregnant for three months. Then you rented a house outside and moved out. Pretty thorough. He didn't expect you to turn around. Of course, you can say that he promised you that he would take care of the confinement after your abortion, but in fact, I think he made such a promise casually, that is, he was polite, just polite. After all, what he said is that it is easy to get together and leave, and it can't be so ugly. In fact, he didn't expect you to believe it and move back. You don't want to think, since you want to break up and have an abortion, how can he take care of your confinement? You're too old to hear polite words? You think he has passion for you, but what you can see is that he doesn't.
Since the other person has no feelings for you, why do you involve yourself? You have to think that he can't find a new girlfriend at this moment. He should take care of you. He can't just part. He should not be so rude to you. It won't be long before he has a new lover. I like the new and hate the old. Now that we have broken up, what the other party does is none of your business. It's your business if you want to review this relationship, but unfortunately he doesn't want to. Men are so simple and neat that you can't wait for your ex-wife to end her confinement and start a new relationship. So how long will it take him to start a new relationship? The confinement is really over, will you complain again? Within three months, he will find a new girlfriend. Three months later, you will complain again. I can't wait for half a year. Anyway, we won't allow each other to be good until you are good. However, complaining is futile, it won't have any influence on him, and you will become a dissatisfied housewife.
So, I think he is right. Now that we have decided to break up, it is better to have a long pain than a short one. Don't pander. It's really annoying for you to say goodbye and turn around. You have lost all your good impressions, and not everyone has the patience to play this game with you.
The older a woman gets, the more mature she should be-I don't mean mature, but knowing what kind of life she should live is the best. You need to know what you have to do to live the life you want-it is definitely not feasible to expect men's happiness-your own happiness can only be created and controlled by yourself, and whoever you expect will only end up unhappy in the end.
Suggestion:
If you divide it, you divide it. Don't pester. He has a new woman, and you can have a new man. This is life.
You can sleep with men, but remember contraception. Abortion is not good for everyone.
Before you meet the next man, satisfy your soul with your personal hobbies (painting, music, sports, dancing, etc.). ).), the loneliness brought by traveling and making more friends, and your body with small toys. When your mind is rich and your body is not lonely, your eyes on men and emotions will become rational and clear, and it will be easier for you to meet the right man and get happiness through hard work.