One issue of "Qipa Shuo" is about whether couples who have decided to divorce should persist until the end of the college entrance examination for their children.
The debaters on both sides were angry at each other, but the tickets on the field did not move, because most of the audience at the scene were very determined and had to wait until after the children's college entrance examination.
Several debaters who grew up in single-parent families cried when sharing their experiences.
I don't want to argue right or wrong, I just want to say that it is really not easy for children who grow up in single-parent families.
Reader Xiao Yong told me about his experience.
Xiao Yong's grandparents were very rich, and her mother was spoiled since childhood. Later, she met her father. Dad is hardworking and capable, simple and honest, without any affectation.
My mother was enthusiastic about it, but my grandparents strongly opposed it. People can be strange sometimes. In their twenties, the rebellious power that broke out on them was really amazing.
In this way, mom and dad got married. My mother is busy with some management affairs in grandpa's company, and my father is diligent in the institution, waiting for a promotion. Later, Xiao Yong was born.
Without Xiao Yong, my grandparents didn't have much contact with my grandparents, and my father was docile, so there was no contradiction. But after Xiao Yong was born, all the problems appeared.
Grandparents don't let me, and mothers can't take care of their children themselves. Grandparents naturally won't resign and come back with Xiao Yong, and the nannies they hire are unreliable. Xiao Yong is sickly. Grandma always said it was because his mother didn't take good care of him, which was strange both in words and in words. His mother was not tolerant at all.
Grandma will cry to her father when she is wronged, and her mother will ask her grandparents for support. In this way, the dispute between husband and wife became the right and wrong of two families. The more people involved, the more right and wrong.
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Then my parents divorced. Grandparents are willing to give more money to Dad, but the custody of Xiao Yong belongs to Mom.
Dad is also very angry, saying that it is the blood of the Liu family. He can give up everything, but he must be with him.
In this way, after several years of pandering, grandpa was completely angry and refused to let go. You got nothing but children. Finally, Dad and Xiao Yong went out clean.
After the divorce, my father was afraid that his mother would rob the children, so he took Xiao Yong to the south and worked and lived there. Grandparents are still in their hometown, and dad can't take care of them, so he sent Xiao Yong to Changtuo.
Xiao Yong used to be surrounded by a group of people, but later he grew up alone.
When I was in primary school, I often changed schools because my father resigned from public office and has been doing business. Business is running around, so I can only take Xiao Yong to study everywhere.
Xiao Yong said that feeling was really desperate. In a new place, everyone is speaking dialects, and everyone is alone after class. Finally, they had close friends and had to turn around and leave.
Growing up, I had no friends.
After mom didn't get custody, she seemed very angry and not brave, and maybe dad didn't want her to get in touch. Later, my mother remarried soon and gave birth to a little brother.
Perhaps, they have forgotten the existence of Xiao Yong.
Every day, every year, Xiao Yong can hear everyone's criticism of his mother. No one said that his mother loved Xiao Yong. Everyone told Xiao Yong what happened in those days, the useless mother. Just like evidence. Look, how bad your mother is. She doesn't deserve your father's love and you don't deserve to call her mom.
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Many things are still unclear, and Xiao Yong has no patience to explore the truth. If mom really loves him, why didn't she come to see him for so many years? If you don't love, why beg yourself?
At this point, Xiao Yong, who is already in her twenties, is still crying. He said, fortunately, I have grown up now, and the past is unbearable. Let it go with the wind and pretend he doesn't have a mother.
The family of grape readers may be worse than Xiao Yong.
At that time, Dad was having an affair, and Mother Grape wanted a divorce. Mother asked for a house and a ticket, but refused to ask for grapes. It is not good to remarry with children.
Dad's divorce is notorious and he has nothing, but it's strange that there are still women who fall in love with him. After divorcing the grape mother, my father remarried in less than a year.
Stepmother is not bad. She was only in her twenties when she married her father, little girl, inexperienced. Maybe I thought dad's sweet words were full of true love.
Shortly after the marriage, her stepmother gave birth to her younger brother Bao Xiao.
Dad runs around all day and can't go home. Stepmother's heart is broken, but her stepmother doesn't want to divorce, because her father's income is not bad, not because her stepmother loves money, but how can she live with Bao Xiao after divorce? Bao Xiao is still very young, and her stepmother doesn't want him to have no father.
She lived with her stepmother until Grape 10 years old. Every time I do my homework and have a parent-teacher meeting, I am a stepmother. My father never goes, and my mother never hears from me.
Grape is very grateful to her stepmother and very kind to Bao Xiao.
But when Grape/Kloc-0 was 0/0 years old, her stepmother divorced her father, because his father spent a lot of money on women outside, but refused to take home the living expenses. On dad, stepmother can't find a reason to stay.
However, the stepmother is different from the mother of grapes. She took Bao Xiao. The grapes are still dad's, but this time no one really cares about her. Dad doesn't go home all day, and Grape does everything alone.
She hasn't lived far since her stepmother divorced. Grapes are lonely and no one takes care of them. The stepmother looked distressed and cooked delicious food and gave some grapes. Grape was wronged and wanted to live in her stepmother's house for a while.
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In this way, after several years, it was not until Grape went to live in a high school that she left her stepmother's house.
Grape said, it hurts to think about it. Her parents are alive, but what has nothing to do with her is her ex-stepmother. I am grateful to my stepmother from the bottom of my heart. If it weren't for her, I wouldn't even find a trace of warmth.
In the future, Grape will take good care of Bao Xiao. If the stepmother is old and willing to follow the grapes, the grapes are her own daughters. As for my parents, I really don't want to talk about it.
We all think that the family should be a mother, a dutiful son and a loving couple. However, everyone is really different. Some people are willful and selfish, and they will let their children pay the bill. Cruel but helpless.
Innocent others, innocent yourself. Come on every day.