Notes for thanking others:
1, thank you in time.
Although many people don't expect to be rewarded for helping others, they must express their sincere thanks in a timely and proactive manner. In a timely manner, from the time point of view, when the things being helped have an ending, you should immediately express your gratitude and not delay it slowly; Take the initiative, in terms of attitude, is to find the door and go to the other party's work or home. Don't suddenly think of thanking the other party when they come to your home or meet on the road, and then cram for the last minute. Taking the initiative in time shows that you attach great importance to and respect the help of others, and that you are a frank and understanding person, which helps to further deepen our feelings.
Step 2 be honest and trustworthy
Sometimes, in order to relieve their troubles or difficulties as soon as possible, some people openly seek help through the news media or other forms, and promise to give certain rewards once the help is successful. This is also an effective method. But we must keep our promises and never break our promises. No matter what the other party's labor is, no matter what the other party's motivation is, as long as it does provide you with help, you should honor it to the letter. Some people see each other's noble character and decide not to reward them, so they are secretly happy and swallow their original promises with peace of mind; Some people see each other purely for reward. Instead of giving them the promised rewards, they accused them of impure motives and lack of helpful qualities. They are both wrong. For virtuous helpers, even if they refuse resolutely, they can express their gratitude through other channels in another way; Although the motivation of the helper who comes purely for reward is hard to say, if the helper breaks his promise and refuses to take due responsibility, he should be severely criticized.
3. Choose the appropriate ways and means.
There are many ways to thank others, besides material expression, there are other forms. We should choose the most suitable form according to the identity, occupation, personality, education level and economic situation of the person seeking help. Don't think that giving something of value is sincere gratitude, and don't think that infinite praise is gratitude. Some people, if you send him a sum of money to thank him, maybe he will be very unhappy and even think it is an insult to him; For some people, the way to express gratitude may be their hard work and study; Perhaps the best way to thank some people is to publicize them widely. Therefore, thanking others cannot be generalized, but varies from person to person.
4. Grasp the degree of gratitude.
Like doing other things, thanking others should be measured and moderate. Too much and too little are inappropriate. Excessive, it may be unacceptable and even suspicious; Insufficient, it will make people feel that they don't respect each other's labor. Reasonable moderation can be judged according to these two aspects: one is the amount of labor paid by the other party, and the other is the income (economy, emotion, reputation, health, etc.). ) brought by each other's help. We should combine these two aspects before deciding the weight of gratitude. Judging from the labor paid by others or the benefits brought to oneself on the one hand, it may lead to the loss of the degree. Because the two are often not harmonious, some helpers pay little labor and bring great benefits to the helped, while others may be just the opposite.
5. Emotional behavior
Helping and thanking is an emotional communication behavior, which is different from general payment transactions. Emotion is a kind of lasting special thing worthy of repeated taste, which can not be handled by pure commercial means. The other side helps you, which in itself is an expression of affection. In return for affection, besides the necessary material gifts, it is best to return with the same affection. Only in this way can we reflect the warmth between people and establish closer interpersonal relationships. Don't think that he helped me. I already paid him. From then on, we were divided and irrelevant. If so, it would be too impersonal. Therefore, helping some people, if necessary and possible, can keep in touch for a long time and keep the bridge of communication open forever.