In complex situations, consult relevant professional ethics issues. I have never encountered such a situation, but I think the human heart itself is complicated.
It is not enough to receive consultation cases, and more accumulation is needed. When I eat everything and see everything, I will have a calm and tried-and-true determination, and I won't worry about those things.
What I have experienced will be more complicated and profound. If you have more ability to cope with complexity, you will be calm. I hope to meet myself like that soon.
Understand and respond to relevant legal standards. There are relevant laws, that is, consultants use the trust of visitors to do something that hurts them.
Most cases are of this nature and must face legal sanctions. As Jung showed in Dangerous Methods, it is quite dangerous for both consultants and visitors.
It may cause secondary harm to visitors and may ruin the counselor's career. When making a decision, you must be more prepared, be careful, and look at the immediate benefits and the long-term disadvantages.
Understand the laws related to psychological counseling and apply them in concrete practice. We already know that there are many cases and new cases that will spread in this industry.
At the same time, in practice, we should also pay attention to avoid this kind of situation really happening to ourselves. The consequences of illegal crime are absolutely terrible.
Consciously improve consulting knowledge and skills, have skills improved? Yes In the last consultation, I consciously used cognitive behavior.
Cognitive behavior, which pays great attention to the framework and process, needs everything to happen within the allowable range. Of course, this is a limitation of consulting ability, but it is also a guarantee.
When I use this method, I know what to do next, so the direction and goal are clear and the steps are clear. I just need to take it step by step.
In this way, my heart will be very practical, and I can also play a normal level, and I will not be abnormal. But I really did it, and I was confident and free to play.
While maintaining rationality, I increased the purposeful perceptual search, and I found that the consultation effect was better. This kind of good, on the one hand, may be that this method is really effective.
Of course, it is also possible that the visitors gave me good feedback. I'm like looking in the mirror with visitors. I saw his state in the mirror, and I was naturally in good shape.
On the other hand, when I feel good in consultation, he will feel my state by looking in the mirror, which will also improve his state.
Before comparing, follow your own thoughts, aimlessly, and follow the mood of visiting. This kind of template, direction and fixation, makes my heart more practical.
Maybe it will develop in the future. I can change from a psychological counselor with perceptual psychoanalysis, personal analysis and collective subconscious orientation to a psychological counselor with cognitive behavior orientation.
Probably from an emotional counselor to a particularly logical and rational counselor. I don't know if I can make this leap. But so far, the first one has gone well.
Respect visitors in behavior. In my opinion, what is a visitor? It is a person who asks for help, a person who needs help, a customer and a party, so as to satisfy the other party, continue consulting and make money.
Sometimes I feel I don't respect visitors. The last consultation was on Thursday night. The visit told me that her state in the last week and her estranged relationship with her husband were not as good as last week.
When she told me all these things, my first thought was to point him out. You should do this, you should do this, it will be better.
Then I don't think it's right I am a counselor, not a teacher. How am I qualified to tell others about their lives? I should respect his ability and choice.
So I put myself in her shoes and faced the world with her. Stand with her and see her ability, resources and skills in this series of difficulties.
Especially last week, we achieved very obvious results. Then I said to her, you did a good job last week. You have succeeded once. This week is just a replica of last week's success.
I feel the same as usual when I say this. But her reaction was obvious, as if I enlightened him, and her emotional state rose instantly.
It seems that her abilities and resources are just waiting for the moment when I find them. And I finished this moment by mistake, maybe this is the legendary aha moment.
I think this is a good consultation. It can inject strength, resources and skills into a person, so that she has the ability and resources to face the next life.
Part of the view comes from Yue Xiaodong, the basic skill of psychological counseling. Thank you for your appreciation. Welcome to leave a message for consultation.