How to be kind to interpersonal relationships

First, enthusiastic communication. Interpersonal relationships are interactive. Don't always passively wait for others to take the initiative to care about yourself, but actively communicate with classmates around you. Being open to yourself is contagious. You are open to others, and others will be open to you. When the other person walks out of the dead circle, you will not only have a deeper understanding of the other person, but more importantly, you will also have a new understanding and experience of yourself. Second, we should understand and respect that everyone has their own temperament and personality characteristics, different growth backgrounds and living habits. Therefore, in the process of interacting with classmates, if we can understand and respect each other, our relationship will be easy to be harmonious and reduce unnecessary friction. Third, to treat people with sincerity, the most important thing is sincerity and goodwill, which is also the fundamental principle of being a man. It is difficult for a hypocritical and arrogant person to have friends. Fourth, we must be tolerant and understand the old saying: "No one is perfect, and gold is not enough." The students around us (including ourselves) are still in the growth stage, and there will be many problems to deal with. On many issues, students will have different views, which requires that they can consider problems from each other's perspective and understand each other without hostility. V. Eliminating the sense of dependence There is also an unhealthy mentality in interpersonal communication, that is, people with strong sense of dependence always want others to care about themselves like their parents, brothers and sisters, and they must make their own decisions in everything, which is a manifestation of lack of independence. Excessive dependence will also develop into a desire for control. They force others to study with themselves, review their lessons together, inform them of their action plans, and even restrict others from interacting with other students. 1 1 Skills to maintain emotional stability 1. Don't set unrealistic goals for yourself, but plan within your ability; 2. Don't expect too much from others to avoid disappointment; 3. Dispel anger to avoid gaffes and regrets; 4. Make necessary compromises and concessions to avoid making a mountain out of a molehill; 5. Leave the stimulus source to avoid aggravating the stimulus; 6. Talk to intimate friends to relieve psychological depression; 7. Do good for others and avoid loneliness; 8. Concentrate on one thing at a time, and don't cause mental stress to yourself because of too many things; 9. Don't compete with others everywhere to avoid being overly nervous; 10. Expand interpersonal communication and avoid ignorance; 1 1. Have fun and avoid trouble and stagnation. Part III Psychological Counseling Services Dear college students and friends, every teacher in the psychological counseling and guidance center is your trusted mentor. When you encounter something difficult to solve in your life and feel depressed, please come to the psychological counseling and guidance center. The teacher of psychological counseling center is willing to join hands with you to spend a rough life! What kind of help can psychological counseling provide you? The process of psychological counseling is not the process of comforting or enlightening people as understood by ordinary people, nor is it the process of dealing with psychological obstacles as understood by a few people. The process of psychological counseling is actually a process of "personality reconstruction", and its goal is to help you achieve the task of "spiritual growth again". Specifically, psychological counseling can provide you with seven aspects of support and help: 1. Teach you to manage your emotions, so that you can have positive and stable emotions and avoid all kinds of emotional disorders. 2. Help you learn to know yourself and the world around you correctly, so that you can have a perfect cognitive system and avoid all kinds of failures caused by wrong regression. 3. Help you restore your ability to love, and let you learn to work happily, live happily and love happily. 4. Make you have a sound personality, get rid of inferiority, narcissism, autism and other bad mentality, so as to better devote yourself to study, work and life. Help you get rid of the pain caused by unemployment and lovelorn, and teach you how to deal with all kinds of setbacks in life. 6. Provide you with career counseling and guidance to help you decide major issues in your life correctly and independently. 7. Help you through all kinds of crises at all stages of your life and safely complete the development tasks of your life. What are the specific service contents of psychological counseling and guidance center? 1. Individual psychological counseling: Psychological counselors provide you with face-to-face individual psychological counseling to help you solve obstacles or development problems in study, life, interpersonal communication, love, job selection, etc. 2. Group psychological counseling: Psychological counselors provide group psychological counseling for groups of 8- 12 people, and group members face the same or similar development problems. With the help of counselors and team members, team members overcome various development problems (such as social phobia and exam anxiety). 3. Career counseling: Psychological counselors solve the psychological problems of clients in the process of choosing jobs through evaluation and counseling, and help clients choose their own career direction. 4. Psychological evaluation: There are dozens of psychological evaluation software in the center, which provide mental health status test, sexual orientation test, IQ test, cognitive ability test, personality test and motivation test. Provide scientific reference for students to accurately grasp their own situation and development direction. If you need psychological counseling, what basic requirements should you follow? 1. Tourists should abide by national laws and regulations. 2. Visitors should fill in the psychological consultation registration form truthfully and go through the consultation formalities according to the regulations of the consultation center. Visitors should respect the consultant and don't make unreasonable demands. Visitors should consult according to the agreed time, and please inform the consultant in time if there is any change. 5. Visitors should truthfully inform the consultant of the consulting objectives, so that the consultant can determine the consulting plan. 6. Don't talk loudly while waiting for the consultation. If you need psychological counseling, don't have any worries, because the psychological counseling teacher will definitely adhere to the following three principles to reassure you. 1. confidentiality principle: whatever you say, the consultant will keep it secret for you, and no second person will know it, so you can open your heart and speak freely. 2. Unconditional active attention principle: No matter what you say, the counselor will not use a moral concept to judge whether things are right or wrong, and everything you do has your reasons. 3. The principle of helping others and helping themselves: the consultation process of a counselor is not a process of giving you ideas and finding ways, but a process in which your own psychology can grow. Therefore, consultation is to "teach people to fish" rather than "teach people to fish". If you need to do a psychological test, what procedures should you go through? Appointment → interview → payment → test → statistics → analysis 1. All students who come to the center for psychological test must make an appointment in advance, implement the principle of appointment registration and priority, and arrange consultation, interview and test according to the appointment. 2. Interview the visiting students according to the scheduled time, and consult the psychological measurement room in the designated campus within the specified time. Full-time teachers will determine the examination items through interviews and understanding according to the specific situation. 3. Payment According to the "Regulations on the Charge of Psychological Testing in the Psychological Counseling and Guidance Center of Shandong University", pay the fees required for the test at the designated place, and arrange the test at an appropriate time with the receipt. 4. Test visitors will complete the test at the designated place in strict accordance with the requirements of the selected test items and under the guidance of full-time teachers. 5. Within one week after the statistical visitor test is completed, the full-time teacher is responsible for supervising and processing the test data and forming a report. The test report shall be kept and filed by a special person and destroyed within the specified time. 6. Analysis According to the tester's situation, the full-time teacher will explain the analysis and give corresponding consultation and guidance to the test report.