The understanding of emotional counselors I share here is based on my own study and experience in the past two years, and does not represent the connotation of all emotional counselors. Everyone can understand and identify objectively.
Emotional counselor, literally, is a psychological counselor, and can also be understood as a psychological counselor. Basically, an emotional counselor and a psychological counselor do the same thing.
Specifically, an emotional counselor can help solve our emotional troubles, so that the uncomfortable emotions accumulated in our hearts can be channeled and dredged, and our hearts are not so uncomfortable. This is the most basic function of an emotional counselor.
At present, in the whole society, people generally have different degrees of anxiety or depression, or feel wronged, sad, sad, ashamed or afraid, worried, and no one understands and accompanies them. Emotional counselors can provide an inclusive space to listen and accompany in a neutral way, so that everyone can relax, safely release this inner discomfort, and let their hearts relax.
Emotional counselors can also help you solve problems with specific things and relationships:
For example, in the face of something or someone, you feel uncomfortable, uncomfortable and uncomfortable. Emotional counselors can take you to deal with this uncomfortable feeling first and see what's going on with you. Many times, we feel uncomfortable, but we don't seem to understand what we are suffering. Many times, when we can know more about what we are suffering, our hearts seem to be less uncomfortable.
Then I will take you to find out the cause of discomfort bit by bit, understand why you feel uncomfortable, see the cause and effect of this matter or the discomfort to this person, and slowly find a way out and method to solve this matter.
Emotional counseling, seemingly emotional counseling, is actually dismantling the structure that people have emotions and are uncomfortable inside. Maybe many of us will think that emotion is emotion and emotion is a bad thing. Emotion hurts us a lot. Can we not have emotions, or when we have emotions, we can suppress them, and we can control or manage them well? In fact, we have these thoughts about emotions, mainly because emotions bring us bad experiences, and emotions will affect the state and results of our work and communication with people. In fact, we rarely have the opportunity to know what emotion itself is and how it affects us. Indeed, these are all things to learn. It is in the process of releasing emotions and learning emotions (inner feelings) in the past two years that I gradually realized what emotions are, and gradually understood the principle of the birth of emotions and what created them. I will share the principle of emotion with you when I have time. I won't go into details here.
In the past two years, I have solved the problems that have not been solved for many years through self-counseling:
First, I no longer tolerate and suppress emotions, and I have ways to channel and face them. Unlike many years ago, when tears came, I felt very uncomfortable, but I still had to hold back my tears, or my throat was blocked. When I held back an emotion, I really held back and silently endured that emotion. Since I learned to channel my heart, I found that I would make more friends with my emotions. After being emotional, you can help yourself to release and solve it, and you will feel much more comfortable. This is an effective way to solve the current mood. I also found that the emotions I thought I had held back in the past would not have any influence on myself after that. In fact, when I sorted out my inner feelings later, it was still very uncomfortable to think of those feelings in the past. In the past, distractions were used to relieve inner discomfort, but they did not really solve the uncomfortable problem. And because of the long-term accumulation of negative emotions in the past, long-term unconscious distress will be formed in the heart in the future, and many a mickle makes a mickle. The whole person's heart is like a balloon filled with water, which is very heavy. If you do something often, you will become a dog, feel physically and mentally exhausted, and there is no love in your life. These feelings, in my two years of "life map" course journey, are melting bit by bit. If you release some inner discomfort accumulated in the past many years, you will be more relaxed and have more contact with your true self. Seeing the truth of many things I have experienced in the past, seeing many things clearly, the state of the whole person is much lighter.
Secondly, through psychic communication, I can see my past inner patterns, states and reasons for doing things. I have been trying to do things for many years, and I feel very tired when I do things. When you encounter problems and difficulties, it's easy to escape and don't want to face them. Slowly, I found that I had been struggling in the past, and my inner struggle also suppressed many emotions. When doing things, because there are many emotions on my back, these emotions are mixed and complicated, and there are many parallel lines. At this time, people's state is like a CPU running many programs at the same time. At this time, the whole person is full, there is no room to find a way, and the will to find a way is very low. I just want to finish things early. I just want to have a rest. And when doing things, I am particularly afraid that things will be difficult. When things are difficult, I feel that I can't solve them, and I start to worry about the consequences and feel ashamed that I am too useless. I am afraid to face these feelings, so I will try my best to prevent the tangled and difficult feelings when I do things, so when things get a little complicated, I don't want to do it as soon as I encounter the crux, I just want to escape.
And to relieve my inner discomfort is to make room for my inner space and then face the problem. As long as you are willing to face it at the beginning, you will find that things are not what I think by releasing your emotions and starting your consciousness. I found that, in fact, many times, things are not that difficult. The hard part is that I don't want to face it, or it is very uncomfortable and painful to face it. It is often because we don't want to face it, or even realize that we are escaping, the problems of things will pile up and the bad results will get worse. Finally, we are even more afraid to face it and more passive.
As long as we face it squarely and solve it fundamentally, the result will change little by little. The discomfort we don't want to face is often unconscious and automatic. For example, it can be a program that automatically moves the CPU of our brain. Without a deep understanding of themselves, these programs have been running like that, and they can only see unsatisfactory results, but they don't know why. Emotional counseling can take us through the fog of emotions, aware of ourselves, slowly see specific people and things, see what pain we are suffering inside, and see how these pains restrict us to do things and treat people. Seeing these blind spots in our hearts is often the beginning of change. As Munger said, "I know where I will die, so I won't go there!" " "I am willing to correct myself from the root cause and rewrite the whole occurrence and result after seeing many escape mechanisms in my heart and understanding why I couldn't do it effectively in the past.
Third, I found the answer to the question I have been looking for since I was a child, but I didn't find it. What problem? What am I living for? This is the ultimate proposition pursued by human beings. This process of searching is a process of gradually getting to know and understand yourself and meeting yourself again. On the road of life growth, I have been connected with the real me again and again through the release of many emotions. I find myself desperately longing for freedom, and I want to create freedom for myself most. On the road to freedom, I need to live an independent self first. I ask myself what I want most and what I love most. I found that the purpose of my efforts for so many years is to change my destiny. In order to make my mother less painful, I can't stand her pain, and I can't stand my own pain because I see her pain. I feel extremely sad that all the people in the world will suffer. For many years, I have been trying to find a way to solve my mother's pain, so I suddenly found that what I am most eager to do and feel the most meaningful is to find a way and method to solve people's inner pain, so that people can no longer be bound and bound by pain and freely pursue the direction and meaning they really want. Everyone can live a wonderful life and be himself!
I found that after I found this, my heart began to settle down, and I just wanted to do it all my life. So I began to actively explore how to support myself to do this and how to realize these things step by step.
I found that I knew myself and found the purpose and meaning of life. In essence, this process of exploration is a process of continuous in-depth connection and dialogue with one's own heart, just like clearing the fog and seeing the truth bit by bit. How to clear the fog? In fact, behind our emotions, at the bottom of all our pains, there is our innate deep desire. Emotional counseling takes us through the inner fog and finds the deepest desire step by step.
To sum up, I found that emotional counseling can probably solve these three problems:
The first level: solve our usual inner discomfort and backlog of emotions, so that our hearts are no longer so uncomfortable;
The second level: help us to channel the specific uncomfortable things or the pain in communication (relationship), see how these pains are produced, see how our inner emotions affect and restrict our lives, and find the root cause.
The third level: help us gradually change the causes of pain and find solutions. From the fear of pain, our hearts gradually face the pain, eliminate the pain, and gradually really liberate our hearts. At the bottom of the pain, there is our real desire. When we experience pain, we will feel and experience the direction we really want to go, and find the meaning of life and live a wonderful life!
On this basis, the emotional counselor can not only make everyone feel less uncomfortable, but also guide everyone to gradually have the space to face specific problems after relaxing inside, and gradually see the real reason for the birth of inner discomfort and the root of the pain we usually feel. Look at how pain itself works, how it affects our basic principles, and understand how pain works. Seeing the principle and truth of pain operation, this may not be the function of emotional counselor generally considered in society, but the emotional counselor I understand and want in my mind.
When we see how pain affects our principles, find the root of pain, and see that pain itself can be solved, then hope will really be born in people's hearts. I think this value is too big. What is more valuable than giving people hope for life? In life, many of us feel that life is too painful. We avoid it unconsciously, or just don't want to face it, because the feeling of pain is too real. It seems that many times, our collective unconscious deeply thinks that it can't face the pain, the pain can't be resolved, and there is a deep despair and helplessness.
The professional mission of emotional counselors, I think, may be to convey the truth of pain to everyone: pain itself has its operating principle, and pain itself is also a way out, a way out! The real purpose of painful things is not to make us miserable, but to remind us that there may be something wrong, so that we can find the reason and solve the pain.
In this world, the inner pain has been basically solved, and nothing seems to be insoluble. Personally, I feel that in the past two years, I have been experiencing how to help myself alleviate my inner pain, and I have also seen teachers helping other partners to alleviate their inner pain and fate. I find it seems that if we understand these things, the original power of life will naturally come out! When we channel the pain in our hearts, a person's life state will be really different, and the shock inside life will begin to be born! Everyone will start to have the motivation to do many things, so life will start to be completely different! This is really the life state that I yearn for and yearn for most, and it is also the value that I want to create most.