Teaching plan of "puppy love" psychological lecture
Objective: In view of the fact that modern middle school students are influenced by the social environment and limited by their own physical and mental development, they don't have a clear understanding of emotions, especially those between students of the opposite sex, and some of them will affect their studies and even go astray. In order to help students better understand and control their emotions, this special lecture is specially given to the whole school.
Form: broadcast
Target audience: all students
Time: 20 10, 10, 16, the third quarter in the afternoon.
Hello, classmates! I am Mr. Yang, the school's psychological counseling teacher. Today, I will discuss the issue of heterosexual communication and puppy love with my classmates.
(A) to guide students to do deep breathing training, relax, so that students can listen to the radio in a comfortable and relaxed state.
After a day of class, everyone should be tired. Now you can move your neck and waist freely and relax your tense muscles. . . . All right! Now sit in a comfortable position, legs apart, hands hanging down naturally or on the abdomen. Let's do some deep breathing exercises. When we are nervous and anxious, we can take a deep breath to calm our emotions. Now we close our eyes, the classroom is quiet and we sit comfortably. We began to take a long breath slowly, and the inhaled gas slowly filled our abdomen, imagining a balloon full of air. Now hold your breath and exhale slowly through your nose. When exhaling, slowly contract your abdomen and imagine a balloon deflating. Down, we repeat several breaths, slowly inhale (abdomen)-hold your breath-slowly exhale (abdomen). Once again, breathe-breathe-we breathe in fresh air and exhale turbid air. All right! Now let's open our eyes. Start listening to the teacher attentively.
(2) Introduce the function and nature of psychological consultation room, and encourage students to discuss some psychological problems with psychological teachers.
First of all, introduce the psychological counseling room of our school to the students. The psychological counseling room is located on the second floor of the school complex. Every day, a psychological teacher is on duty in the consulting room to provide students with special psychological services. The name of the consulting room is "station agent". The teacher hopes to be an agent in our post office, which can help you overcome all kinds of difficulties, adjust your mood and grow up happily and healthily. If you have any troubles, you can always come to the psychological teacher, whether academically or emotionally, whether at school or at home. Please rest assured that the conversation with the teacher is absolutely confidential, which is an important principle of psychological counseling.
(C) into the theme of broadcasting
Lead: Why do we carry out the analysis of teenagers' communication with the opposite sex and puppy love at this time?
Enter our topic today, an analysis of heterosexual communication and puppy love in adolescence. According to the teacher, some students in our school have fallen in love, which has affected their study. Teachers and school leaders are very worried about this. In order to help you get out of your confusion and get through this dangerous period of your life safely, the teacher felt it necessary to have this radio conversation with your classmates.
Characteristics of heterosexual communication in adolescence: 1) hazy feeling towards the opposite sex; 2) Seeking sexual knowledge; 3) Full of contradictions and puzzles, let students understand that mutual attraction between the sexes is a normal psychological phenomenon.
Students, now we are in a special period-adolescence, which is an important stage in life, making teenagers transition to youth. Normal heterosexual communication is beneficial to our physical and mental development, and teachers support it. But if it goes beyond normal communication and develops into puppy love, its harm is enormous. What do we think of the opposite sex in adolescence? How to deal with gender relations? Have you already felt the attraction from the opposite sex? In fact, these contents belong to the content of sexual psychological development. So, what are the characteristics of teenagers' communication with the opposite sex?
Yes, we have a hazy feeling about the opposite sex. Psychologist haylock believes that there are four stages in the development of adolescent sexual psychology.
One is the aversion period of alienating the opposite sex; The second is to yearn for the "calf period" of the older opposite sex; The third is the enthusiasm period of actively approaching the opposite sex; The fourth is the formal romantic love period. What period do you think we are in now? Of course, we are now in the frenzy of actively approaching the opposite sex. I am eager to communicate with the opposite sex and get the care and understanding of the opposite sex. However, this feeling is immature, just a vague attachment and yearning for the opposite sex. It is impossible to have a deep and lasting love, and it is extremely impossible to develop into a one-on-one lifelong partner love based on family and responsibility.
Another feature of communication with the opposite sex is the pursuit of sexual knowledge. As you are in adolescence, you have noticed all kinds of signs and changes of your sexual maturity, and you have a strong curiosity about sex, eager to understand sex to solve doubts. Because of the bondage of tradition, parents and teachers are often silent about this knowledge, so in order to get all kinds of answers about sex, you will get them from friends, books, movies, TV, internet and other media. So it is easy to be eroded by all kinds of unscientific and unhealthy sexual knowledge. In adolescence, your control ability is poor, you are easy to imitate and try, and you often make surprising moves.
The psychological development of teenagers is full of contradictions. For example, for the appearance of the second sexual characteristic, you want to show, be shy, ask and keep many secrets in your heart, but at the same time you feel lonely and eager to be understood by the opposite sex. Students living in dormitories, in particular, lack the care and love of their families, and are more eager to find someone to talk to. There are also some students who seem stiff and indifferent in front of the opposite sex, but actually care about their impressions in front of the opposite sex. Therefore, some students like to dress up and attract attention, and even use pranks to attract the attention of the opposite sex. Do you like singing love songs? Do you copy love songs? We must also "pair" the students around us, saying who is a pair with whom? Even write a note directly to the opposite sex? You are happy and at a loss about this! Is that so?
In fact, this is just a natural attraction to the opposite sex. I like to associate with the opposite sex, I am willing to attract the attention of the opposite sex, and I pay attention to my impression in front of the opposite sex. These are all very normal psychological development, which is a good thing. It is not puppy love for boys and girls to chat and discuss problems together. Having boys and girls is not only a normal psychological need, but also a necessity. Here, the teacher tells you a story: there is a devout Christian who wants to train his son to be like him-to believe in God wholeheartedly without any other interference. So he isolated his son from the outside world and avoided all temptations. When the son grows to 16 years old, he thinks of nothing but God. The father thought: It seems that my son has successfully cultivated and can be released. One day, he took his son into town and saw the outside world for the first time. His son can't react at the moment and is very slow. But when he saw a woman, his son's eyes lit up and asked his father, "Dad, what is this?" Father said unhappily, "Green Goose." When he came home at night, the father asked his son, "What do you want to buy?" The son said without hesitation, "I want to buy a' green goose'."
What does this story tell us? It is a natural psychological need for the opposite sex to attract each other.
How to distinguish friendship from love: five indicators put forward by Japanese psychologists
But if you tear off that mysterious veil, show your heart to each other, date alone, or even have close physical contact, it is beyond the normal communication between boys and girls, that is, puppy love.
How to analyze friendship and love? Five indicators put forward by Japanese psychologists, you can compare them and check whether your relationship with the opposite sex belongs to puppy love. First, friendship is based on understanding, and love is based on feelings. Second, friendship is equal to each other, but love is unequal. Third, friendship is open, you can have a good friend, while love is closed, exclusive and must be one-on-one. Fourth, based on friendship and trust, love is entangled with anxiety and easy to be jealous. Fifth, in the state of mind, friendship is full and love is full of lack. The moment I left, I always felt something was missing. Students, according to this standard, have you judged whether your relationship with the opposite sex is friendship or romance?
How to treat puppy love correctly 1? The characteristics and harm of puppy love; Second, when we are in puppy love, we don't understand love; Third, adhere to the learning principle and strengthen self-control.
How to treat puppy love correctly? Puppy love is a kind of love behavior that teenagers should not have during their study. Affect physical and mental health and study.
The following is a diary of a middle school student, describing the hazy and strong feelings of adolescence. I read this diary in order to let my classmates know more about the feeling of puppy love. The diary reads like this: "Ah, when my finger accidentally touched her finger, when our feet met under the table, my blood was boiling all over!" " When I first moved here, it was like avoiding fire, and my heart was in a mess. How painful this meticulous contact made me, as well as her ignorance, her playfulness, her ignorance, and even when she talked about happiness, she put her hand on mine, and I felt as if I had been electrocuted. . . . But after a summer vacation, when I was with her, I sat at the same table, holding hands and touching my feet, but I didn't feel the burning electric shock of last semester at all. Why? "
What does this diary say? He fully explained one of the characteristics of "puppy love"-"hurry to come, hurry to go", which is easily affected by external conditions and disappears. If we think this is true love, eternal and lifelong, it is all wet. This feeling is short-lived and will soon disappear.
Another feature of puppy love is rebellion. You are very independent in adolescence and don't like being interfered and controlled. The more teachers and parents interfere with your feelings and suppress your feelings by violence, the more you have to confront them, and the more you have to associate with the so-called "sweetheart"; On the contrary, if you understand and care about you, you will weigh your own gains and losses and concentrate on your studies. Right? So we shouldn't be angry with our parents and teachers, and don't make fun of our study.
The biggest harm of puppy love is blindness. Compared with adults, you are still naive. I wonder if you admit this? At this time, your pursuit of the opposite sex is more concerned with whether the appearance is beautiful or not, and whether there is style? Or if it's cool. So many beautiful girls and cool boys will be more popular. Some students learn to smoke and dress up in order to be "fashionable" and "dignified" in public. Making friends and "putting on airs" costs money. If they can't get enough money from home, they may develop into theft. Once there is a "third party" involved, it is more likely to quarrel and quarrel. Because of "making friends" and "falling in love" in public, coupled with young age and lack of knowledge, experience and reason, once seduced by bad people, it is easy to be deceived, ranging from neglecting one's studies to being dragged into the water, violating the law and discipline, falling into a wrong path, and even falling into a broken jar.
Last year, two boys from a school in our city took several female classmates to sing in a karaoke bar, and there were also several social youths present. As a result, young people drugged alcohol, female students were raped and male students were expelled from school. The blindness of puppy love is extremely harmful.
How to treat puppy love correctly? One thing we must understand is that we are not suitable for dating now, and we don't understand love yet.
Emotion is a holy spirit, which can take root and sprout in the same sex and blossom and bear fruit in the opposite sex. Good feelings can dispel the gap between people, and sincere friendship will dye away the desert of the soul.
The teacher knows very well that when boys and girls are born together, it will inevitably lead to the agitation of youth and the trembling of the soul, and even a vague love and longing will sprout. Each other's hearts will play beautiful harmony and decorate the road of youth more beautifully. However, once the hazy love turns into clouds, rain, even hail and lightning, we can't stand it like seedlings when we first arrive. Love is still too early for us.
There are a pair of junior high school students around us, turning the longing and obscurity of the opposite sex in adolescence into a tragedy. This is a real tragedy. The hero and heroine in the tragedy are a pair of junior high school students. The male and female students have been in love since junior high school. Because they live on campus and have no parental control, they are even more unscrupulous. As a result, the female classmate got pregnant. When she was found out, she was pregnant for four or five months. The doctor said she couldn't abort the fetus. Later, after discussion, the parents of both sides decided to let the two boys and girls get married. In this way, both of them dropped out of school and went home to get married and have children. They are only fourteen or fifteen years old, and they are going to be parents. It's incredible. If you were them, would you accept such a life?
In the budding season of youth, a girl from Seeds of Love fell in love with a boy. The beginning of love is always beautiful, and there are always endless words together. I naively thought that love can stimulate the enthusiasm for learning, but in the end it always backfired. My mind is full of each other's voices and smiles all day, frequent letters and diaries, frequent telephone calls and frequent appointments, and I can no longer settle down to study, so that my grades have plummeted. From top to bottom, even in the noise of discussion, I may not be able to stand the same eyes of others. This kind of thing often happens around us. Can students get some inspiration from it?
The harm of puppy love is unexpected, and you simply can't bear the consequences of this inappropriate behavior. So how to avoid puppy love? The teacher is here to give you some advice.
First of all, we should realize that we are students and our main task is to study. College entrance examination is our goal. We must fight for it and be responsible for our future. It's too early to fall in love.
Secondly, we should know more about our family and parents, don't live up to their expectations, study hard and repay them with our excellent results.
When you feel stressed in your study, you can take a deep breath to relax, or run on the playground to release the pressure. When you feel lonely and depressed and need to talk to the opposite sex, you should pay attention to the following points:
1, boys and girls should avoid being alone, don't date at night, and don't go in and out of some adult entertainment places.
2, boys should respect girls, girls should lead an honest and clean life, avoid physical contact, shoulder to shoulder is easy to cause misunderstanding.
3. For some dates with wild desires, you must politely refuse, so as not to let the other party have a chance.
Conclusion: Adolescence is an important period of life. At this time, we are full of vigor and vitality, which enables us to grow up in knowledge and body. I hope that students can get out of the hazy confusion of communication with the opposite sex and grow up healthily and happily. I believe tomorrow will be better. Finally, the teacher sent you a poem, wishing the students academic progress and a happy mood!
Puppy love/love made of water/will evaporate when it is hot/he can't walk through summer/
The temptation and deception of appearance/the yearning and innocence of youth/Cupid's golden arrow/Venus's acacia belt/cutting into pieces/
He is a fig/no bright flowers/only bitter fruit/life/bland/heavy with this pen/ambitious/might as well let him go hazy/leave warm memories/
Teachers have also experienced adolescence. They understand you and are more willing to help you. I hope you can learn something from this broadcast speech. If you have any confusion, please take the initiative to come to the station manager and discuss with your teacher. Look forward to your visit, thank you!